Chaos to Connected - Helping Parents Navigate Challenging Behavior with Connection; Christian moms, behavior management, positive parenting, discipline, tantrums, aggression, biblical parenting
Inside this podcast you will find episodes filled with tips, tools & strategies, perspective shifts, and biblical truth to help you throughout your motherhood journey, navigating your child's behavior and your own triggers. Most of what I share is going to go against your natural responses and what mainstream will tell you to do, but that is because it includes what most of society is missing when they look at children and their behavior…CONNECTION. It is a vital necessity for all of us to operate out of our thinking brains and use logic, problem solving, reasoning, judgment, and impulse control, specifically when it comes to our responses and behaviors. While these strategies can be implemented for all ages, I focus primarily on 1-10 year olds since that is what I have most personal and professional experience with.
If you want to stop feeling overwhelmed, stuck, and on the verge of your breaking point and truly make shifts in your parenting, your actions, thoughts, and responses, to gain more clarity, peace, and joy in your home, then let’s get to it!
P.S. I know it can feel hard to step into the unknown, especially because you feel like you’ve tried it all, and honestly sometimes it feels easier to stay in a harder place because it’s familiar. But it’s not what God has for you or your child(ren). So take a minute, breathe deeply, and then join me as we jump into managing behaviors with connection!
XO Kaili
Connect with me: kjzeiher@gmail.com
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Episodes
Jan 13, 2023
Jan 13, 2023
10 min
As a parent who is regularly dealing with a child's behaviors, especially if it is one child in particular, it can become really easy to get stuck in certain patterning or habits around our responses to said child. Often it becomes just an automatic response and without recognizing it we can be actually adding more stress and disconnection to our relationship with our child.
Tune in today to find out if this is something you've been unknowingly struggling with and start to increase your awareness to bring change! Plus, you'll get a peek inside to how this happened to me too!
Special Time ebook & Tame Your Triggers Audio have both been upgraded to MELTDOWN MANAGEMENT Mini Training! Get it here → https://view.flodesk.com/pages/64406aa91df9ae473e5a55e3
Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/ or https://www.facebook.com/kaili.schwirtz
If you are struggling to find strategies that help correct the challenging behaviors you are walking through and are ready to establish a Behavior Blueprint with a step by step plan of exactly what to do, then DM me over on IG or send me an email at kjzeiher@gmail.com and let's connect!
XO
Kaili
Jan 10, 2023
Jan 10, 2023
23 min
It can be really hard to see the good in behavior, especially when society conditions us otherwise.
We are taught to ignore and punish the behavior we want to go away and reward the behavior we desire. But this often gets us stuck in a trap of always having to manage and manipulate the behaviors.
As I look back on our journey and the intensity of the behaviors plus the immense weariness, exhaustion, and overwhelm that I felt as a mom trying to figure out how to make changes and get the results we needed, I can truly say I'm thankful for the behaviors. Our life has drastically changed and it would not have if this wouldn't have been our story.
With the new year, maybe your child was home for longer periods of time than you are used to or maybe you're in a season of struggle, no matter where you're at, I want you to start seeing the behavior as COMMUNICATION and as BLESSING.
Tune in as I walk you through 10 reasons why I believe we can actually start viewing behavior from the perspective of blessing.
Special Time ebook & Tame Your Triggers Audio have both been upgraded to MELTDOWN MANAGEMENT Mini Training! Get it here → https://view.flodesk.com/pages/64406aa91df9ae473e5a55e3
Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/ or https://www.facebook.com/kaili.schwirtz
Ep 3 on Play Listening: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/chaos-to-connected-behavior-management-parent-coach/id1609008872?i=1000552210188
Ep 23 Are no tantrums really better? https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/chaos-to-connected-behavior-management-parent-coach/id1609008872?i=1000566360479
If you are struggling to find strategies that help correct the challenging behaviors you are walking through and are ready to establish a Behavior Blueprint with a step by step plan of exactly what to do, then DM me over on IG or send me an email at kjzeiher@gmail.com and let's connect!
XO
Kaili
Jan 5, 2023
Jan 5, 2023
16 min
Truthfully, I LOVE to use play to get cooperation from my kids, particularly when it is a task they don’t want to do or are struggling to accomplish (like brushing teeth, changing clothes, etc.) and/or when I have less energy, patience and capacity for a large meltdown.
However, there is one strategy I haven’t shared a lot on yet that I think is vital in the growing obedience of our children.
I have heard a lot of people dinging gentle parenting lately, and while I believe I share more connection focused parenting I do think it falls under the gentle parenting umbrella, and I think it’s because a lot of people see it as being passive.
I believe it is just the opposite. Recognizing that there are limits that need to be set and boundaries that need to be held, but that it is actually possible to do it in a calm and connected way.
I also think that as parents try to learn how to navigate being a gentle parent, it can be hard not to get into a mode of persuasiveness or passiveness, unintentionally. And I do believe that this contributes to a child’s disobedience or delayed obedience.
Tune in as I dive deeper into what this looks like and how to utilize setting limits in a connected way to gain your child’s respect and obedience without coercion, punishment, persuading, or bribing.
Special Time ebook & Tame Your Triggers Audio have both been upgraded to MELTDOWN MANAGEMENT Mini Training! Get it here → https://view.flodesk.com/pages/64406aa91df9ae473e5a55e3
Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/ or https://www.facebook.com/kaili.schwirtz
Ep 50 on counting to 3: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/chaos-to-connected-behavior-management-parent-coach/id1609008872?i=1000579676906
Ep 20 on 3 ways we unintentionally stop the release of big feelings: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/chaos-to-connected-behavior-management-parent-coach/id1609008872?i=1000565110255
Ep 58 on using nuk, sucking thumb, comfort items and when: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/chaos-to-connected-behavior-management-parent-coach/id1609008872?i=1000582650398
If you are struggling to find strategies that help correct the challenging behaviors you are walking through and are ready to establish a Behavior Blueprint with a step by step plan of exactly what to do, then DM me over on IG or send me an email at kjzeiher@gmail.com and let's connect!
XO
Kaili
Jan 2, 2023
Jan 2, 2023
9 min
Have you seen the opinions shared around social media on gentle parenting? If you have, then you know it's not pleasant.
I've heard things like, gentle parenting is unbiblical or kids who have been raised this way grow up to be disrespectful or have more difficulty obeying authority.
Today, I address this question because I think people often mistake gentle for passive and they are 2 completely different things. I also share with you 5 unique traits I think this style of parenting has to offer.
I'd love to hear your thoughts!
Special Time ebook & Tame Your Triggers Audio have both been upgraded to MELTDOWN MANAGEMENT Mini Training! Get it here → https://view.flodesk.com/pages/64406aa91df9ae473e5a55e3
Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/ or https://www.facebook.com/kaili.schwirtz
If you are struggling to find strategies that help correct the challenging behaviors you are walking through and are ready to establish a Behavior Blueprint with a step by step plan of exactly what to do, then DM me over on IG or send me an email at kjzeiher@gmail.com and let's connect!
XO
Kaili
Dec 29, 2022
Dec 29, 2022
14 min
Since the New Year is upon us, most of us tend to think of resolutions or goals that we would like to accomplish in the new year.
This simple activity can often become overwhelming because it tends to snowball into several goals across multiple areas resulting in a lot to remember and try to cram in.
Today, I'm sharing some encouragement and advice so you can head into the new year feeling empowered to start making little steps of change with your child's behavior and/or your ability to stay calm during the tantrums!
Special Time ebook & Tame Your Triggers Audio have both been upgraded to MELTDOWN MANAGEMENT Mini Training! Get it here → https://view.flodesk.com/pages/64406aa91df9ae473e5a55e3
Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/ or https://www.facebook.com/kaili.schwirtz
If you are struggling to find strategies that help correct the challenging behaviors you are walking through and are ready to establish a Behavior Blueprint with a step by step plan of exactly what to do, then DM me over on IG or send me an email at kjzeiher@gmail.com and let's connect!
XO
Kaili
Dec 26, 2022
Dec 26, 2022
13 min
As the holidays are wrapping up, kids are still home from school and the weather isn't the best (at least here in MN), it can create the perfect environment for kids to get on your last nerve...to push those exact buttons that trigger you into frustration and impatience.
Today, I chat about 3 simple things you can incorporate immediately to help save your sanity and give your kids what they are looking for!
If you have felt encouraged by this episode (or another one), I'd love if you'd be willing to take just one minute to scroll down and leave a rating/review + share with another mom/caregiver/friend that could use some help with understanding their child's behavior, managing it with connection AND learning to manage their own triggers. I'm so grateful you're here!
Special Time ebook & Tame Your Triggers Audio have both been upgraded to MELTDOWN MANAGEMENT Mini Training! Get it here → https://view.flodesk.com/pages/64406aa91df9ae473e5a55e3
Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/ or https://www.facebook.com/kaili.schwirtz
Episode on Special Time: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/chaos-to-connected-behavior-management-parent-coach/id1609008872#episodeGuid=kjzeiher.podbean.com%2F54e66b44-06dd-3cc2-8415-ef33cf170549
If you are struggling to find strategies that help correct the challenging behaviors you are walking through and are ready to establish a Behavior Blueprint with a step by step plan of exactly what to do, then DM me over on IG or send me an email at kjzeiher@gmail.com and let's connect!
XO
Kaili
Dec 22, 2022
Dec 22, 2022
36 min
Today, I'm answering your most recent questions!
Topics include:
*jealousy
*picky eating
*potty training
*poor personal space/body awareness
*getting rid of the nuk
Special Time ebook & Tame Your Triggers Audio have both been upgraded to MELTDOWN MANAGEMENT Mini Training! Get it here → https://view.flodesk.com/pages/64406aa91df9ae473e5a55e3
Episode on Stay Listening: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/chaos-to-connected-behavior-management-parent-coach/id1609008872?i=1000554474011
Episode on Special Time: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/chaos-to-connected-behavior-management-parent-coach/id1609008872#episodeGuid=kjzeiher.podbean.com%2F54e66b44-06dd-3cc2-8415-ef33cf170549
Episode on Play Listening: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/chaos-to-connected-behavior-management-parent-coach/id1609008872?i=1000552210188
Episode on 3 ways we unintentionally stop the crying: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/chaos-to-connected-behavior-management-parent-coach/id1609008872?i=1000565110255
Episode on when you feel bad about the crying: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/chaos-to-connected-behavior-management-parent-coach/id1609008872?i=1000576630552
Episode on getting rid of the nuk: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/chaos-to-connected-behavior-management-parent-coach/id1609008872?i=1000582650398
Episode on difficulty with bedtime: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/chaos-to-connected-behavior-management-parent-coach/id1609008872?i=1000553704107
Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/ or https://www.facebook.com/kaili.schwirtz
If you are struggling to find strategies that help correct the challenging behaviors you are walking through and are ready to establish a Behavior Blueprint with a step by step plan of exactly what to do, then DM me over on IG or send me an email at kjzeiher@gmail.com and let's connect!
XO
Kaili
Dec 19, 2022
Dec 19, 2022
23 min
Do you ever feel stressed during holidays? Birthdays? Random gatherings throughout the year?
Now imagine your child, who has less life experience, less understanding of what's going on and why, and less prefrontal cortex (judgement, problem solving, reasoning) development trying to navigate the hustle and bustle of the season.
Of course it is fun and exciting, but overwhelm and over-stimulation can also easily occur. This throws your child into a state of dys-regulation and increases the behaviors you are seeing. Often this makes it more challenging to stay calm, especially when your stress is already also heightened, and you likely respond in a way you wouldn't necessarily prefer. This feeds into the mom guilt.
Let's stop that cycle from repeating over and over again! Today, I want to bring your awareness to simple, yet super effective ways you can help your child (and you) participate in all the holiday things without all the holiday drama!
Special Time ebook & Tame Your Triggers Audio have both been upgraded to MELTDOWN MANAGEMENT Mini Training! Get it here → https://view.flodesk.com/pages/64406aa91df9ae473e5a55e3
Episode on the Spoiled Outing: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/chaos-to-connected-behavior-management-parent-coach/id1609008872?i=1000588515996
Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/
If you are struggling to find strategies that help correct the challenging behaviors you are walking through and are ready to establish a Behavior Blueprint with a step by step plan of exactly what to do, then DM me over on IG or send me an email at kjzeiher@gmail.com and let's connect!
XO
Kaili
Dec 16, 2022
Dec 16, 2022
17 min
Does your child struggle with his/her quick response to anger which often quickly transitions to hitting, kicking, biting, or throwing? Or do you have a child with poor safety awareness who tends to run away when let free?
Then your child is likely struggling with impulse (or self) control.
Today, I give you 3 strategies to help your child grow in this area!
Special Time ebook & Tame Your Triggers Audio have both been upgraded to MELTDOWN MANAGEMENT Mini Training! Get it here → https://view.flodesk.com/pages/64406aa91df9ae473e5a55e3
If you are struggling to find strategies that help correct the challenging behaviors you are walking through and are ready to establish a Behavior Blueprint with a step by step plan of exactly what to do, then DM me over on IG or send me an email at kjzeiher@gmail.com and let's connect!
Episode on calming strategies and spaces: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/chaos-to-connected-behavior-management-parent-coach/id1609008872?i=1000569255920
Episode on self-regulation programs: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/chaos-to-connected-behavior-management-parent-coach/id1609008872?i=1000582274339
Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/
XO
Kaili
Dec 13, 2022
Dec 13, 2022
12 min
Does your child tend to cry or have more meltdowns with you than your spouse? Are you getting to the end of the day wondering what you're doing wrong?
The truth...
You aren't doing anything wrong! In fact, you are doing a lot of things right! Tune in today to hear why this should actually be viewed as a positive thing + one simple routine you can get into the habit of to help!
Special Time ebook & Tame Your Triggers Audio have both been upgraded to MELTDOWN MANAGEMENT Mini Training! Get it here → https://view.flodesk.com/pages/64406aa91df9ae473e5a55e3
If you are struggling to find strategies that help correct the challenging behaviors you are walking through and are ready to establish a Behavior Blueprint with a step by step plan of exactly what to do, then DM me over on IG or send me an email at kjzeiher@gmail.com and let's connect!
Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/
XO
Kaili