Chaos to Connected - Helping Parents Navigate Challenging Behavior with Connection; Christian moms, behavior management, positive parenting, discipline, tantrums, aggression, biblical parenting
Inside this podcast you will find episodes filled with tips, tools & strategies, perspective shifts, and biblical truth to help you throughout your motherhood journey, navigating your child's behavior and your own triggers. Most of what I share is going to go against your natural responses and what mainstream will tell you to do, but that is because it includes what most of society is missing when they look at children and their behavior…CONNECTION. It is a vital necessity for all of us to operate out of our thinking brains and use logic, problem solving, reasoning, judgment, and impulse control, specifically when it comes to our responses and behaviors. While these strategies can be implemented for all ages, I focus primarily on 1-10 year olds since that is what I have most personal and professional experience with.
If you want to stop feeling overwhelmed, stuck, and on the verge of your breaking point and truly make shifts in your parenting, your actions, thoughts, and responses, to gain more clarity, peace, and joy in your home, then let’s get to it!
P.S. I know it can feel hard to step into the unknown, especially because you feel like you’ve tried it all, and honestly sometimes it feels easier to stay in a harder place because it’s familiar. But it’s not what God has for you or your child(ren). So take a minute, breathe deeply, and then join me as we jump into managing behaviors with connection!
XO Kaili
Connect with me: kjzeiher@gmail.com
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Episodes
Dec 9, 2022
Dec 9, 2022
26 min
What would you do if you couldn't use consequences to change your child's behavior?
90% of our decisions are made subconsciously, like whether or not you have a strong reaction/are triggered by your child's behavior and how you respond to your child's behavior. That's staggering.
It's no wonder people often say they react just like their mom (dad, grandma, grandpa, caregiver, etc) did but yet can verbalize they don't want to be that way.
The difficulty with using consequences to try and change the way your child is behaving is that it can create MORE dysregulation with your child and MORE disconnection within you and your child's relationship.
Tune in today to hear more about consequences and my challenge for you!
Special Time ebook & Tame Your Triggers Audio have both been upgraded to MELTDOWN MANAGEMENT Mini Training! Get it here → https://view.flodesk.com/pages/64406aa91df9ae473e5a55e3
If you are struggling to find strategies that help correct the challenging behaviors you are walking through and are ready to establish a Behavior Blueprint with a step by step plan of exactly what to do, then DM me over on IG or send me an email at kjzeiher@gmail.com and let's connect!
Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/
Calming strategy and spaces episode: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/chaos-to-connected-behavior-management-parent-coach/id1609008872?i=1000569255920
XO
Kaili
Dec 6, 2022
Dec 6, 2022
18 min
"You better not pout, you better not cry"...
"He's making a list, checking it twice. He's gonna find out who's naughty or nice"...
"He sees you when you're sleeping. He knows when you're awake. He knows when you've been bad or good so be good for goodness sake."
Today, I dive into all of the issues with these lyrics, including how it can create specific negative inner dialogue about our children and their behavior/emotions, the side effects of labeling a child based on behavior, and the importance of not utilizing Santa as a behavior manipulating tool.
This may be a challenging conversation, but I encourage you to really start bringing the unconscious thoughts and the patterns that follow what's always been done/do what you're told or what makes everyone else comfortable decisions to consciousness. Pause, reflect, and then decide if you want to continue in the same way, change things slightly or complete overhaul what you are doing.
Special Time ebook & Tame Your Triggers Audio have both been upgraded to MELTDOWN MANAGEMENT Mini Training! Get it here → https://view.flodesk.com/pages/64406aa91df9ae473e5a55e3
If you are struggling to find strategies that help correct the challenging behaviors you are walking through and are ready to establish a Behavior Blueprint with a step by step plan of exactly what to do, then DM me over on IG or send me an email at kjzeiher@gmail.com and let's connect!
Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/
XO-
Kaili
Dec 2, 2022
Dec 2, 2022
17 min
Have you ever planned a really special day or outing for your child and gotten to the end of the day and your child suddenly has a meltdown or starts saying things like "you don't even like me" or "this was the worst day ever"?
This is a NORMAL reaction to a burst of connection and safety.
Join me today as I talk about what is actually happening and what you can do about it as you prepare for all of the holiday parties and festivities.
Special Time ebook & Tame Your Triggers Audio have both been upgraded to MELTDOWN MANAGEMENT Mini Training! Get it here → https://view.flodesk.com/pages/64406aa91df9ae473e5a55e3
If you are struggling to find strategies that help correct the challenging behaviors you are walking through and are ready to establish a Behavior Blueprint with a step by step plan of exactly what to do, then DM me over on IG or send me an email at kjzeiher@gmail.com and let's connect!
Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/
XO-
Kaili
Nov 29, 2022
Nov 29, 2022
25 min
Does it ever bother you how your spouse handles your child's behavior? Do you wish he/she would just stay calm instead of yell or lose their temper?
Today I chat through 5 ways we can help our spouse to begin to understand that they are being triggered and ways we, as their partner, can support them through the process of resolution.
Plus a few bonus points for you to consider if you are the spouse who is frustrated or upset at how your partner handles themselves during your child's behavior.
Special Time ebook & Tame Your Triggers Audio have both been upgraded to MELTDOWN MANAGEMENT Mini Training! Get it here → https://view.flodesk.com/pages/64406aa91df9ae473e5a55e3
If you are struggling to find strategies that help correct the challenging behaviors you are walking through and are ready to establish a Behavior Blueprint with a step by step plan of exactly what to do, then DM me over on IG or send me an email at kjzeiher@gmail.com and let's connect!
Spotify playlist of managing triggers episodes: https://open.spotify.com/playlist/0BsZ8jLqj1KR4hotG2mbhe?si=aa1d633f14dd4650
Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/
XO-
Kaili
Nov 25, 2022
Nov 25, 2022
23 min
Have you ever felt burnt out as a mom? Or overwhelmed by the behaviors and big feelings? Or exhausted from the repetitive nature of training a child and the day to day tasks that need to be done?
Then today is for you, mama! Join me as I chat why self-care is actually not the answer and 2 steps to refueling and replenishing your soul to get out of that stuck cycle.
I hope this blesses and encourages you as you walk through the trenches. You got this!
Special Time ebook & Tame Your Triggers Audio have both been upgraded to MELTDOWN MANAGEMENT Mini Training! Get it here → https://view.flodesk.com/pages/64406aa91df9ae473e5a55e3
If you are struggling to find strategies that help correct the challenging behaviors you are walking through and are ready to establish a Behavior Blueprint with a step by step plan of exactly what to do, then DM me over on IG or send me an email at kjzeiher@gmail.com and let's connect!
Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/
XO-
Kaili
Nov 22, 2022
Nov 22, 2022
24 min
Do you ever notice it is more difficult to connect with one of your children as compared to the other? Do you struggle with more challenging behaviors with one of your children while the other one seems to listen or naturally have a more calm personality?
Maybe you've never thought about the differences in connection between you and each child.
Either way, today is for you! I share how to start evaluating your connection levels with each child and 3 strategies to implement if you're finding one child may be lacking OR requiring more connection at the moment than another child.
Just as a reminder-- connection is VITAL, just like food, water, and air. It is important we are intentional about adding it to our schedules so it becomes a part of our daily habits and routines. This will help improve overall regulation, behavior, and impulse control.
Special Time ebook & Tame Your Triggers Audio have both been upgraded to MELTDOWN MANAGEMENT Mini Training! Get it here → https://view.flodesk.com/pages/64406aa91df9ae473e5a55e3
If you are struggling to find strategies that help correct the challenging behaviors you are walking through and are ready to establish a Behavior Blueprint with a step by step plan of exactly what to do, then DM me over on IG or send me an email at kjzeiher@gmail.com and let's connect!
Ep 38: When you don't want to connect: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/chaos-to-connected-behavior-management-parent-coach/id1609008872?i=1000575115576
Ep on Play Listening: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/chaos-to-connected-behavior-management-parent-coach/id1609008872?i=1000552210188
Ep on Creating a Connection Plan: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/chaos-to-connected-behavior-management-parent-coach/id1609008872?i=1000556650157
Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/
XO-
Kaili
Nov 18, 2022
Nov 18, 2022
10 min
As your child grows older, it is natural to give more choices. Allowing them to pick out their outfit or what fruit will be in their school lunch gives them more independence and it can be really fun to get a peak into their thought processes and preferences.
However, I think sometimes we inject more choices when there is increasing behavior and likelihood for a meltdown. In these situations, I believe adding more choices can actually be counterproductive.
Join me today as I chat through why that is and what you can do instead.
Special Time ebook & Tame Your Triggers Audio have both been upgraded to MELTDOWN MANAGEMENT Mini Training! Get it here → https://view.flodesk.com/pages/64406aa91df9ae473e5a55e3
If you are struggling to find strategies that help correct the challenging behaviors you are walking through and are ready to establish a Behavior Blueprint with a step by step plan of exactly what to do, then DM me over on IG or send me an email at kjzeiher@gmail.com and let's connect!
Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/
XO-
Kaili
Nov 15, 2022
Nov 15, 2022
10 min
Have you ever been triggered by your kid's behavior?
If you said no, then you must not be a parent.
Today, I want to share with you 2 things I think about when I'm triggered/reflect on after I've been triggered that have helped me immensely to effectively stay calm during a meltdown.
Fair warning, it's a little tough love but I think it will bless you!
Special Time ebook & Tame Your Triggers Audio have both been upgraded to MELTDOWN MANAGEMENT Mini Training! Get it here → https://view.flodesk.com/pages/64406aa91df9ae473e5a55e3
If you are struggling to find strategies that help correct the challenging behaviors you are walking through and are ready to establish a Behavior Blueprint with a step by step plan of exactly what to do, then DM me over on IG or send me an email at kjzeiher@gmail.com and let's connect!
Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/
XO-
Kaili
Nov 11, 2022
Nov 11, 2022
8 min
Do you ever notice your child getting frustrated easily? Maybe even during a simple task or something that they've regularly done that doesn't usually result in frustration?
Today, I share why this is occurring and 3 ways to help your child get regulated. Our natural response is usually one of attempting to problem solve and reason with/for them and that can actually perpetuate the cycle of frustration and behavior.
Special Time ebook & Tame Your Triggers Audio have both been upgraded to MELTDOWN MANAGEMENT Mini Training! Get it here → https://view.flodesk.com/pages/64406aa91df9ae473e5a55e3
If you are struggling to find strategies that help correct the challenging behaviors you are walking through and are ready to establish a Behavior Blueprint with a step by step plan of exactly what to do, then DM me over on IG or send me an email at kjzeiher@gmail.com and let's connect!
5 fun ideas that activate deep breathing: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/chaos-to-connected-behavior-management-parent-coach/id1609008872?i=1000558372222
Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/
XO-
Kaili
Nov 8, 2022
Nov 8, 2022
19 min
Have you ever heard the phrase "choose your battles"?
Today, I dive into why I think this is the wrong phrase to consider when deciding whether or not you are going to hold the limit with your child AND what you should really be choosing...
Special Time ebook & Tame Your Triggers Audio have both been upgraded to MELTDOWN MANAGEMENT Mini Training! Get it here → https://view.flodesk.com/pages/64406aa91df9ae473e5a55e3
If you are struggling to find strategies that help correct the challenging behaviors you are walking through and are ready to establish a Behavior Blueprint with a step by step plan of exactly what to do, then DM me over on IG or send me an email at kjzeiher@gmail.com and let's connect!
Special Time episode: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/chaos-to-connected-behavior-management-parent-coach/id1609008872#episodeGuid=kjzeiher.podbean.com%2F54e66b44-06dd-3cc2-8415-ef33cf170549
Stay Listening episode: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/chaos-to-connected-behavior-management-parent-coach/id1609008872?i=1000554474011
Play Listening episode: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/chaos-to-connected-behavior-management-parent-coach/id1609008872?i=1000552210188
Create a Connection Plan episode: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/chaos-to-connected-behavior-management-parent-coach/id1609008872?i=1000556650157
Simple Ways to Connect episode: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/chaos-to-connected-behavior-management-parent-coach/id1609008872?i=1000561043427
Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/
XO-
Kaili