Chaos to Connected - Helping Parents Navigate Challenging Behavior with Connection; Christian moms, behavior management, positive parenting, discipline, tantrums, aggression, biblical parenting

You’ve been learning to understand your child’s triggers and behavior and hold space for emotions but what happens when your spouse gets triggered? And doesn't respond how you want hime to? In this episode, we’re talking about how to navigate your spouse’s reactions, understand what may be happening beneath them, and respond without creating more conflict in your home.
 
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The Calm Mom Club Waitlist: https://chaostoconnected.myflodesk.com/waitlist
 
Wondering about something related to your child's behaviors, emotions, meltdowns and/or your own triggers? Ask your question(s) here! https://forms.gle/oZfWyhsNGic3G7ht8
 
Connect with me here:
IG - @calm.and.connected.motherhood
Email - kjzeiher@gmail.com
 

Hard seasons have a way of revealing what's really in our hearts. Whether you're walking through a difficult season of motherhood, feeling discouraged, or simply trying to keep your head above water, this episode is for you.
In today's conversation, I'm sharing some of the biggest lessons I've learned walking through hard seasons of motherhood, along with practical strategies, biblical encouragement, and perspective shifts that have helped me move from simply surviving to allowing it to be a time of growth in endurance and capacity for all that motherhood brings. 
In this episode, we'll cover:
Practical ways to endure hard seasons of motherhood
Perspective shifts that bring more peace and hope
Scriptures that have anchored me lately
Lessons I've learned in difficult days, stages, and seasons of motherhood
 
Wanting more support? https://linktr.ee/chaos.to.connected
 
The Calm Mom Club Waitlist: https://chaostoconnected.myflodesk.com/waitlist
 
Wondering about something related to your child's behaviors, emotions, meltdowns and/or your own triggers? Ask your question(s) here! https://forms.gle/oZfWyhsNGic3G7ht8
 
Connect with me here:
IG - @calm.and.connected.motherhood
Email - kjzeiher@gmail.com
 
 

What if your child's challenging behavior isn't just an opportunity for their growth—but yours too?
In this episode, I share why I believe there is a formula for improving behavior, despite what some Christian voices may say. We talk about why understanding child development and behavior doesn't compete with Scripture, it complements it. I also share why blanket encouragement like "you're a good mom" isn't always the message we need, and how to honestly evaluate whether we're growing or simply staying comfortable. Finally, we explore the perspective shift that has changed my own parenting: moving from asking, "God, why won't You change this?" to "God, how are You using this to change me?"
 
Wanting more support? https://linktr.ee/chaos.to.connected
 
The Calm Mom Club Waitlist: https://chaostoconnected.myflodesk.com/waitlist
 
Wondering about something related to your child's behaviors, emotions, meltdowns and/or your own triggers? Ask your question(s) here! https://forms.gle/oZfWyhsNGic3G7ht8
 
Connect with me here:
IG - @calm.and.connected.motherhood
Email - kjzeiher@gmail.com
 

My brain naturally wants to lecture when my kids are fighting or when someone misbehaves or disobeys. What I've also learned is that it doesn't work when my kids (or me) are dys-regulated. However, my brain continues to try and push me to do it in the heat of the moment...why?
Today, we are talking all about it. There are 5 main reasons I believe we do this and I'm going to shed some light on them. I also walk you through how to start shifting those habits and patterns so you don't stay stuck there - without awareness, there is no action. And without action, there is no change.
BONUS pep talk at the end - I know this work is hard and I never want to sugar coat it. But the longer I've been parenting this way, working on my own triggers and regulation, and focusing on intentional connection and conscious responses the easier it has gotten and the more fruit I've seen! And I want that for YOU too!!
 
Wanting more support? https://linktr.ee/chaos.to.connected
 
The Calm Mom Club Waitlist: https://chaostoconnected.myflodesk.com/waitlist
 
Wondering about something related to your child's behaviors, emotions, meltdowns and/or your own triggers? Ask your question(s) here! https://forms.gle/oZfWyhsNGic3G7ht8
 
Connect with me here:
IG - @calm.and.connected.motherhood
Email - kjzeiher@gmail.com
 

Do you want to avoid the public tantrum with your child so much so that you give in to more screen time than you'd like? Or rely on threats or bribes to get you through? Do you sometimes avoid going out altogether? Then today is for you! 
 
You will learn the one thing that will help drastically decrease (or remove them pretty much altogether, though I can't make promises) the public tantrums with examples from my own motherhood.
 
I address some common areas that we often overlook that can help reinforce patterns that we actually don't want and how to make adjustments today!
 
Wanting more support? https://linktr.ee/chaos.to.connected
 
Episode on How to Handle Public Tantrums: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/chaos-to-connected-helping-parents-navigate-challenging/id1609008872?i=1000627190955
 
The Calm Mom Club Waitlist: https://chaostoconnected.myflodesk.com/waitlist
 
Wondering about something related to your child's behaviors, emotions, meltdowns and/or your own triggers? Ask your question(s) here! https://forms.gle/oZfWyhsNGic3G7ht8
 
Connect with me here:
IG - @calm.and.connected.motherhood
Email - kjzeiher@gmail.com
 

If you've never heard of this "hack" it's spreading around social media like wildfire...the idea is that when your toddler/young child is having a meltdown you start shouting a random name and this distracts your child out of the meltdown.
Listen in as I share why I do NOT recommend this. I dive into reason's why that specifically relate to your child's development and emotional processing. I also share what might be happening for you as the parent if you find yourself doing this (or using other distraction methods) and what to do about it.
 
Wanting more support? https://linktr.ee/chaos.to.connected
 
The Calm Mom Club Waitlist: https://chaostoconnected.myflodesk.com/waitlist
 
Ep on Why Crying is Important: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/chaos-to-connected-helping-parents-navigate-challenging/id1609008872?i=1000554474011
 
Wondering about something related to your child's behaviors, emotions, meltdowns and/or your own triggers? Ask your question(s) here! https://forms.gle/oZfWyhsNGic3G7ht8
 
Connect with me here:
IG - https://www.instagram.com/kaili.zeiher/
Email - kjzeiher@gmail.com
 

I've shared all of my other kids' birth stories and thought I'd share Lylah's. You can listen to the other ones here:
Luella's: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/chaos-to-connected-helping-parents-navigate-challenging/id1609008872?i=1000632069769
 
Huxton's: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/chaos-to-connected-helping-parents-navigate-challenging/id1609008872?i=1000600263314
 
Myles': https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/chaos-to-connected-helping-parents-navigate-challenging/id1609008872?i=1000595792704
 
Wondering about something related to your child's behaviors, emotions, meltdowns and/or your own triggers? Ask your question(s) here! https://forms.gle/oZfWyhsNGic3G7ht8
 
Connect with me here:
IG - https://www.instagram.com/kaili.zeiher/
Email - kjzeiher@gmail.com
 

Triggers have deep roots because they are a set of patterns that have been repeatedly enforced throughout your life, but there are a few other things that I think contribute to how frequently we are triggered and how easily frustrated we can become as moms to little kids.
Today, I dive into one thing that I think is incredibly important to assess and reflect on that can significantly impact how we are showing up as moms and the level of overstimulation we are feeling.
This conversation will also help you to go deeper into the thought processes you may not even know you have. And listen until the very end because I'm going to give you some specific questions to practically help you make some adjustments if needed!
 
Wanting more support? https://linktr.ee/chaos.to.connected
 
Wondering about something related to your child's behaviors, emotions, meltdowns and/or your own triggers? Ask your question(s) here! https://forms.gle/oZfWyhsNGic3G7ht8
 
Connect with me here:
IG - https://www.instagram.com/kaili.zeiher/
Email - kjzeiher@gmail.com
 

I’m so excited to be BACK!!!
 
Today, I’m sharing why I’m back and how the podcast will be shifting slightly.
 
If you’ve enjoyed the podcast/previous episodes I would love if you would be willing to scroll to the bottom of the show and submit a rating and review! This will help other moms find the behavior help they are looking for and grow our community 🙂
 
If you have questions about 1:1 coaching, let’s connect and chat about what that looks like! It is very mom friendly because I know what it’s like to need and want help but also be in a busy season. You CAN have both!
 
My Background/Story of how I got here: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/chaos-to-connected-helping-parents-navigate-challenging/id1609008872?i=1000577082308
 
Wondering about something related to your child's behaviors, emotions, meltdowns and/or your own triggers? Ask your question(s) here! https://forms.gle/oZfWyhsNGic3G7ht8
 
Connect with me here:
IG - https://www.instagram.com/kaili.zeiher/
Email - kjzeiher@gmail.com
 

I have been really deeply reflecting on my more challenging parenting days lately and even thinking back to when I was really struggling with my oldest to determine what is one of the main contributing factors to both. And what I've discovered is that in both instances I have had expectations that went unmet. 
These expectations weren't inappropriate or unrealistic for my child's age, however, it was unattainable at the place we were currently at. 
Today, I share the #1 way you can assess if your expectations are aligning with your child's current skill level/ability and if not, what you can do about it.
 
Special Time Episode: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/chaos-to-connected-helping-parents-navigate-challenging/id1609008872?i=1000550595812
 
1:1 coaching options, free resources, and courses: https://stan.store/KJZ112815
 
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