Chaos to Connected - Helping Parents Navigate Challenging Behavior with Connection; motherhood, toddler tantrum, behavior, conscious parenting, gentle parenting, pediatric occupational therapy

Are you tired of struggling to figure out what to do about your child’s behavior? Do you feel exhausted and frustrated trying to manage your own triggers while at the same time trying to calm your child down and feel like nothing is working? Do you feel guilty after losing your cool 15 minutes into a tantrum and wonder if you’re doing this whole motherhood thing right? Are you wishing there was something that would just work consistently to get your child to listen? Hi, I’m Kaili, pediatric occupational therapist and momma to 2 energetic boys and I’m so grateful you are here! I remember what it felt like to struggle with my son’s aggressive behavior. I felt alone. I felt like no one else I knew was going through the same things or could understand what I was going through. And I had no idea what to do. I tried everything I could think of but nothing really seemed to work or that stuck anyway. Feeling completely overwhelmed and exhausted, like I was at the end of my rope, I found Hand in Hand parenting and I completely fell in love with the approach. It was everything I had ever dreamed motherhood would be about; training my child in a way that actually felt good and didn’t require rewards and punishments to obey and respect my authority. Plus, it focused on what the child’s behavior actually meant! Resolving things at a root cause level. What could be better than that?? Needless to say, I was hooked and after implementing the different connection focused strategies I saw more transformation than I ever thought possible. But not just in my son’s behavior, in my ability to remain calm through it all and my confidence in the approach I had chosen. No more comparison or worry of judgment. I knew this was the right path. I wanted to make sure other moms out there who were struggling just like I was, had access to this information so I completed a professionals intensive training in Hand in Hand parenting and started sharing it. Inside this podcast you will find tips, strategies, and perspective shifts to manage your child’s behavior as well as your triggers, and a constant shove outside the mainstream recommendations to utilize manipulation to change your child’s behavior. We are going to dive deep into how to implement CONNECTION, a vital necessity that the world wants to make us believe our children don’t actually need. This is the game-changing, missing link and I’m going to give you tangible steps on how to incorporate it into your daily routines and in those extra challenging moments so your home doesn’t feel like a stressful and chaotic place but rather one where feelings are welcomed, behavior is understood as communication, and joy abounds. So get comfy, I know you need a minute to take a rest after all you’ve been doing today, and join me as we jump into managing behaviors through connection! XO Kaili The Motherhood CONNECTION monthly membership: https://view.flodesk.com/emails/65977fa029eaba0244c4dd66 Connect with me: kjzeiher@gmail.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kaili.zeiher/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/kaili.schwirtz/

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Episodes

Wednesday Mar 06, 2024

It can be really easy, especially when you are parenting a child who is struggling with behavior or lots of strong emotions, to forget that your child is just a mini version of you. While life experience and higher level executive functioning skills aren't the same, the way the brain processes and responds to hurts is.
It can be easy to forget this when you are triggered from behavior so today, I want to share how parents/caregivers are more like their child than not.
 
Ep on Apologizing: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/chaos-to-connected-helping-parents-navigate-challenging/id1609008872?i=1000613660033
 
Tame Your Triggers Masterclass: https://chaostoconnected.myflodesk.com/mju18pgf63
 
Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/ or kjzeiher@gmail.com.
 
XO
Kaili
 

Wednesday Feb 28, 2024

One of the most common questions I get asked is what types of deep input activities I would recommend for a child who acts or plays aggressively (hitting, kicking, throwing, etc). Previously, I would go into detail on how to incorporate into a sensory diet, but now, through additional training and experience I recognize that this alone isn't the answer.
 
Today, I share how sensory processing works and how to bridge the gap effectively AND efficiently between the behaviors you are seeing and improved regulation!
 
*If you have any questions as to if your child has a true sensory processing disorder, email me or seek out a local OT for assessment.
 
Tame Your Triggers Masterclass: https://chaostoconnected.myflodesk.com/mju18pgf63
 
Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/ or kjzeiher@gmail.com.
 
XO
Kaili
 

Wednesday Feb 21, 2024

If you're a mom to more than one child you've probably experienced one child's excitement over a birthday while another child was less than happy about it. Having to wait for all of the attention and presents can be a big challenge for kids and it does matter how you handle it.
If you are someone that gets the other child a present too or you wonder if that's the "right" thing to do, I wanted to shed some connection focused perspective light on the situation!
 
Tame Your Triggers Masterclass: https://chaostoconnected.myflodesk.com/mju18pgf63
 
Do you want help managing your triggers in the heat of the moment: https://chaostoconnected.myflodesk.com/r49k9ws9dp
 
Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/ or kjzeiher@gmail.com.
 
XO
Kaili
 

Wednesday Feb 14, 2024

Do you ever feel like the attitudes, the whining, and the fighting sometimes just really over take your entire home?
That's how I felt 2 weeks ago. I decided something needed to change and I discovered ONE thing that makes all the difference.
We moved from constant sibling fighting, frequent whining, hitting/kicking/pinching to try and solve problems, and me feeling a lot of annoyance, anger, and frequently triggered to so much peace, more self control and regulation, and best of all more fun and enjoyment just being together!
Today I dive into what changed and how you can replicate it in your home too!
 
Do you want help managing your triggers in the heat of the moment: https://chaostoconnected.myflodesk.com/r49k9ws9dp
 
Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/ or kjzeiher@gmail.com.
 
XO
Kaili
 

Wednesday Feb 07, 2024

Last week, I asked what was the hardest thing about connection focused parenting; one of the responses I received was that when feeling exhausted it was especially hard to try to respond to behaviors positively or with connection.
 
I. Hear. That.!!!
 
Today, I wanted to share what to do if you're finding yourself in this same situation...and you might be surprised by my recommendation!
 
If this episode, or any episode you've previously listened to you has blessed or helped you, would you be willing to go and leave a rating and review on Apple Podcasts? I know mommas all over the world are searching for tangible, simple strategies to help improve behavior without using punishments, rewards, and manipulation to achieve it. Your willingness to take a minute to share will help other mommas find this information easier!
 
Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/ or kjzeiher@gmail.com.
 
XO
Kaili
 

Tuesday Jan 30, 2024

Do your kids struggle to get along? It can be really disheartening, patience testing, and frustrating when your kids just can't seem to figure out how to play together for 5 minutes!
But the good news?! You can help! Today, I dive into 3 keys to approaching sibling conflict in a connection focused way that will help model and reinforce this approach for them in future scenarios that involve disagreements!
 
If you have found this episode, or any episode, helpful, I'd love if you'd be willing to take just 1 minute and go leave a rating or review!
 
Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/ or kjzeiher@gmail.com.
 
XO
Kaili
 

Wednesday Jan 24, 2024

There is so much out there when it comes to how you "should" respond to your child's behavior or the "right" thing to say for xyz situation. But who can remember all of that?
 
Plus, what if said account or expert never told you what to do for the specific situation you are dealing with? Let the panic set in!
 
No, don't do that.
 
Instead, listen in today as I share one piece of advice that will transcend all behaviors and situations to help you figure out what it is that feels aligned with how YOU want to manage whatever attitude or button pushing behavior comes your way! No scripts needed!
 
Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/ or kjzeiher@gmail.com.
 
XO
Kaili
 

Tuesday Jan 16, 2024

One of the biggest challenges I continue to hear over and over from moms is that the behavior can be a struggle, yes, but overall it's figuring out how to stay calm through that behavior that poses the biggest obstacle.
 
Today, I wanted to share some insights with you! If you are aware of what your triggers are but haven't yet processed them, or even know how to do that, I am walking you through the 4 things I have done (and still occasionally do) to help me come with more love, empathy, and understanding to those challenging and button pushing behaviors.
 
I was reading a book recently and the author talked about ruts and trenches. The ruts being our automatic responses; your reaction to your child (one you likely feel guilty or upset about later but can't seem to change). The trenches being your conscious choice to do something different. A rut is something you get stuck in but a trench is something you dig. Let's start digging those trenches!!
 
And if you want some help and encouragement along the way, join my monthly membership The Motherhood CONNECTION: https://view.flodesk.com/emails/65977fa029eaba0244c4dd66
 
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XO
Kaili

Tuesday Jan 09, 2024

I hosted a challenge last weekend called 3 Building Blocks to Better Behavior and it was so much fun! If you weren't able to join and you want to get the replays + resources, send me an email or DM me over on IG. Only available through January 21st!
 
Today, I wanted to share one of those trainings with you because I think it's a key factor in your child's ability to learn to self-regulate (well, they all are, but this one I think is very misunderstood). 
 
Tune in as I walk you through the progression of a child learning to regulate and how you can actually, successfully begin the process of teaching your child how to adjust his/her regulation based on state of arousal and taking into consideration his/her unique sensory preferences.
 
The Motherhood CONNECTION: a monthly membership for moms who want to break generational patterning, parent from connection, and have the support of other moms in the trenches. (first 10 receive a FREE behavior strategy call; $50 off through January 31st!) https://view.flodesk.com/emails/65977fa029eaba0244c4dd66
 
Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/ or kjzeiher@gmail.com.
 
XO
Kaili
 

Wednesday Jan 03, 2024

Happy New Year! 
 
Even though everyone is talking about goals and resolutions for the new year I do think it's a great natural time to evaluate a few things in motherhood...
 
*how do you feel like you're managing your triggers?
*are you feeling overwhelmed, emotionally exhausted, and/or struggling regularly with more frustration than enjoyment in motherhood?
*is your child struggling with behavior or attitude?
*do you feel like you are connecting regularly with your child? or is it lacking because your schedule is really busy?
*does your home feel chaotic?
*do you feel like you have good rhythms in place?
*are you regularly practicing soul care vs only selfcare?
 
Tune in today as I chat what we are going to be focusing on this year!
 
Free 3 Day Behavior Challenge: https://lively-acorn-593.myflodesk.com/v2dcr5625t
 
Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/ or kjzeiher@gmail.com.
 
XO
Kaili
 

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