Chaos to Connected - Helping Parents Navigate Challenging Behavior with Connection; Christian moms, behavior management, positive parenting, discipline, tantrums, aggression, biblical parenting
Inside this podcast you will find episodes filled with tips, tools & strategies, perspective shifts, and biblical truth to help you throughout your motherhood journey, navigating your child's behavior and your own triggers. Most of what I share is going to go against your natural responses and what mainstream will tell you to do, but that is because it includes what most of society is missing when they look at children and their behavior…CONNECTION. It is a vital necessity for all of us to operate out of our thinking brains and use logic, problem solving, reasoning, judgment, and impulse control, specifically when it comes to our responses and behaviors. While these strategies can be implemented for all ages, I focus primarily on 1-10 year olds since that is what I have most personal and professional experience with.
If you want to stop feeling overwhelmed, stuck, and on the verge of your breaking point and truly make shifts in your parenting, your actions, thoughts, and responses, to gain more clarity, peace, and joy in your home, then let’s get to it!
P.S. I know it can feel hard to step into the unknown, especially because you feel like you’ve tried it all, and honestly sometimes it feels easier to stay in a harder place because it’s familiar. But it’s not what God has for you or your child(ren). So take a minute, breathe deeply, and then join me as we jump into managing behaviors with connection!
XO Kaili
Connect with me: kjzeiher@gmail.com
Instagram: @kaili.zeiher
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Episodes
Nov 4, 2022
Nov 4, 2022
12 min
Does your child find it difficult to share? Do you notice your child trying to hoard his/her toys whenever another child comes over? Do you brace yourself for meltdowns when all of the kids are together because of the challenge that is sharing?
Then you're going to want to listen to this! I share more about how our natural responses could actually be increasing our child's unwillingness to share and what to do about it!
Special Time ebook & Tame Your Triggers Audio have both been upgraded to MELTDOWN MANAGEMENT Mini Training! Get it here → https://view.flodesk.com/pages/64406aa91df9ae473e5a55e3
If you are struggling to find strategies that help correct the challenging behaviors you are walking through and are ready to establish a Behavior Blueprint with a step by step plan of exactly what to do, then DM me over on IG or send me an email at kjzeiher@gmail.com and let's connect!
Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/
XO-
Kaili
Nov 1, 2022
Nov 1, 2022
16 min
Have you ever been in the position where you are with one of your children (or just in another room) and another child is screaming for you?? "Mommy, mommy, I want mommy."
And all you want to do is run in there and comfort them from whatever is causing them to cry?
Today, I want to chat about why we, as moms, should stay out of it - as long as we know our child is with a loving, supportive, calm and empathetic caregiver who can handle the big emotions.
Special Time ebook & Tame Your Triggers Audio have both been upgraded to MELTDOWN MANAGEMENT Mini Training! Get it here → https://view.flodesk.com/pages/64406aa91df9ae473e5a55e3
If you are struggling to find strategies that help correct the challenging behaviors you are walking through and are ready to establish a Behavior Blueprint with a step by step plan of exactly what to do, then DM me over on IG or send me an email at kjzeiher@gmail.com and let's connect!
Spotify playlist of managing triggers episodes: https://open.spotify.com/playlist/0BsZ8jLqj1KR4hotG2mbhe?si=aa1d633f14dd4650
Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/
XO-
Kaili
Oct 28, 2022
Oct 28, 2022
12 min
I see all too often people on the internet sharing the "ridiculous thing my toddler melted down over today" and asking others to join in.
If you've participated, no shame thrown your way. Just a new perspective. Your child's perspective.
It deeply matters what we speak about our child because those words can take root in our hearts, even if we are saying them completely innocently for "fun" or connection with other moms and impact our parenting.
Special Time ebook & Tame Your Triggers Audio have both been upgraded to MELTDOWN MANAGEMENT Mini Training! Get it here → https://view.flodesk.com/pages/64406aa91df9ae473e5a55e3
If you are struggling to find strategies that help correct the challenging behaviors you are walking through and are ready to establish a Behavior Blueprint with a step by step plan of exactly what to do, then DM me over on IG or send me an email at kjzeiher@gmail.com and let's connect!
Spotify playlist of managing triggers episodes: https://open.spotify.com/playlist/0BsZ8jLqj1KR4hotG2mbhe?si=aa1d633f14dd4650
Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/
XO-
Kaili
Oct 25, 2022
Oct 25, 2022
14 min
Did you grow up being tickled as a child?
If so, it might be something you don't even think about. Today, I want to share a (possibly) new perspective on tickling.
Did you know the laughter from tickling is reflexive aka forced and not actual laughter?
Listen in as I give you 2 tips on how to proceed.
Special Time ebook & Tame Your Triggers Audio have both been upgraded to MELTDOWN MANAGEMENT Mini Training! Get it here → https://view.flodesk.com/pages/64406aa91df9ae473e5a55e3
If you are struggling to find strategies that help correct the challenging behaviors you are walking through and are ready to establish a Behavior Blueprint with a step by step plan of exactly what to do, then DM me over on IG or send me an email at kjzeiher@gmail.com and let's connect!
Spotify playlist of managing triggers episodes: https://open.spotify.com/playlist/0BsZ8jLqj1KR4hotG2mbhe?si=aa1d633f14dd4650
Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/
XO-
Kaili
Oct 21, 2022
Oct 21, 2022
23 min
I have heard from so many of you that you understand what your triggers are but you still have difficulty managing them. And that makes complete sense. You know why?
Our brain operates largely from our subconscious so until we bring intentionality to how we manage them nothing will change. Today, I dive into one of the strategies I have used successfully to change my habits surrounding behavior triggers.
Special Time ebook & Tame Your Triggers Audio have both been upgraded to MELTDOWN MANAGEMENT Mini Training! Get it here → https://view.flodesk.com/pages/64406aa91df9ae473e5a55e3
If you are struggling to find strategies that help correct the challenging behaviors you are walking through and are ready to establish a Behavior Blueprint with a step by step plan of exactly what to do, then DM me over on IG or send me an email at kjzeiher@gmail.com and let's connect!
Spotify playlist of managing triggers episodes: https://open.spotify.com/playlist/0BsZ8jLqj1KR4hotG2mbhe?si=aa1d633f14dd4650
Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/
XO-
Kaili
Oct 18, 2022
Oct 18, 2022
14 min
Have you ever wondered if a sticker chart would help "fix" your child's behavior?
You aren't alone! It is becoming more and more popular to implement charts and stickers to encourage kids to do the things and change certain behaviors.
However, I have 4 reasons I want you to consider.
What if, instead of putting so much energy into making the sticker chart, purchasing the reward, and constant reminders/threats/bribes for the daily sticker, you used that time to create connection.
Did you know, connection actually gets at the root cause of the behavior and can resolve it? Reward charts aren't going to do that for you.
Special Time ebook & Tame Your Triggers Audio have both been upgraded to MELTDOWN MANAGEMENT Mini Training! Get it here → https://view.flodesk.com/pages/64406aa91df9ae473e5a55e3
If you are struggling to find strategies that help correct the challenging behaviors you are walking through and are ready to establish a Behavior Blueprint with a step by step plan of exactly what to do, then DM me over on IG or send me an email at kjzeiher@gmail.com and let's connect!
Spotify playlist of managing triggers episodes: https://open.spotify.com/playlist/0BsZ8jLqj1KR4hotG2mbhe?si=aa1d633f14dd4650
Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/
XO-
Kaili
Oct 14, 2022
Oct 14, 2022
14 min
Does your child use a nuk or suck his/her thumb to self-soothe?
There is absolutely nothing wrong with utilizing these strategies, however, it is important to understand how and when to implement them. Often we are using them immediately upon crying or any type of dysregulation, which is blocking the release of emotions or feelings.
If this is the case, your child is likely exhibiting more behaviors. Listen in to learn how to utilize this regulating strategy in the optimal way!
Special Time ebook & Tame Your Triggers Audio have both been upgraded to MELTDOWN MANAGEMENT Mini Training! Get it here → https://view.flodesk.com/pages/64406aa91df9ae473e5a55e3
3 ways we unintentionally stop feelings/crying: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/chaos-to-connected-behavior-management-parent-coach/id1609008872?i=1000565110255
Spotify playlist of managing triggers episodes: https://open.spotify.com/playlist/0BsZ8jLqj1KR4hotG2mbhe?si=aa1d633f14dd4650
Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/
If you are struggling to find strategies that help correct the challenging behaviors you are walking through and are ready to establish a Behavior Blueprint with a step by step plan of exactly what to do, then DM me over on IG or send me an email at kjzeiher@gmail.com and let's connect!
XO-
Kaili
Oct 11, 2022
Oct 11, 2022
28 min
You've probably become more familiar with self-regulation programs recently (zones of regulation, how does your engine run, etc) because it isn't only utilized in therapy anymore; a lot of schools are also using it.
There is nothing wrong with using these programs and I think they can be helpful, however, if you are expecting this program to teach your child to learn to self-regulate, it won't.
Hear me out...there are 2 other things that need to happen first. Today, I dive deep into sensory processing/regulation, self-regulation programs, and the missing link. If you want to get the most out of a self-regulation program, you need to know and implement the other 2 strategies I share in this episode.
Special Time ebook & Tame Your Triggers Audio have both been upgraded to MELTDOWN MANAGEMENT Mini Training! Get it here → https://view.flodesk.com/pages/64406aa91df9ae473e5a55e3
If you are struggling to find strategies that help correct the challenging behaviors you are walking through and are ready to establish a Behavior Blueprint with a step by step plan of exactly what to do, then DM me over on IG or send me an email at kjzeiher@gmail.com and let's connect!
Spotify playlist of managing triggers episodes: https://open.spotify.com/playlist/0BsZ8jLqj1KR4hotG2mbhe?si=aa1d633f14dd4650
Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/
XO-
Kaili
Oct 7, 2022
Oct 7, 2022
8 min
It's easy to see your defiant child as just that, defiant.
But what if I told you there was so much more going on under the surface. That the defiance is merely a mask. The "I hate you" and the "get out of my room" and the "leave me alone" is really a cry for connection.
Did you know connection is as vital to a child is air, food, and water? Yet, society has conditioned us to do the opposite when our child misbehaves.
Tune in today to recognize the signs of a deep rooted issue and what to actively do to help resolve it along with the behaviors that come with it!
Special Time ebook & Tame Your Triggers Audio have both been upgraded to MELTDOWN MANAGEMENT Mini Training! Get it here → https://view.flodesk.com/pages/64406aa91df9ae473e5a55e3
If you are struggling to find strategies that help correct the challenging behaviors you are walking through and are ready to establish a Behavior Blueprint with a step by step plan of exactly what to do, then DM me over on IG or send me an email at kjzeiher@gmail.com and let's connect!
Special time episode: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/chaos-to-connected-behavior-management-parent-coach/id1609008872?i=1000550595812
Stay Listening episode: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/chaos-to-connected-behavior-management-parent-coach/id1609008872?i=1000554474011
Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/
XO-
Kaili
Oct 4, 2022
Oct 4, 2022
11 min
Have you ever said or thought "I don't want to mess my kids up"?
Tune in as I give you 3 keys to help lessen the weight of trying to be the "perfect" parent.
Special Time ebook & Tame Your Triggers Audio have both been upgraded to MELTDOWN MANAGEMENT Mini Training! Get it here → https://view.flodesk.com/pages/64406aa91df9ae473e5a55e3
If you are struggling to find strategies that help correct the challenging behaviors you are walking through and are ready to establish a Behavior Blueprint with a step by step plan of exactly what to do, then DM me over on IG or send me an email at kjzeiher@gmail.com and let's connect!
Special time episode: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/chaos-to-connected-behavior-management-parent-coach/id1609008872?i=1000550595812
Manage your triggers episode: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/chaos-to-connected-behavior-management-parent-coach/id1609008872?i=1000555212545
Create a connection plan episode: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/chaos-to-connected-behavior-management-parent-coach/id1609008872?i=1000556650157
Simple connection ideas episode: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/chaos-to-connected-behavior-management-parent-coach/id1609008872?i=1000561043427
Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/
XO-
Kaili