Chaos to Connected - Helping Parents Navigate Challenging Behavior with Connection; Christian moms, behavior management, positive parenting, discipline, tantrums, aggression, biblical parenting
Do you feel like your child’s whining and tantrums are out of control? Are you wondering if what you’re seeing is actually normal? Do you feel like you are at your wits end, walking on eggshells, and/or just don’t know what to do anymore? Or maybe you feel exhausted and frustrated trying to manage your own triggers because you keep repeating the same yelling and lecturing cycle over and over again. Are you desperately trying to get your child to use a calming strategy but he/she refuses or it’s just not working? If you nodded along with any of that, you’re in the right place! Hi, I’m Kaili, pediatric occupational therapist, connection focused parent coach, and momma to 3 sweet littles. Back in 2020, I started an in-home daycare so I could stay home with my kids while making an income and let’s just say it didn’t go as planned. My oldest became very aggressive, something he had never been before. I tried all of the calming strategies and creating different spaces for him and NONE of it worked. I was really struggling because that is all I had been teaching other families to do for the last decade and to find out it wasn’t helping left me feeling even more hopeless. When I finally found the solution that transformed our family’s lives, I knew I needed to share it with other families in hopes they wouldn’t feel alone, emotionally exhausted, and spend their days wishing for naptime/bedtime like I had been. I created this podcast to give you tangible strategies to decrease your child’s behavior and also help you to learn to manage and resolve your own triggers. This podcast will help you gain more awareness and insights into child development and the root cause of your child’s behavior as well as help you break generational patterning that isn’t serving you. Inside this podcast you will find episodes filled with tips, tools, perspective shifts, and biblical truth to help you throughout your motherhood journey. Most of what I share is going to go against your natural responses and what mainstream will tell you to do, but that is because it includes what most of society is missing when they look at children and their behavior…CONNECTION. It is a vital necessity for all of us to operate out of our thinking brains and use logic, problem solving, reasoning, judgment, and impulse control, specifically when it comes to our responses and behaviors. While these strategies can be implemented for all ages, I focus primarily on 1-10 year olds since that is what I have most personal and professional experience with. If you want to stop feeling overwhelmed, stuck, and on the verge of your breaking point and truly make shifts in your parenting, your actions, thoughts, and responses, to gain more clarity, peace, and joy in your home, then let’s get to it! I know it can feel hard to step into the unknown, especially because you feel like you’ve tried it all, and honestly sometimes it feels easier to stay in a harder place because it’s familiar. But it’s not what God has for you or your child(ren). So take a minute, breathe deeply, and then join me as we jump into managing behaviors with connection! XO Kaili Connect with me: hello@kailizcoaching.com Instagram: @kaili.zeiher Join my weekly newsletter: https://chaostoconnected.myflodesk.com/cvuin24b94 Website + Coaching Opportunities: https://stan.store/KJZ112815
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Friday Dec 16, 2022
Friday Dec 16, 2022
Does your child struggle with his/her quick response to anger which often quickly transitions to hitting, kicking, biting, or throwing? Or do you have a child with poor safety awareness who tends to run away when let free?
Then your child is likely struggling with impulse (or self) control.
Today, I give you 3 strategies to help your child grow in this area!
Special Time ebook & Tame Your Triggers Audio have both been upgraded to MELTDOWN MANAGEMENT Mini Training! Get it here → https://view.flodesk.com/pages/64406aa91df9ae473e5a55e3
If you are struggling to find strategies that help correct the challenging behaviors you are walking through and are ready to establish a Behavior Blueprint with a step by step plan of exactly what to do, then DM me over on IG or send me an email at kjzeiher@gmail.com and let's connect!
Episode on calming strategies and spaces: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/chaos-to-connected-behavior-management-parent-coach/id1609008872?i=1000569255920
Episode on self-regulation programs: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/chaos-to-connected-behavior-management-parent-coach/id1609008872?i=1000582274339
Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/
XO
Kaili
Tuesday Dec 13, 2022
Tuesday Dec 13, 2022
Does your child tend to cry or have more meltdowns with you than your spouse? Are you getting to the end of the day wondering what you're doing wrong?
The truth...
You aren't doing anything wrong! In fact, you are doing a lot of things right! Tune in today to hear why this should actually be viewed as a positive thing + one simple routine you can get into the habit of to help!
Special Time ebook & Tame Your Triggers Audio have both been upgraded to MELTDOWN MANAGEMENT Mini Training! Get it here → https://view.flodesk.com/pages/64406aa91df9ae473e5a55e3
If you are struggling to find strategies that help correct the challenging behaviors you are walking through and are ready to establish a Behavior Blueprint with a step by step plan of exactly what to do, then DM me over on IG or send me an email at kjzeiher@gmail.com and let's connect!
Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/
XO
Kaili
Friday Dec 09, 2022
Friday Dec 09, 2022
What would you do if you couldn't use consequences to change your child's behavior?
90% of our decisions are made subconsciously, like whether or not you have a strong reaction/are triggered by your child's behavior and how you respond to your child's behavior. That's staggering.
It's no wonder people often say they react just like their mom (dad, grandma, grandpa, caregiver, etc) did but yet can verbalize they don't want to be that way.
The difficulty with using consequences to try and change the way your child is behaving is that it can create MORE dysregulation with your child and MORE disconnection within you and your child's relationship.
Tune in today to hear more about consequences and my challenge for you!
Special Time ebook & Tame Your Triggers Audio have both been upgraded to MELTDOWN MANAGEMENT Mini Training! Get it here → https://view.flodesk.com/pages/64406aa91df9ae473e5a55e3
If you are struggling to find strategies that help correct the challenging behaviors you are walking through and are ready to establish a Behavior Blueprint with a step by step plan of exactly what to do, then DM me over on IG or send me an email at kjzeiher@gmail.com and let's connect!
Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/
Calming strategy and spaces episode: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/chaos-to-connected-behavior-management-parent-coach/id1609008872?i=1000569255920
XO
Kaili
Tuesday Dec 06, 2022
Tuesday Dec 06, 2022
"You better not pout, you better not cry"...
"He's making a list, checking it twice. He's gonna find out who's naughty or nice"...
"He sees you when you're sleeping. He knows when you're awake. He knows when you've been bad or good so be good for goodness sake."
Today, I dive into all of the issues with these lyrics, including how it can create specific negative inner dialogue about our children and their behavior/emotions, the side effects of labeling a child based on behavior, and the importance of not utilizing Santa as a behavior manipulating tool.
This may be a challenging conversation, but I encourage you to really start bringing the unconscious thoughts and the patterns that follow what's always been done/do what you're told or what makes everyone else comfortable decisions to consciousness. Pause, reflect, and then decide if you want to continue in the same way, change things slightly or complete overhaul what you are doing.
Special Time ebook & Tame Your Triggers Audio have both been upgraded to MELTDOWN MANAGEMENT Mini Training! Get it here → https://view.flodesk.com/pages/64406aa91df9ae473e5a55e3
If you are struggling to find strategies that help correct the challenging behaviors you are walking through and are ready to establish a Behavior Blueprint with a step by step plan of exactly what to do, then DM me over on IG or send me an email at kjzeiher@gmail.com and let's connect!
Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/
XO-
Kaili
Friday Dec 02, 2022
Friday Dec 02, 2022
Have you ever planned a really special day or outing for your child and gotten to the end of the day and your child suddenly has a meltdown or starts saying things like "you don't even like me" or "this was the worst day ever"?
This is a NORMAL reaction to a burst of connection and safety.
Join me today as I talk about what is actually happening and what you can do about it as you prepare for all of the holiday parties and festivities.
Special Time ebook & Tame Your Triggers Audio have both been upgraded to MELTDOWN MANAGEMENT Mini Training! Get it here → https://view.flodesk.com/pages/64406aa91df9ae473e5a55e3
If you are struggling to find strategies that help correct the challenging behaviors you are walking through and are ready to establish a Behavior Blueprint with a step by step plan of exactly what to do, then DM me over on IG or send me an email at kjzeiher@gmail.com and let's connect!
Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/
XO-
Kaili
Tuesday Nov 29, 2022
Tuesday Nov 29, 2022
Does it ever bother you how your spouse handles your child's behavior? Do you wish he/she would just stay calm instead of yell or lose their temper?
Today I chat through 5 ways we can help our spouse to begin to understand that they are being triggered and ways we, as their partner, can support them through the process of resolution.
Plus a few bonus points for you to consider if you are the spouse who is frustrated or upset at how your partner handles themselves during your child's behavior.
Special Time ebook & Tame Your Triggers Audio have both been upgraded to MELTDOWN MANAGEMENT Mini Training! Get it here → https://view.flodesk.com/pages/64406aa91df9ae473e5a55e3
If you are struggling to find strategies that help correct the challenging behaviors you are walking through and are ready to establish a Behavior Blueprint with a step by step plan of exactly what to do, then DM me over on IG or send me an email at kjzeiher@gmail.com and let's connect!
Spotify playlist of managing triggers episodes: https://open.spotify.com/playlist/0BsZ8jLqj1KR4hotG2mbhe?si=aa1d633f14dd4650
Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/
XO-
Kaili
Friday Nov 25, 2022
Friday Nov 25, 2022
Have you ever felt burnt out as a mom? Or overwhelmed by the behaviors and big feelings? Or exhausted from the repetitive nature of training a child and the day to day tasks that need to be done?
Then today is for you, mama! Join me as I chat why self-care is actually not the answer and 2 steps to refueling and replenishing your soul to get out of that stuck cycle.
I hope this blesses and encourages you as you walk through the trenches. You got this!
Special Time ebook & Tame Your Triggers Audio have both been upgraded to MELTDOWN MANAGEMENT Mini Training! Get it here → https://view.flodesk.com/pages/64406aa91df9ae473e5a55e3
If you are struggling to find strategies that help correct the challenging behaviors you are walking through and are ready to establish a Behavior Blueprint with a step by step plan of exactly what to do, then DM me over on IG or send me an email at kjzeiher@gmail.com and let's connect!
Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/
XO-
Kaili
Tuesday Nov 22, 2022
Tuesday Nov 22, 2022
Do you ever notice it is more difficult to connect with one of your children as compared to the other? Do you struggle with more challenging behaviors with one of your children while the other one seems to listen or naturally have a more calm personality?
Maybe you've never thought about the differences in connection between you and each child.
Either way, today is for you! I share how to start evaluating your connection levels with each child and 3 strategies to implement if you're finding one child may be lacking OR requiring more connection at the moment than another child.
Just as a reminder-- connection is VITAL, just like food, water, and air. It is important we are intentional about adding it to our schedules so it becomes a part of our daily habits and routines. This will help improve overall regulation, behavior, and impulse control.
Special Time ebook & Tame Your Triggers Audio have both been upgraded to MELTDOWN MANAGEMENT Mini Training! Get it here → https://view.flodesk.com/pages/64406aa91df9ae473e5a55e3
If you are struggling to find strategies that help correct the challenging behaviors you are walking through and are ready to establish a Behavior Blueprint with a step by step plan of exactly what to do, then DM me over on IG or send me an email at kjzeiher@gmail.com and let's connect!
Ep 38: When you don't want to connect: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/chaos-to-connected-behavior-management-parent-coach/id1609008872?i=1000575115576
Ep on Play Listening: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/chaos-to-connected-behavior-management-parent-coach/id1609008872?i=1000552210188
Ep on Creating a Connection Plan: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/chaos-to-connected-behavior-management-parent-coach/id1609008872?i=1000556650157
Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/
XO-
Kaili
Friday Nov 18, 2022
Friday Nov 18, 2022
As your child grows older, it is natural to give more choices. Allowing them to pick out their outfit or what fruit will be in their school lunch gives them more independence and it can be really fun to get a peak into their thought processes and preferences.
However, I think sometimes we inject more choices when there is increasing behavior and likelihood for a meltdown. In these situations, I believe adding more choices can actually be counterproductive.
Join me today as I chat through why that is and what you can do instead.
Special Time ebook & Tame Your Triggers Audio have both been upgraded to MELTDOWN MANAGEMENT Mini Training! Get it here → https://view.flodesk.com/pages/64406aa91df9ae473e5a55e3
If you are struggling to find strategies that help correct the challenging behaviors you are walking through and are ready to establish a Behavior Blueprint with a step by step plan of exactly what to do, then DM me over on IG or send me an email at kjzeiher@gmail.com and let's connect!
Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/
XO-
Kaili
Tuesday Nov 15, 2022
Tuesday Nov 15, 2022
Have you ever been triggered by your kid's behavior?
If you said no, then you must not be a parent.
Today, I want to share with you 2 things I think about when I'm triggered/reflect on after I've been triggered that have helped me immensely to effectively stay calm during a meltdown.
Fair warning, it's a little tough love but I think it will bless you!
Special Time ebook & Tame Your Triggers Audio have both been upgraded to MELTDOWN MANAGEMENT Mini Training! Get it here → https://view.flodesk.com/pages/64406aa91df9ae473e5a55e3
If you are struggling to find strategies that help correct the challenging behaviors you are walking through and are ready to establish a Behavior Blueprint with a step by step plan of exactly what to do, then DM me over on IG or send me an email at kjzeiher@gmail.com and let's connect!
Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/
XO-
Kaili
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