Chaos to Connected - Helping Parents Navigate Challenging Behavior with Connection; Christian moms, behavior management, positive parenting, discipline, tantrums, aggression, biblical parenting
Inside this podcast you will find episodes filled with tips, tools & strategies, perspective shifts, and biblical truth to help you throughout your motherhood journey, navigating your child's behavior and your own triggers. Most of what I share is going to go against your natural responses and what mainstream will tell you to do, but that is because it includes what most of society is missing when they look at children and their behavior…CONNECTION. It is a vital necessity for all of us to operate out of our thinking brains and use logic, problem solving, reasoning, judgment, and impulse control, specifically when it comes to our responses and behaviors. While these strategies can be implemented for all ages, I focus primarily on 1-10 year olds since that is what I have most personal and professional experience with.
If you want to stop feeling overwhelmed, stuck, and on the verge of your breaking point and truly make shifts in your parenting, your actions, thoughts, and responses, to gain more clarity, peace, and joy in your home, then let’s get to it!
P.S. I know it can feel hard to step into the unknown, especially because you feel like you’ve tried it all, and honestly sometimes it feels easier to stay in a harder place because it’s familiar. But it’s not what God has for you or your child(ren). So take a minute, breathe deeply, and then join me as we jump into managing behaviors with connection!
XO Kaili
Connect with me: kjzeiher@gmail.com
Instagram: @kaili.zeiher
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Episodes
Mar 24, 2023
Mar 24, 2023
17 min
I heard a few weeks ago on another podcast that screen time can cause your child to go into fight or flight! What?!
I'd always heard that it can be overstimulating for some children, but fight or flight?! That feels more intense to me.
Today, I break down how and why we did a digital detox and the reason it may feel really difficult for you. Plus, I share an amazing testimonial with my youngest and the benefits I've already seen in just 3 weeks!
If you are struggling to find strategies that help correct the challenging behaviors you are walking through, then DM me over on IG or send me an email at kjzeiher@gmail.com and let's connect!
Special Time ebook & Tame Your Triggers Audio have both been upgraded to MELTDOWN MANAGEMENT Mini Training! Get it here → https://view.flodesk.com/pages/64406aa91df9ae473e5a55e3
Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/
How to make screen time connecting (episode 32): https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/chaos-to-connected-behavior-management-parent-coach/id1609008872?i=1000570007407
XO-
Kaili
Mar 10, 2023
Mar 10, 2023
13 min
Do you envision this peaceful bedtime routine that is quick and easy but you end up with 3 trips to the bathroom, 5 drinks of water, 10 more hugs and kisses, begging for more stories and the repeated tucking and re-tucking in??
Today we dive into why this is and the 2 key strategies you can be implementing today to prevent the battle of the bedtime routine.
The constant requests and attempts to control what is happening is due to the buildup of feelings and emotions just under the surface that the body naturally tries to expel. By asking for another glass of water, your child is asking you to set a firm, but loving limit.
Limits + Stay Listening = Connection
Connection = minds ready and able to think
Minds ready and able to think = smoother bedtime routine and the ability to go to sleep
Special Time Podcast episode: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/are-you-struggling-with-your-childs-behaviors-ep-1/id1609008872?i=1000550595812
Blog post on Stay Listening: https://chaostoconnected.com/stay-listening/
Blog post on Setting Limits: https://chaostoconnected.com/setting-limits/
If you are struggling to find strategies that help correct the challenging behaviors you are walking through, then DM me over on IG or send me an email at kjzeiher@gmail.com and let's connect!
Special Time ebook & Tame Your Triggers Audio have both been upgraded to MELTDOWN MANAGEMENT Mini Training! Get it here → https://view.flodesk.com/pages/64406aa91df9ae473e5a55e3
Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/
XO-
Kaili
Mar 3, 2023
Mar 3, 2023
19 min
I think there are a lot of misconceptions we have as parents, many of them just because it is what society continuously tells us. Today, I dive into one of those...
Did you know you don't actually have to know what your little one is melting down about to help him/her resolve it?
Tune in as I share why you don't need to know and how you can help!
Special Time ebook & Tame Your Triggers Audio have both been upgraded to MELTDOWN MANAGEMENT Mini Training! Get it here → https://view.flodesk.com/pages/64406aa91df9ae473e5a55e3
Episode on the importance of crying: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/chaos-to-connected-behavior-management-parent-coach/id1609008872?i=1000576630552
Episode on how we unintentionally move our kids away from crying: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/chaos-to-connected-behavior-management-parent-coach/id1609008872?i=1000565110255
Episode on why labeling feelings can distract our kids away from processing big feelings: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/chaos-to-connected-behavior-management-parent-coach/id1609008872?i=1000552915774
Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/ or https://www.facebook.com/kaili.schwirtz
If you are struggling to find strategies that help correct the challenging behaviors you are walking through, then DM me over on IG or send me an email at kjzeiher@gmail.com and let's connect!
XO
Kaili
Feb 24, 2023
Feb 24, 2023
17 min
Timeouts! Love them or hate them they are a frequent recommendation to modify a child's behavior.
Last week, as I was driving my son home from school, he said something so profound I had to share it. His statement confirms what I've always known but haven't heard a child specifically articulate.
Plus, bonus tips on how to transition away from timeouts while still creating opportunity for calming down and training as well as space for your emotions and need for space as a parent.
Special Time ebook & Tame Your Triggers Audio have both been upgraded to MELTDOWN MANAGEMENT Mini Training! Get it here → https://view.flodesk.com/pages/64406aa91df9ae473e5a55e3
Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/ or https://www.facebook.com/kaili.schwirtz
If you are struggling to find strategies that help correct the challenging behaviors you are walking through, then DM me over on IG or send me an email at kjzeiher@gmail.com and let's connect!
XO
Kaili
Feb 17, 2023
Feb 17, 2023
16 min
In honor of Huxton turning 3 and my recent sharing of my older son, Myles' birth story I thought it was only fitting to share his.
I generally look back at Myles' birth and remember it as more traumatic for me while Huxton's birth was a beautiful story of redemption.
I am, of course, grateful for both as it brought me 2 of the most precious gifts, but knowledge is always more powerful, even if you end up making the same choice.
Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/ or https://www.facebook.com/kaili.schwirtz
If you are struggling to find strategies that help correct the challenging behaviors you are walking through and are ready to establish a Behavior Blueprint with a step by step plan of exactly what to do, then DM me over on IG or send me an email at kjzeiher@gmail.com and let's connect!
Special Time ebook & Tame Your Triggers Audio have both been upgraded to MELTDOWN MANAGEMENT Mini Training! Get it here → https://view.flodesk.com/pages/64406aa91df9ae473e5a55e3
XO
Kaili
Feb 10, 2023
Feb 10, 2023
18 min
Has your child ever hit his/her head on the floor/bed/wall or hit him/herself?
Then today's episode is for you!
It's easy to assume your child has a big problem if this is occurring but there may be several reasons for it that aren't too difficult to correct. However, it will take effort.
Tune in as I chat how to recognize when it is a more significant problem and several ways to address the issue.
Special Time ebook & Tame Your Triggers Audio have both been upgraded to MELTDOWN MANAGEMENT Mini Training! Get it here → https://view.flodesk.com/pages/64406aa91df9ae473e5a55e3
Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/ or https://www.facebook.com/kaili.schwirtz
If you are struggling to find strategies that help correct the challenging behaviors you are walking through and are ready to establish a Behavior Blueprint with a step by step plan of exactly what to do, then DM me over on IG or send me an email at kjzeiher@gmail.com and let's connect!
XO
Kaili
Feb 3, 2023
Feb 3, 2023
14 min
Does your child struggle with transitions? Maybe not every one Maybe only for a season. Maybe every one.
No matter which you relate to, there are simple things we can do as the parent to help ease the tension of transition. Today I share 3 of those with you in hopes to increase fun and connection all while decreasing the frustration and getting the job done!
Special Time ebook & Tame Your Triggers Audio have both been upgraded to MELTDOWN MANAGEMENT Mini Training! Get it here → https://view.flodesk.com/pages/64406aa91df9ae473e5a55e3
Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/ or https://www.facebook.com/kaili.schwirtz
If you are struggling to find strategies that help correct the challenging behaviors you are walking through and are ready to establish a Behavior Blueprint with a step by step plan of exactly what to do, then DM me over on IG or send me an email at kjzeiher@gmail.com and let's connect!
XO
Kaili
Jan 27, 2023
Jan 27, 2023
14 min
I like to post a question box occasionally on my IG account asking what behavior parents are struggling with most at the time. One person wrote in: "meltdowns as soon as something doesn't go his way...it can be the littlest thing."
I have heard this SO many times that I thought it would be a great opportunity to address it here on the podcast!
Tune in to hear 2 reasons why this happens and 3 things you can actually do about it!
Special Time ebook & Tame Your Triggers Audio have both been upgraded to MELTDOWN MANAGEMENT Mini Training! Get it here → https://view.flodesk.com/pages/64406aa91df9ae473e5a55e3
Ep on 3 ways you may be unintentionally stopping your child from releasing big feelings: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/chaos-to-connected-behavior-management-parent-coach/id1609008872?i=1000565110255
Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/ or https://www.facebook.com/kaili.schwirtz
If you are struggling to find strategies that help correct the challenging behaviors you are walking through and are ready to establish a Behavior Blueprint with a step by step plan of exactly what to do, then DM me over on IG or send me an email at kjzeiher@gmail.com and let's connect!
XO
Kaili
Jan 20, 2023
Jan 20, 2023
29 min
Today, I thought it would be fitting to share Myles' birth story since his birthday was this week.
It was definitely tougher than I thought it would be this far from the experience, it's been six years, but I think it's something I learned the very hard way and I hope if you're in a similar place, maybe not necessarily giving birth, but somewhere in your motherhood journey that it can be helpful for you too.
One of the biggest lessons I've learned in becoming a mother and learning this style of parenting is that our feelings are valid no matter what anyone else is going through.
Stop talking them away, burying them, and allowing gratitude for what you do have to keep you from processing those deeper feelings. It's ok to experience both gratitude and sorrow or anger at the same time. If we don't allow our brain to work through our own hurts, triggers, or traumas as a mom it is going to have a ripple effect in all areas of our lives.
Special Time ebook & Tame Your Triggers Audio have both been upgraded to MELTDOWN MANAGEMENT Mini Training! Get it here → https://view.flodesk.com/pages/64406aa91df9ae473e5a55e3
Ep on My story and the start of Chaos to Connected: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/chaos-to-connected-behavior-management-parent-coach/id1609008872?i=1000577082308
Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/ or https://www.facebook.com/kaili.schwirtz
If you are struggling to find strategies that help correct the challenging behaviors you are walking through and are ready to establish a Behavior Blueprint with a step by step plan of exactly what to do, then DM me over on IG or send me an email at kjzeiher@gmail.com and let's connect!
XO
Kaili
Jan 17, 2023
Jan 17, 2023
10 min
Do you ever find yourself getting triggered by the same situation over and over again and despite recognizing it you just can't seem to change it?
Join me today as I share with you one strategy I use in the moment to combat the rising frustration and inevitable automatic reactions that tend to follow in order to pause, take a minute to reflect, shift perspective, and react in a calmer, more patient way.
Special Time ebook & Tame Your Triggers Audio have both been upgraded to MELTDOWN MANAGEMENT Mini Training! Get it here → https://view.flodesk.com/pages/64406aa91df9ae473e5a55e3
Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/ or https://www.facebook.com/kaili.schwirtz
If you are struggling to find strategies that help correct the challenging behaviors you are walking through and are ready to establish a Behavior Blueprint with a step by step plan of exactly what to do, then DM me over on IG or send me an email at kjzeiher@gmail.com and let's connect!
XO
Kaili