Chaos to Connected - Helping Parents Navigate Challenging Behavior with Connection; Christian moms, behavior management, positive parenting, discipline, tantrums, aggression, biblical parenting
Inside this podcast you will find episodes filled with tips, tools & strategies, perspective shifts, and biblical truth to help you throughout your motherhood journey, navigating your child's behavior and your own triggers. Most of what I share is going to go against your natural responses and what mainstream will tell you to do, but that is because it includes what most of society is missing when they look at children and their behavior…CONNECTION. It is a vital necessity for all of us to operate out of our thinking brains and use logic, problem solving, reasoning, judgment, and impulse control, specifically when it comes to our responses and behaviors. While these strategies can be implemented for all ages, I focus primarily on 1-10 year olds since that is what I have most personal and professional experience with.
If you want to stop feeling overwhelmed, stuck, and on the verge of your breaking point and truly make shifts in your parenting, your actions, thoughts, and responses, to gain more clarity, peace, and joy in your home, then let’s get to it!
P.S. I know it can feel hard to step into the unknown, especially because you feel like you’ve tried it all, and honestly sometimes it feels easier to stay in a harder place because it’s familiar. But it’s not what God has for you or your child(ren). So take a minute, breathe deeply, and then join me as we jump into managing behaviors with connection!
XO Kaili
Connect with me: kjzeiher@gmail.com
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Episodes
Jun 9, 2023
Jun 9, 2023
29 min
After last week's episode, I got a few questions about co-sleeping, sleep training, and what to do about specific sleep routines.
Today, I wanted to share with you how to transition from where you are to where you want to go; maybe you co sleep and you want your child to sleep in his/her own bed; maybe your child falls asleep well and then wakes in the middle of the night and you bring the child to your bed because you're tired but you don't want to make it a "forever" routine; maybe you rock your child to sleep but it's taking an incredibly long time and it doesn't feel like the best case scenario anymore.
No matter what the situation, this episode is for you!
Tune in as I share 4 basic steps that can help for whatever you are desiring to change in a way you can feel good about that will also leave your child feeling connected. More connected equals better sleep!
Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/ or if you'd prefer email at kjzeiher@gmail.com.
Want more info on your own customized Behavior Blueprint? Send in an inquiry form here: https://a06n5zvfs8f.typeform.com/to/evoCXcmF
XO
Kaili
Jun 2, 2023
Jun 2, 2023
19 min
Does your child tend to do well during the day and then suddenly bedtime hits and all hell breaks loose?
Does your child struggle with more aggressive behaviors during the bedtime routine or find it really challenging to transition from one task to the next?
Does your child take an hour or more to fall asleep or wake frequently during the night?
It's likely that your child needs more connection; this might look like more fun and cuddles OR an increased need to offload feelings.
Today, I want to focus on the fun and cuddles. Join me as I share 2 simple, yet effective tips to make bedtime more of a routine you can look forward to than one you dread!
Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/ or if you'd prefer email at kjzeiher@gmail.com.
Want more info on your own customized Behavior Blueprint? Send in an inquiry form here: https://a06n5zvfs8f.typeform.com/to/evoCXcmF
XO
Kaili
May 26, 2023
May 26, 2023
30 min
*4.5 million children in the US are diagnosed and living with anxiety
*in the last 3 years, the likelihood of young people having a mental health problem has increased by 50%
*5 children in a classroom of 30 are likely to have a mental health problem
Sounds overwhelming, doesn't it??
But what I want to encourage you with is that you, as the parent/caregiver, play a crucial role in the development of your child's mental health.
While this can also feel like a large weight to carry, today I want to share with you 4 steps to create a great foundation to get you going on the right track!
Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/ or if you'd prefer email at kjzeiher@gmail.com.
Free MELTDOWN MANAGEMENT Mini Training! Get it here → https://view.flodesk.com/pages/64406aa91df9ae473e5a55e3
XO
Kaili
May 19, 2023
May 19, 2023
23 min
The question of "should I require my child to apologize or allow them to choose when they do it" has been one I've pondered for awhile.
The style of parenting I follow and teach would say that a child should choose when he/she apologizes because it is showing when they actually have empathy for what they did.
Today, I dive into a few thoughts I have that may help you when considering how you want to handle apologizing in your household.
If you have additional thoughts, I'd love for you to send me an email or an IG DM and share them!!
Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/ or if you'd prefer email at kjzeiher@gmail.com.
Free MELTDOWN MANAGEMENT Mini Training! Get it here → https://view.flodesk.com/pages/64406aa91df9ae473e5a55e3
XO
Kaili
May 12, 2023
May 12, 2023
36 min
Join me today as I chat with Lenora from Better Speech!
She shares strategies and tips including:
*how to help your child if he/she isn't communicating much verbally, whether it is due to age or developmental stage/if your child has another diagnosis that causes more of a speech delay
*when to reach out for help from a Speech Therapist
*tips for parents when frustrations rise due to difficulty communicating and understanding the child, especially when big feelings and meltdowns occur
*and so much MORE!
Better Speech offers online, face to face speech therapy sessions tailored to your child's needs and your preferences for scheduling.
If you are unsure if your child may need speech or you just have a question you want answered, give them a call and they will connect you immediately with someone who can answer your questions!
Check them out here: https://www.betterspeech.com/
Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/ or if you'd prefer email at kjzeiher@gmail.com.
Free MELTDOWN MANAGEMENT Mini Training! Get it here → https://view.flodesk.com/pages/64406aa91df9ae473e5a55e3
XO
Kaili
May 5, 2023
May 5, 2023
13 min
Last week, I woke up feeling like I was just in "a mood". Like I woke up on the wrong side of the bed and I didn't really know why or what caused it. But I had a really difficult time moving out of it.
I could feel my frustrations and impatience rising at different times throughout the day. I managed to keep self controlled enough that I didn't yell or explode but I definitely was still missing the mark. I couldn't help but let my kids know that I was annoyed at their requests.
The next day, I was reflecting on what happened and felt convicted.
How quickly do we expect our kids to transition out of their bad moods? Do we ever remind ourselves that a child can also have a day where they "wake up on the wrong side of the bed"?
Today's episode shares a perspective shift + 2 main components to work through it.
Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/ or if you'd prefer email at kjzeiher@gmail.com.
MELTDOWN MANAGEMENT Mini Training! Get it here → https://view.flodesk.com/pages/64406aa91df9ae473e5a55e3
If you're ready to find out what your/your child's custom Behavior Blueprint looks like, schedule a free call here: https://calendly.com/kjzeiher/behavior-call
XO
Kaili
Apr 28, 2023
Apr 28, 2023
23 min
Do you struggle to know what steps to take when your child is having a big tantrum or meltdown?
Do you find yourself flustered when your child starts throwing a fit in the aisles of Target?
Today, I dive into 3 steps to handling an outburst effectively without the mom guilt or disconnection.
Do you want your child to learn to regulate on their own AND decrease the tantrums you're experiencing??? This 3 part process will help you get there!!
Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/ or if you'd prefer email at kjzeiher@gmail.com.
If you're ready to find out what your/your child's custom Behavior Blueprint looks like, schedule a free call here: https://calendly.com/kjzeiher/behavior-call
MELTDOWN MANAGEMENT Mini Training! Get it here → https://view.flodesk.com/pages/64406aa91df9ae473e5a55e3
XO
Kaili
Apr 21, 2023
Apr 21, 2023
14 min
Your child is a mirror of your reflection.
And no, I don't mean physically, although that may be true too! What I mean, more specifically, is your child is a mirror to your ability to maintain your regulation, to manage your triggers when you become frustrated or upset. Is what you're seeing something you are pleased with?
Now, of course, our kids will need time to learn regardless of how well we stay calm during their big feelings but your consistency of patience, kindness, empathy, and understanding matter! Even when it feels like it isn't sinking in.
On the road to learning how to self-regulate (or calm/manage big feelings when upset, disappointed, embarrassed, nervous, etc) your child first learns from you.
What is your natural (and highly patterned) response when you are upset? Do you tend to yell, threaten, bribe, use a little more physical force than is needed, etc?
The next time your child becomes upset, whether it's from you saying no or because a sibling took a toy or won't share, watch the response that happens. Does it look similar to yours?
If you are ready to learn to manage your triggers and/or resolve patterning you have around certain behaviors and do it in a way that doesn't result in mom guilt, burnout, overwhelm, etc. DM me "triggers" and I'll send you some specific strategies.
Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/ or if you'd prefer email at kjzeiher@gmail.com.
Special Time ebook & Tame Your Triggers Audio have both been upgraded to MELTDOWN MANAGEMENT Mini Training! Get it here → https://view.flodesk.com/pages/64406aa91df9ae473e5a55e3
XO
Kaili
Apr 14, 2023
Apr 14, 2023
26 min
I've been a little inconsistent here over the last 4-6 weeks and that is simply because there has been SO much going on and the episodes I share tend to also be relevant to what's happening in our world in real time or that prompts something I think would be helpful, meaning I'm not really much ahead of when you're listening. That's probably bad business but it's also just the season of motherhood I'm in.
Today, I wanted to share those life updates with you AND give you some bonus tips and strategies as you find yourself navigating some of the same (or similar) situations we have been experiencing over the last few weeks.
If you are struggling to find strategies that help correct the challenging behaviors you are walking through, then DM me over on IG or send me an email at kjzeiher@gmail.com and let's connect!
Special Time ebook & Tame Your Triggers Audio have both been upgraded to MELTDOWN MANAGEMENT Mini Training! Get it here → https://view.flodesk.com/pages/64406aa91df9ae473e5a55e3
Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/
XO
Kaili
Apr 8, 2023
Apr 8, 2023
13 min
Have you ever sat through a long day of tantrums and behaviors and thought I wish he/she could just be "good?" "I wish this wasn't our story." "I wish it didn't have to be this hard!"
Or do you have a child that follows directions, never pushes back, and always does the "right" thing?
It can be really appealing to have a child who follows most of your directions as you give them and society definitely supports this notion as what "should" be occurring. But today, we dive into whether or not that truly is better and something to be desired from your child.
If you are struggling to find strategies that help correct the challenging behaviors you are walking through, then DM me over on IG or send me an email at kjzeiher@gmail.com and let's connect!
Special Time Podcast Episode: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/chaos-to-connected/id1609008872#episodeGuid=kjzeiher.podbean.com%2F54e66b44-06dd-3cc2-8415-ef33cf170549
Special Time ebook & Tame Your Triggers Audio have both been upgraded to MELTDOWN MANAGEMENT Mini Training! Get it here → https://view.flodesk.com/pages/64406aa91df9ae473e5a55e3
Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/
XO-
Kaili