Chaos to Connected - Helping Parents Navigate Challenging Behavior with Connection; Christian moms, behavior management, positive parenting, discipline, tantrums, aggression, biblical parenting
Do you feel like your child’s whining and tantrums are out of control? Are you wondering if what you’re seeing is actually normal? Do you feel like you are at your wits end, walking on eggshells, and/or just don’t know what to do anymore? Or maybe you feel exhausted and frustrated trying to manage your own triggers because you keep repeating the same yelling and lecturing cycle over and over again. Are you desperately trying to get your child to use a calming strategy but he/she refuses or it’s just not working? If you nodded along with any of that, you’re in the right place! Hi, I’m Kaili, pediatric occupational therapist, connection focused parent coach, and momma to 3 sweet littles. Back in 2020, I started an in-home daycare so I could stay home with my kids while making an income and let’s just say it didn’t go as planned. My oldest became very aggressive, something he had never been before. I tried all of the calming strategies and creating different spaces for him and NONE of it worked. I was really struggling because that is all I had been teaching other families to do for the last decade and to find out it wasn’t helping left me feeling even more hopeless. When I finally found the solution that transformed our family’s lives, I knew I needed to share it with other families in hopes they wouldn’t feel alone, emotionally exhausted, and spend their days wishing for naptime/bedtime like I had been. I created this podcast to give you tangible strategies to decrease your child’s behavior and also help you to learn to manage and resolve your own triggers. This podcast will help you gain more awareness and insights into child development and the root cause of your child’s behavior as well as help you break generational patterning that isn’t serving you. Inside this podcast you will find episodes filled with tips, tools, perspective shifts, and biblical truth to help you throughout your motherhood journey. Most of what I share is going to go against your natural responses and what mainstream will tell you to do, but that is because it includes what most of society is missing when they look at children and their behavior…CONNECTION. It is a vital necessity for all of us to operate out of our thinking brains and use logic, problem solving, reasoning, judgment, and impulse control, specifically when it comes to our responses and behaviors. While these strategies can be implemented for all ages, I focus primarily on 1-10 year olds since that is what I have most personal and professional experience with. If you want to stop feeling overwhelmed, stuck, and on the verge of your breaking point and truly make shifts in your parenting, your actions, thoughts, and responses, to gain more clarity, peace, and joy in your home, then let’s get to it! I know it can feel hard to step into the unknown, especially because you feel like you’ve tried it all, and honestly sometimes it feels easier to stay in a harder place because it’s familiar. But it’s not what God has for you or your child(ren). So take a minute, breathe deeply, and then join me as we jump into managing behaviors with connection! XO Kaili Connect with me: hello@kailizcoaching.com Instagram: @kaili.zeiher Join my weekly newsletter: https://chaostoconnected.myflodesk.com/cvuin24b94 Website + Coaching Opportunities: https://stan.store/KJZ112815
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Episodes
Friday Apr 14, 2023
Friday Apr 14, 2023
I've been a little inconsistent here over the last 4-6 weeks and that is simply because there has been SO much going on and the episodes I share tend to also be relevant to what's happening in our world in real time or that prompts something I think would be helpful, meaning I'm not really much ahead of when you're listening. That's probably bad business but it's also just the season of motherhood I'm in.
Today, I wanted to share those life updates with you AND give you some bonus tips and strategies as you find yourself navigating some of the same (or similar) situations we have been experiencing over the last few weeks.
If you are struggling to find strategies that help correct the challenging behaviors you are walking through, then DM me over on IG or send me an email at kjzeiher@gmail.com and let's connect!
Special Time ebook & Tame Your Triggers Audio have both been upgraded to MELTDOWN MANAGEMENT Mini Training! Get it here → https://view.flodesk.com/pages/64406aa91df9ae473e5a55e3
Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/
XO
Kaili
Saturday Apr 08, 2023
Saturday Apr 08, 2023
Have you ever sat through a long day of tantrums and behaviors and thought I wish he/she could just be "good?" "I wish this wasn't our story." "I wish it didn't have to be this hard!"
Or do you have a child that follows directions, never pushes back, and always does the "right" thing?
It can be really appealing to have a child who follows most of your directions as you give them and society definitely supports this notion as what "should" be occurring. But today, we dive into whether or not that truly is better and something to be desired from your child.
If you are struggling to find strategies that help correct the challenging behaviors you are walking through, then DM me over on IG or send me an email at kjzeiher@gmail.com and let's connect!
Special Time Podcast Episode: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/chaos-to-connected/id1609008872#episodeGuid=kjzeiher.podbean.com%2F54e66b44-06dd-3cc2-8415-ef33cf170549
Special Time ebook & Tame Your Triggers Audio have both been upgraded to MELTDOWN MANAGEMENT Mini Training! Get it here → https://view.flodesk.com/pages/64406aa91df9ae473e5a55e3
Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/
XO-
Kaili
Friday Mar 24, 2023
Friday Mar 24, 2023
I heard a few weeks ago on another podcast that screen time can cause your child to go into fight or flight! What?!
I'd always heard that it can be overstimulating for some children, but fight or flight?! That feels more intense to me.
Today, I break down how and why we did a digital detox and the reason it may feel really difficult for you. Plus, I share an amazing testimonial with my youngest and the benefits I've already seen in just 3 weeks!
If you are struggling to find strategies that help correct the challenging behaviors you are walking through, then DM me over on IG or send me an email at kjzeiher@gmail.com and let's connect!
Special Time ebook & Tame Your Triggers Audio have both been upgraded to MELTDOWN MANAGEMENT Mini Training! Get it here → https://view.flodesk.com/pages/64406aa91df9ae473e5a55e3
Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/
How to make screen time connecting (episode 32): https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/chaos-to-connected-behavior-management-parent-coach/id1609008872?i=1000570007407
XO-
Kaili
Friday Mar 10, 2023
Friday Mar 10, 2023
Do you envision this peaceful bedtime routine that is quick and easy but you end up with 3 trips to the bathroom, 5 drinks of water, 10 more hugs and kisses, begging for more stories and the repeated tucking and re-tucking in??
Today we dive into why this is and the 2 key strategies you can be implementing today to prevent the battle of the bedtime routine.
The constant requests and attempts to control what is happening is due to the buildup of feelings and emotions just under the surface that the body naturally tries to expel. By asking for another glass of water, your child is asking you to set a firm, but loving limit.
Limits + Stay Listening = Connection
Connection = minds ready and able to think
Minds ready and able to think = smoother bedtime routine and the ability to go to sleep
Special Time Podcast episode: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/are-you-struggling-with-your-childs-behaviors-ep-1/id1609008872?i=1000550595812
Blog post on Stay Listening: https://chaostoconnected.com/stay-listening/
Blog post on Setting Limits: https://chaostoconnected.com/setting-limits/
If you are struggling to find strategies that help correct the challenging behaviors you are walking through, then DM me over on IG or send me an email at kjzeiher@gmail.com and let's connect!
Special Time ebook & Tame Your Triggers Audio have both been upgraded to MELTDOWN MANAGEMENT Mini Training! Get it here → https://view.flodesk.com/pages/64406aa91df9ae473e5a55e3
Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/
XO-
Kaili
Friday Mar 03, 2023
Friday Mar 03, 2023
I think there are a lot of misconceptions we have as parents, many of them just because it is what society continuously tells us. Today, I dive into one of those...
Did you know you don't actually have to know what your little one is melting down about to help him/her resolve it?
Tune in as I share why you don't need to know and how you can help!
Special Time ebook & Tame Your Triggers Audio have both been upgraded to MELTDOWN MANAGEMENT Mini Training! Get it here → https://view.flodesk.com/pages/64406aa91df9ae473e5a55e3
Episode on the importance of crying: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/chaos-to-connected-behavior-management-parent-coach/id1609008872?i=1000576630552
Episode on how we unintentionally move our kids away from crying: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/chaos-to-connected-behavior-management-parent-coach/id1609008872?i=1000565110255
Episode on why labeling feelings can distract our kids away from processing big feelings: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/chaos-to-connected-behavior-management-parent-coach/id1609008872?i=1000552915774
Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/ or https://www.facebook.com/kaili.schwirtz
If you are struggling to find strategies that help correct the challenging behaviors you are walking through, then DM me over on IG or send me an email at kjzeiher@gmail.com and let's connect!
XO
Kaili
Friday Feb 24, 2023
Friday Feb 24, 2023
Timeouts! Love them or hate them they are a frequent recommendation to modify a child's behavior.
Last week, as I was driving my son home from school, he said something so profound I had to share it. His statement confirms what I've always known but haven't heard a child specifically articulate.
Plus, bonus tips on how to transition away from timeouts while still creating opportunity for calming down and training as well as space for your emotions and need for space as a parent.
Special Time ebook & Tame Your Triggers Audio have both been upgraded to MELTDOWN MANAGEMENT Mini Training! Get it here → https://view.flodesk.com/pages/64406aa91df9ae473e5a55e3
Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/ or https://www.facebook.com/kaili.schwirtz
If you are struggling to find strategies that help correct the challenging behaviors you are walking through, then DM me over on IG or send me an email at kjzeiher@gmail.com and let's connect!
XO
Kaili
Friday Feb 17, 2023
Friday Feb 17, 2023
In honor of Huxton turning 3 and my recent sharing of my older son, Myles' birth story I thought it was only fitting to share his.
I generally look back at Myles' birth and remember it as more traumatic for me while Huxton's birth was a beautiful story of redemption.
I am, of course, grateful for both as it brought me 2 of the most precious gifts, but knowledge is always more powerful, even if you end up making the same choice.
Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/ or https://www.facebook.com/kaili.schwirtz
If you are struggling to find strategies that help correct the challenging behaviors you are walking through and are ready to establish a Behavior Blueprint with a step by step plan of exactly what to do, then DM me over on IG or send me an email at kjzeiher@gmail.com and let's connect!
Special Time ebook & Tame Your Triggers Audio have both been upgraded to MELTDOWN MANAGEMENT Mini Training! Get it here → https://view.flodesk.com/pages/64406aa91df9ae473e5a55e3
XO
Kaili
Friday Feb 10, 2023
Friday Feb 10, 2023
Has your child ever hit his/her head on the floor/bed/wall or hit him/herself?
Then today's episode is for you!
It's easy to assume your child has a big problem if this is occurring but there may be several reasons for it that aren't too difficult to correct. However, it will take effort.
Tune in as I chat how to recognize when it is a more significant problem and several ways to address the issue.
Special Time ebook & Tame Your Triggers Audio have both been upgraded to MELTDOWN MANAGEMENT Mini Training! Get it here → https://view.flodesk.com/pages/64406aa91df9ae473e5a55e3
Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/ or https://www.facebook.com/kaili.schwirtz
If you are struggling to find strategies that help correct the challenging behaviors you are walking through and are ready to establish a Behavior Blueprint with a step by step plan of exactly what to do, then DM me over on IG or send me an email at kjzeiher@gmail.com and let's connect!
XO
Kaili
Friday Feb 03, 2023
Friday Feb 03, 2023
Does your child struggle with transitions? Maybe not every one Maybe only for a season. Maybe every one.
No matter which you relate to, there are simple things we can do as the parent to help ease the tension of transition. Today I share 3 of those with you in hopes to increase fun and connection all while decreasing the frustration and getting the job done!
Special Time ebook & Tame Your Triggers Audio have both been upgraded to MELTDOWN MANAGEMENT Mini Training! Get it here → https://view.flodesk.com/pages/64406aa91df9ae473e5a55e3
Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/ or https://www.facebook.com/kaili.schwirtz
If you are struggling to find strategies that help correct the challenging behaviors you are walking through and are ready to establish a Behavior Blueprint with a step by step plan of exactly what to do, then DM me over on IG or send me an email at kjzeiher@gmail.com and let's connect!
XO
Kaili
Friday Jan 27, 2023
Friday Jan 27, 2023
I like to post a question box occasionally on my IG account asking what behavior parents are struggling with most at the time. One person wrote in: "meltdowns as soon as something doesn't go his way...it can be the littlest thing."
I have heard this SO many times that I thought it would be a great opportunity to address it here on the podcast!
Tune in to hear 2 reasons why this happens and 3 things you can actually do about it!
Special Time ebook & Tame Your Triggers Audio have both been upgraded to MELTDOWN MANAGEMENT Mini Training! Get it here → https://view.flodesk.com/pages/64406aa91df9ae473e5a55e3
Ep on 3 ways you may be unintentionally stopping your child from releasing big feelings: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/chaos-to-connected-behavior-management-parent-coach/id1609008872?i=1000565110255
Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/ or https://www.facebook.com/kaili.schwirtz
If you are struggling to find strategies that help correct the challenging behaviors you are walking through and are ready to establish a Behavior Blueprint with a step by step plan of exactly what to do, then DM me over on IG or send me an email at kjzeiher@gmail.com and let's connect!
XO
Kaili
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