Chaos to Connected - Helping Parents Navigate Challenging Behavior with Connection; Christian moms, behavior management, positive parenting, discipline, tantrums, aggression, biblical parenting

If you haven't listened to last week's episode, take some time (before or after this) and do so; I discussed communicating about problem solving with kids and tips on how to increase independence with problem solving even from a young age.
 
Today, I dive into praise. 
 
When I first came across this style of connection focused parenting, I heard a lot of recommendations not to praise...like, at all. While I do believe in praising my children and do, I think there were definitely some good points from what I heard and it shifted how I carried out giving it.
 
Tune in as I share a couple insights about how we tend to praise our children and how you can shift it to make it more meaningful and special for your little one.
 
3 Words/Phrases to Remove from your Vocab: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/chaos-to-connected-helping-parents-navigate-challenging/id1609008872?i=1000567988808
 
Want more info on your own customized Behavior Blueprint? Check out this page for all of the details: https://view.flodesk.com/emails/62e3ebe99833d236a3da4120
 
Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/ or if you'd prefer email at kjzeiher@gmail.com.
 
XO
Kaili
 

I've been reading a lot about communication and how to increase its effectiveness with our kids.
In reading more, I recognized that some of the ways I was saying things, while I meant it to be helpful, could be perceived as lacking confidence in my child.
Tune in today as I share more about how you can make slight shifts in how you phrase things to instill more empowerment, confidence, and independence in your child for problem solving, both with more challenging tasks and with siblings/other kids.
 
Book a free, no commitment needed, call with me here to find out which program option might be best for you and your family + what it would actually look like: https://calendly.com/kjzeiher/behavior-call
 
Want more info on your own customized Behavior Blueprint? Check out this page for all of the details: https://view.flodesk.com/emails/62e3ebe99833d236a3da4120
 
Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/ or if you'd prefer email at kjzeiher@gmail.com.
 
XO
Kaili
 

***REMINDER*** If listening in real time, you have until 8/14 to start the 30 day Behavior Blueprint before I close spots until sometime in late October (after baby is born)
 
Some days of parenting are just challenging.
 
Not because your child is behaving in a certain way or having more meltdowns but just because you feel off. Maybe you can't pin point it, maybe you can.
 
But either way, it's a funk that is difficult to get out of.
 
If you're feeling this way, check out today's episode for some perspective + encouragement. And share with a friend who needs it too!
 
Want more info on your own customized Behavior Blueprint? Check out this page for all of the details: https://view.flodesk.com/emails/62e3ebe99833d236a3da4120
 
Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/ or if you'd prefer email at kjzeiher@gmail.com.
 
XO
Kaili
 

Do you ever find yourself stuck in a parenting rut? 
 
Or like a majority of your interactions with your child feel like fights, yelling, managing meltdowns...basically negative?
 
Then it's time to assess whether you are seeing your child and his/her behaviors through a connection or consequence focused lens.
 
Tune in today as I help talk you through how to assess where you're at + how to adjust if needed/you desire to.
 
Want more info on your own customized Behavior Blueprint? Check out this short video for all of the details: https://youtu.be/-W2_0-7EkJY
 
Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/ or if you'd prefer email at kjzeiher@gmail.com.
 
XO
Kaili
 
 
 

I have recently been reading the book "How to talk so your child will listen & how to listen so your child will talk" and one of the concepts I discovered was the thought that punishment is a distraction.
 
As I was reflecting on it, I realized I couldn't agree more.
 
So often we are using punishment because we don't know what else to do, it's how we were raised, or we just don't want our kids to turn out "bad".
 
But, what is often actually happening is our child is not thinking about how sorry he/she is. The child is usually upset, thinking about how to get revenge, how not to get caught next time, or even that they aren't a "good" kid because they messed up.
 
Tune in as I share 6 simple strategy shifts you can make to avoid punishment while still getting better behavior!
 
Want more info on your own customized Behavior Blueprint? Check out this short video for all of the details: https://youtu.be/-W2_0-7EkJY
 
Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/ or if you'd prefer email at kjzeiher@gmail.com.
 
XO
Kaili
 

I think it's safe to say we all want to support our child's feelings and help them to actually work through them productively, but instead we are often denying them.
 
Denying your child’s feelings will lead your child to struggle to actually know what his/her feelings are or to have a lack of trust in them.
 
Want to know if you are subconsciously accepting or denying your child's feelings? Tune in today and I'll share 3 phrases you are likely using that communicate to your child that his/her feelings aren't accepted/okay. But stick around because I also give you 2 specific tips to start to change from denying to accepting that you won't want to miss!
 
Want more info on your own customized Behavior Blueprint? Check out this short video for all of the details: https://youtu.be/-W2_0-7EkJY
 
Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/ or if you'd prefer email at kjzeiher@gmail.com.
 
XO
Kaili
 
 

Society is constantly pushing us as parents, caregivers, and professionals to see a child's behavior as disobedience, disrespect, and defiance and something we should be using punishments, shame, and bribes to resolve when in reality...
 
Behavior is a main way your child is communicating with you, especially before your child is old enough to clearly articulate his/her feelings and has had more time practicing and learning how to regulate a little more effectively. 
 
This doesn't mean we don't address the behavior too, but it means identifying what is going on at a heart level and offering up empathy, love and understanding over a focus solely on obedience.
 
I would even go so far as to say, when your main goal as a parent is to gain obedience over everything else, there is likely some underlying patterning and conditioning that is forcing you to NEED control at all times.
 
The patterning and conditioning you come to parenting with also creates behavior in you that comes out when you are triggered; the same thing that is happening when your child is demonstrating behavior.
 
Tune in today as I dive more into this topic and share some practical ways you can begin to see behavior for what it really is....communication.
 
Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/ or if you'd prefer email at kjzeiher@gmail.com.
 
Want more info on your own customized Behavior Blueprint? Check out this short video for all of the details: https://youtu.be/-W2_0-7EkJY
 
XO
Kaili
 
 

Do you ever find yourself struggling in your motherhood role?
 
Do you ever find yourself feeling burnt out or extremely frustrated with your child or the behaviors you are experiencing on the regular?
 
Do you feel like you are aware of your triggers but you just feel like you are being triggered more and more and can't seem to get a grasp on it?
 
Obviously, reflect on your health and wellness habits like food intake, hydration, exercise, and soul care but if you are checking all of those boxes and still finding yourself in this place, then today is for YOU!
 
Tune in as I discuss 3 simple shifts you can be making to find more peace and joy amongst all of the tasks you have to accomplish in a day. YOU are capable of doing all of the things required of you, but it might take some intentional shifting. Find out what those transformative changes have been for me and how you can adjust them in a way that fits for you and your family!
 
Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/ or if you'd prefer email at kjzeiher@gmail.com.
 
Want more info on your own customized Behavior Blueprint? Send in an inquiry form here: https://a06n5zvfs8f.typeform.com/to/evoCXcmF
 
XO
Kaili
 

Have you been taught or told that when your child has behavior (really any type of behavior) to implement calming strategies?
 
Today, I share why this actually isn't the most effective and efficient route AND what is.
 
While calming strategies are important...hello, we obviously all need to learn to use them so we aren't just having adult temper tantrums everywhere...there is a way you can teach your child what they are and how to use them without actually having to sit down and walk them through it.
 
Today, I dive into the 2 main steps to help your child make the connection on their own and begin to implement them when needed. BONUS: this isn't just for older kids. My 3 year old did this exact thing today and guess what?!
 
I have NEVER sat down and showed him pictures of calming strategies or specifically and intentionally created time to teach him them or created a calming space that I instructed him on using.
 
Tune in to find out how!
 
Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/ or if you'd prefer email at kjzeiher@gmail.com.
 
Want more info on your own customized Behavior Blueprint? Send in an inquiry form here: https://a06n5zvfs8f.typeform.com/to/evoCXcmF
 
XO
Kaili
 

Today, I want to share some insights into this listener question: 
 
"When my son has a massive tantrum right before we HAVE to go somewhere and we don't have the option to just let him have the tantrum as long as he wants, what do we do about it?"
 
Before diving into what to do in this situation, one question to really ask and reflect on if you find yourself in this situation is...is this something you actually don't have the time for or is it something you would just rather not be late for?
 
If it's something you determine you can't be late for, then tune in as I chat how to overcome this challenging situation in a way that doesn't feel so difficult AND gets you out the door without the added need to keep your own triggers in line or find yourself in battles that cause more chaos and disconnection.
 
Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/ or if you'd prefer email at kjzeiher@gmail.com.
 
Want more info on your own customized Behavior Blueprint? Send in an inquiry form here: https://a06n5zvfs8f.typeform.com/to/evoCXcmF
 
XO
Kaili