Chaos to Connected - Helping Parents Navigate Challenging Behavior with Connection; Christian moms, behavior management, positive parenting, discipline, tantrums, aggression, biblical parenting

4 Tips to Make the Transition Back to School Easier (and with LESS Behavior!!!)

Is your child back in school or daycare? Or heading back to school or daycare soon? Maybe you are starting a year of homeschool?
With a big transition like this, children often have an uptick in behavior. 
Today, I dive into 4 tips that will help make this transition as smooth as possible and with less behavior challenges.
Even if you aren't heading into a school year because your littles aren't school age yet, there are still some great tips that are applicable to other situations you will inevitably encounter.
 
Episode on Separation Anxiety: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/chaos-to-connected-helping-parents-navigate-challenging/id1609008872?i=1000577431491
 
Episode on Stay Listening: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/chaos-to-connected-helping-parents-navigate-challenging/id1609008872?i=1000554474011
 
Episode on Special Time: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/chaos-to-connected-helping-parents-navigate-challenging/id1609008872#episodeGuid=kjzeiher.podbean.com%2F54e66b44-06dd-3cc2-8415-ef33cf170549
 
Want more info on my customized 1:1 coaching? Check out this page for all of the details: https://view.flodesk.com/emails/62e3ebe99833d236a3da4120
 
Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/ or if you'd prefer email at kjzeiher@gmail.com.
 
XO
Kaili
 

Potty Training....Without Rewards! (If your child tends to be more on the controlling side, this episode is also for you!) PLUS: 1 major shift that will make it much easier!

Have you been struggling to get your child potty trained?
 
Is your child able to go sometimes but not others, refusing to go at certain places, holding in BMs? 
 
Or maybe your child is potty trained but struggles with picky eating or other controlling types of behavior...
 
Then this episode is for you. Join me as I share why I don't recommend using treats and bribes during potty training and the #1 shift you can make to improve the ease at which it happens!
 
Want more info on my customized 1:1 coaching? Check out this page for all of the details: https://view.flodesk.com/emails/62e3ebe99833d236a3da4120
 
Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/ or if you'd prefer email at kjzeiher@gmail.com.
 
XO
Kaili
 

Communication Mini Series: Praise; How I was Unintentionally Creating a Perfectionist

If you haven't listened to last week's episode, take some time (before or after this) and do so; I discussed communicating about problem solving with kids and tips on how to increase independence with problem solving even from a young age.
 
Today, I dive into praise. 
 
When I first came across this style of connection focused parenting, I heard a lot of recommendations not to praise...like, at all. While I do believe in praising my children and do, I think there were definitely some good points from what I heard and it shifted how I carried out giving it.
 
Tune in as I share a couple insights about how we tend to praise our children and how you can shift it to make it more meaningful and special for your little one.
 
3 Words/Phrases to Remove from your Vocab: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/chaos-to-connected-helping-parents-navigate-challenging/id1609008872?i=1000567988808
 
Want more info on your own customized Behavior Blueprint? Check out this page for all of the details: https://view.flodesk.com/emails/62e3ebe99833d236a3da4120
 
Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/ or if you'd prefer email at kjzeiher@gmail.com.
 
XO
Kaili
 

Communication Mini Series: Training your child in problem solving

I've been reading a lot about communication and how to increase its effectiveness with our kids.
In reading more, I recognized that some of the ways I was saying things, while I meant it to be helpful, could be perceived as lacking confidence in my child.
Tune in today as I share more about how you can make slight shifts in how you phrase things to instill more empowerment, confidence, and independence in your child for problem solving, both with more challenging tasks and with siblings/other kids.
 
Book a free, no commitment needed, call with me here to find out which program option might be best for you and your family + what it would actually look like: https://calendly.com/kjzeiher/behavior-call
 
Want more info on your own customized Behavior Blueprint? Check out this page for all of the details: https://view.flodesk.com/emails/62e3ebe99833d236a3da4120
 
Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/ or if you'd prefer email at kjzeiher@gmail.com.
 
XO
Kaili
 

Are you having a difficult parenting day?? Listen to this!

***REMINDER*** If listening in real time, you have until 8/14 to start the 30 day Behavior Blueprint before I close spots until sometime in late October (after baby is born)
 
Some days of parenting are just challenging.
 
Not because your child is behaving in a certain way or having more meltdowns but just because you feel off. Maybe you can't pin point it, maybe you can.
 
But either way, it's a funk that is difficult to get out of.
 
If you're feeling this way, check out today's episode for some perspective + encouragement. And share with a friend who needs it too!
 
Want more info on your own customized Behavior Blueprint? Check out this page for all of the details: https://view.flodesk.com/emails/62e3ebe99833d236a3da4120
 
Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/ or if you'd prefer email at kjzeiher@gmail.com.
 
XO
Kaili
 

Are you viewing your child’s behavior through a CONSEQUENCE or CONNECTION focused lens??

Do you ever find yourself stuck in a parenting rut? 
 
Or like a majority of your interactions with your child feel like fights, yelling, managing meltdowns...basically negative?
 
Then it's time to assess whether you are seeing your child and his/her behaviors through a connection or consequence focused lens.
 
Tune in today as I help talk you through how to assess where you're at + how to adjust if needed/you desire to.
 
Want more info on your own customized Behavior Blueprint? Check out this short video for all of the details: https://youtu.be/-W2_0-7EkJY
 
Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/ or if you'd prefer email at kjzeiher@gmail.com.
 
XO
Kaili
 
 
 

Punishment is a DISTRACTION + 6 simple strategies you can use to avoid punishment while getting better behavior!

I have recently been reading the book "How to talk so your child will listen & how to listen so your child will talk" and one of the concepts I discovered was the thought that punishment is a distraction.
 
As I was reflecting on it, I realized I couldn't agree more.
 
So often we are using punishment because we don't know what else to do, it's how we were raised, or we just don't want our kids to turn out "bad".
 
But, what is often actually happening is our child is not thinking about how sorry he/she is. The child is usually upset, thinking about how to get revenge, how not to get caught next time, or even that they aren't a "good" kid because they messed up.
 
Tune in as I share 6 simple strategy shifts you can make to avoid punishment while still getting better behavior!
 
Want more info on your own customized Behavior Blueprint? Check out this short video for all of the details: https://youtu.be/-W2_0-7EkJY
 
Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/ or if you'd prefer email at kjzeiher@gmail.com.
 
XO
Kaili
 

Are you actually accepting, allowing, and holding space for your child’s feelings? 3 phrases you may be using that is communicating otherwise!

I think it's safe to say we all want to support our child's feelings and help them to actually work through them productively, but instead we are often denying them.
 
Denying your child’s feelings will lead your child to struggle to actually know what his/her feelings are or to have a lack of trust in them.
 
Want to know if you are subconsciously accepting or denying your child's feelings? Tune in today and I'll share 3 phrases you are likely using that communicate to your child that his/her feelings aren't accepted/okay. But stick around because I also give you 2 specific tips to start to change from denying to accepting that you won't want to miss!
 
Want more info on your own customized Behavior Blueprint? Check out this short video for all of the details: https://youtu.be/-W2_0-7EkJY
 
Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/ or if you'd prefer email at kjzeiher@gmail.com.
 
XO
Kaili
 
 

Are you struggling with your child’s behavior? What if you looked at it from a different perspective...behavior as communication!

Society is constantly pushing us as parents, caregivers, and professionals to see a child's behavior as disobedience, disrespect, and defiance and something we should be using punishments, shame, and bribes to resolve when in reality...
 
Behavior is a main way your child is communicating with you, especially before your child is old enough to clearly articulate his/her feelings and has had more time practicing and learning how to regulate a little more effectively. 
 
This doesn't mean we don't address the behavior too, but it means identifying what is going on at a heart level and offering up empathy, love and understanding over a focus solely on obedience.
 
I would even go so far as to say, when your main goal as a parent is to gain obedience over everything else, there is likely some underlying patterning and conditioning that is forcing you to NEED control at all times.
 
The patterning and conditioning you come to parenting with also creates behavior in you that comes out when you are triggered; the same thing that is happening when your child is demonstrating behavior.
 
Tune in today as I dive more into this topic and share some practical ways you can begin to see behavior for what it really is....communication.
 
Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/ or if you'd prefer email at kjzeiher@gmail.com.
 
Want more info on your own customized Behavior Blueprint? Check out this short video for all of the details: https://youtu.be/-W2_0-7EkJY
 
XO
Kaili
 
 

Do you ever feel burnt out, extremely frustrated or impatient as a mom? 3 ideas to help!

Do you ever find yourself struggling in your motherhood role?
 
Do you ever find yourself feeling burnt out or extremely frustrated with your child or the behaviors you are experiencing on the regular?
 
Do you feel like you are aware of your triggers but you just feel like you are being triggered more and more and can't seem to get a grasp on it?
 
Obviously, reflect on your health and wellness habits like food intake, hydration, exercise, and soul care but if you are checking all of those boxes and still finding yourself in this place, then today is for YOU!
 
Tune in as I discuss 3 simple shifts you can be making to find more peace and joy amongst all of the tasks you have to accomplish in a day. YOU are capable of doing all of the things required of you, but it might take some intentional shifting. Find out what those transformative changes have been for me and how you can adjust them in a way that fits for you and your family!
 
Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/ or if you'd prefer email at kjzeiher@gmail.com.
 
Want more info on your own customized Behavior Blueprint? Send in an inquiry form here: https://a06n5zvfs8f.typeform.com/to/evoCXcmF
 
XO
Kaili