Chaos to Connected - Helping Parents Navigate Challenging Behavior with Connection; motherhood, toddler tantrum, behavior, conscious parenting, gentle parenting, pediatric occupational therapy
Are you tired of struggling to figure out what to do about your child’s behavior? Do you feel exhausted and frustrated trying to manage your own triggers while at the same time trying to calm your child down and feel like nothing is working? Do you feel guilty after losing your cool 15 minutes into a tantrum and wonder if you’re doing this whole motherhood thing right? Are you wishing there was something that would just work consistently to get your child to listen? Hi, I’m Kaili, pediatric occupational therapist and momma to 2 energetic boys and I’m so grateful you are here! I remember what it felt like to struggle with my son’s aggressive behavior. I felt alone. I felt like no one else I knew was going through the same things or could understand what I was going through. And I had no idea what to do. I tried everything I could think of but nothing really seemed to work or that stuck anyway. Feeling completely overwhelmed and exhausted, like I was at the end of my rope, I found Hand in Hand parenting and I completely fell in love with the approach. It was everything I had ever dreamed motherhood would be about; training my child in a way that actually felt good and didn’t require rewards and punishments to obey and respect my authority. Plus, it focused on what the child’s behavior actually meant! Resolving things at a root cause level. What could be better than that?? Needless to say, I was hooked and after implementing the different connection focused strategies I saw more transformation than I ever thought possible. But not just in my son’s behavior, in my ability to remain calm through it all and my confidence in the approach I had chosen. No more comparison or worry of judgment. I knew this was the right path. I wanted to make sure other moms out there who were struggling just like I was, had access to this information so I completed a professionals intensive training in Hand in Hand parenting and started sharing it. Inside this podcast you will find tips, strategies, and perspective shifts to manage your child’s behavior as well as your triggers, and a constant shove outside the mainstream recommendations to utilize manipulation to change your child’s behavior. We are going to dive deep into how to implement CONNECTION, a vital necessity that the world wants to make us believe our children don’t actually need. This is the game-changing, missing link and I’m going to give you tangible steps on how to incorporate it into your daily routines and in those extra challenging moments so your home doesn’t feel like a stressful and chaotic place but rather one where feelings are welcomed, behavior is understood as communication, and joy abounds. So get comfy, I know you need a minute to take a rest after all you’ve been doing today, and join me as we jump into managing behaviors through connection! XO Kaili The Motherhood CONNECTION monthly membership: https://view.flodesk.com/emails/65977fa029eaba0244c4dd66 Connect with me: kjzeiher@gmail.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kaili.zeiher/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/kaili.schwirtz/
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Tuesday Dec 26, 2023
Tuesday Dec 26, 2023
Do you ever feel like sometimes you'd just rather not go and do the things because you know the behavior that will happen afterwards?
Or do you ever struggle to know what to do when your child has a tantrum in the middle of the holiday gathering?
Or do you find it really challenging to manage your child's behaviors and your responses to them when you are also overwhelmed or overtired?
Today, I talk through 3 strategies, tips, and perspective shifts you can rely on during these times of heightened excitement and stimulation to combat that holiday behavior hangover.
If you enjoyed this episode or found it helpful, I'd love if you would take a minute to leave a rating and review!
3 Ways You Might Be Unintentionally Stopping Your Child From Releasing Big Feelings: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/chaos-to-connected-helping-parents-navigate-challenging/id1609008872?i=1000565110255
Free 3 Day Behavior Challenge: https://lively-acorn-593.myflodesk.com/v2dcr5625t
Chaos to Calm mini course: A Step by Step Guide to Aggressive/Physical Behaviors https://dawn-term-318.myflodesk.com
Schedule a behavior strategy call here: https://calendly.com/kjzeiher/behavior-call
Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/ or kjzeiher@gmail.com.
XO
Kaili
Tuesday Dec 19, 2023
Tuesday Dec 19, 2023
Today, my chat with Maureen from Yes Peas Nutrition continues!
We cover:
-strategies to make meal planning and meal prep less overwhelming
-tips to encourage your child to eat a wider variety of food during your meal planning and prep
-holiday food
-navigating sugar with your child(ren) during the holidays
**and MORE!
Find her at: @yespeasnutrition over on IG or her website: https://www.yespeasnutrition.com/
Grab her free resource - 5 Tips for Busy Parents: Decrease Stress and Increase Family Connection When Making Meals From Home here: https://pages.maureenclilly.com/guide-1
Join her facebook group here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1088016261913914/
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Free 3 Day Behavior Challenge: https://lively-acorn-593.myflodesk.com/v2dcr5625t
Chaos to Calm mini course: A Step by Step Guide to Aggressive/Physical Behaviors https://dawn-term-318.myflodesk.com
Want to schedule an info call and see if 1:1 coaching is right for you?? https://calendly.com/kjzeiher/behavior-call
Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/ or kjzeiher@gmail.com.
XO
Kaili
Tuesday Dec 12, 2023
Tuesday Dec 12, 2023
Do you ever struggle with a child who refuses to eat what you've made for supper?
Have you tried the..."eat x amount of bites before you can..." either have more of something already finished or something else entirely?
Today, I chat with Maureen, a mom and nutritionist who breaks down mealtimes for us in a way that perfectly parallels the way in which I encourage you to respond to behaviors...with safety and connection.
Tune in as she talks about the normal "picky eating" phase of development, tips and strategies to implement, and how to navigate it all while helping your child create a healthy relationship with food!
Find her at: @yespeasnutrition over on IG or her website: https://www.yespeasnutrition.com/
Grab her free resource - 5 Tips for Busy Parents: Decrease Stress and Increase Family Connection When Making Meals From Home here: https://pages.maureenclilly.com/guide-1
Join her facebook group here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1088016261913914/
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Chaos to Calm mini course: A Step by Step Guide to Aggressive/Physical Behaviors https://dawn-term-318.myflodesk.com
Want to schedule an info call and see if 1:1 coaching is right for you?? https://calendly.com/kjzeiher/behavior-call
Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/ or kjzeiher@gmail.com.
XO
Kaili
Tuesday Dec 05, 2023
Tuesday Dec 05, 2023
Have you heard of Elf on the Shelf??
What am I saying? Of course you have!
Are you currently doing it? Or Shepherd on the Search?
Last year, my thoughts were completely different so today I wanted to dive into the topic a little further.
Tune in as I share 2 things you should stay away from if you are going to participate! As well as modifications if you are needing something extra simple this year!
Are you using Santa to manipulate behavior? https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/chaos-to-connected-helping-parents-navigate-challenging/id1609008872?i=1000589024177
Google doc with ideas: https://docs.google.com/document/d/1aytCkf_KlB0i7L9RxuSfYpS_X-MiDPeI0QvOInfgAOg/edit?usp=sharing
Chaos to Calm mini course: https://dawn-term-318.myflodesk.com
Want to schedule an info call and see if 1:1 coaching is right for you?? https://calendly.com/kjzeiher/behavior-call
Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/ or kjzeiher@gmail.com.
XO
Kaili
Tuesday Nov 28, 2023
Tuesday Nov 28, 2023
If you're like me, you are in a current season of motherhood overwhelm; whether it's due to behaviors or life circumstances there are a few strategies I've been working on implementing that I hope will bless you too!
Do you have any other recommendations? Share them here: kjzeiher@gmail.com
Chaos to Calm mini course: https://dawn-term-318.myflodesk.com
Want to schedule an info call and see if 1:1 coaching is right for you?? https://calendly.com/kjzeiher/behavior-call
Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/
XO
Kaili
Tuesday Nov 21, 2023
Tuesday Nov 21, 2023
Timeouts are such a common practice when parents are trying to get their kids to listen; I would even venture to guess it's a recommendation from professionals and something regularly talked about as a helpful behavior strategy on the internet.
But, did you know that sending your child off to a timeout is creating more disconnection. When there is disconnection, your child's "thinking" brain is inaccessible. This creates MORE of the unwanted behavior.
Instead, get CONNECTED! Connection = better behavior.
Tune in today as I share your child's perspective on timeouts and 2 strategies you can utilize instead that creates connection.
Chaos to Calm mini course: https://dawn-term-318.myflodesk.com
Stay Listening episode: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/chaos-to-connected-helping-parents-navigate-challenging/id1609008872?i=1000554474011
Are you really okay with crying episode: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/chaos-to-connected-helping-parents-navigate-challenging/id1609008872?i=1000565110255
Want to schedule an info call and see if 1:1 coaching is right for you?? https://calendly.com/kjzeiher/behavior-call
Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/ or if you'd prefer email at kjzeiher@gmail.com.
XO
Kaili
Sunday Nov 12, 2023
Sunday Nov 12, 2023
If you need a step by step guide to (nearly) eliminating your child's aggressive/physical behaviors, check the show notes.
If you're not ready to jump all in or you don't feel like you can maintain your cool, try the strategy I share about in today's episode.
It may push you outside of your comfort zone or the societal norm for managing this kind of behavior, but I guarantee you'll get results AND it's fun! It builds connection, helps process emotions/big feelings and improves behavior!
Aggression Mini Course waitlist -- join waitlist and you will have the opportunity for a FREE week of voxer following purchase of the course! only available to those on the waitlist!
Add your email here:
https://lively-acorn-593.myflodesk.com/izgtp1vnyk
Flip the Switch Ideas: file:///Users/kailizeiher/Downloads/FLIPTHESWITCH%20(1).pdf
Want to schedule an info call and see if 1:1 coaching is right for you?? https://calendly.com/kjzeiher/behavior-call
Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/ or if you'd prefer email at kjzeiher@gmail.com.
XO
Kaili
Friday Nov 03, 2023
Friday Nov 03, 2023
Do you struggle to bring your child out in public because he/she runs from you?
Do you get frustrated and try to utilize manipulation strategies (consequences/threats, bribes) to get the behavior you want and find it doesn't work? Or not consistently anyway?
Have you or have you thought about buying a "leash" for your child because you just need to be sure your child is safe while you are out in a parking lot or public space?
If you said yes to any of these, then be sure to tune in to today's episode; I walk you through a step by step process of what to do if you have a runner.
Plus, you will get 2 BONUS tips that will help your child develop impulse control and safety awareness.
Aggression Mini Course waitlist -- join waitlist and you will have the opportunity for a FREE week of voxer following purchase of the course! only available to those on the waitlist!
Add your email here:
https://lively-acorn-593.myflodesk.com/izgtp1vnyk
Want to schedule an info call and see if 1:1 coaching is right for you?? https://calendly.com/kjzeiher/behavior-call
Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/ or if you'd prefer email at kjzeiher@gmail.com.
XO
Kaili
Friday Oct 27, 2023
Friday Oct 27, 2023
Tune in today as I answer your questions!
We chat about:
*when the calming strategies don't seem to be helping
*how to support a child through big feelings when you have other children around
*what to do when a child is melting down everyday after daycare
*aggressive behaviors
*a child who is overly attached to one parent over the other
If you have a question you'd like answered, email it to me at kjzeiher@gmail.com
Aggression Mini Course waitlist -- join waitlist and you will have the opportunity for a FREE week of voxer following purchase of the course! only available to those on the waitlist!
Add your email here:
https://lively-acorn-593.myflodesk.com/izgtp1vnyk
Calming strategies episode https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/chaos-to-connected-helping-parents-navigate-challenging/id1609008872?i=1000569255920
Calming spaces episode https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/chaos-to-connected-helping-parents-navigate-challenging/id1609008872?i=1000569655067
Stay listening episode https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/chaos-to-connected-helping-parents-navigate-challenging/id1609008872?i=1000554474011
Aggression episode https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/chaos-to-connected-helping-parents-navigate-challenging/id1609008872?i=1000562812304
Special time episode https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/chaos-to-connected-helping-parents-navigate-challenging/id1609008872?i=1000550595812
XO
Kaili
Friday Oct 20, 2023
Friday Oct 20, 2023
If you like birth stories, tune in today as I share our 3rd child (and first girl), Luella's brith story!
In case you missed them, here are the birth stories of my boys:
Myles' Birth Story: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/chaos-to-connected-helping-parents-navigate-challenging/id1609008872?i=1000595792704
Huxton's Birth Story: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/chaos-to-connected-helping-parents-navigate-challenging/id1609008872?i=1000600263314
Want more info on my customized 1:1 coaching? Check out this page for all of the details: https://view.flodesk.com/emails/62e3ebe99833d236a3da4120
Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/ or if you'd prefer email at kjzeiher@gmail.com.
XO
Kaili
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