Chaos to Connected - Helping Parents Navigate Challenging Behavior with Connection; Christian moms, behavior management, positive parenting, discipline, tantrums, aggression, biblical parenting

Friday Fruit: What are you contributing to your child's behavior?

Faith and my spiritual growth has a lot to do with how I am able to consistently incorporate this style of parenting. One of the things that has bothered me most is seeing christian influencers on IG share how this way of parenting is unbiblical. And while they, of course, are entitled to their own opinion, I think most often they don't truly understand what is behind. this way of parenting. 
 
I have had a lot of feedback thanking me for sharing this unpopular opinion because others are feeling it too. I've also worked with several families struggling to know how faith and connected/gentle parenting all work together. So I thought it was time to create a new series on the podcast called Friday Fruit. I am going to share my personal experience with faith and parenting. **Reminder, I am not a theologian and I do not have any biblical degree. I'm just a mom who wants her kids to grow up knowing and loving the Lord all while trying my best to glorify Him in the process.
 
This week's episode is brought to you by Matthew 7:3
Why do you see the speck that is in your brother's eye, but do not notice the log that is in your own eye? 
 
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Are you ever having a tough or really challenging day? 5 tips for improving your mood and creating more peace and joy in your home!

Do you ever find yourself struggling with your mood? Like you woke up on the wrong side of the bed? Or the day started off well but then you got triggered by something your child did or said?
You want to shift back into fun, joyful, playful, connection but it just feels hard...maybe even impossible.
Today, I share 5 simple ways you can create that shift AND do it with your kids - I don't know about you but I don't often have the opportunity to just have a lengthy break or leave the house on my own - and honestly, it's more fun with your kids included too!
 
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Email - hello@kailizcoaching.com
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A Sneak Peek into My Parenting + How to Get Back On Track When You Encounter Challenging/New Behavior

Today, I thought it would be fun to share with you a little peek into my parenting. 
 
Spoiler alert! No matter how much someone is trained, practices what they teach, knows their stuff, etc, etc they are STILL human and the STILL need to make shifts and adjustments. That is what I want to share with you today. Some of my personal experience with a nagging behavior that has been happening here and the 3 steps I take to make changes when needed.
 
Don't forget to get my Chaos to Calm: Conquering Aggressive Behavior course (currently $197) for FREE!! Here's what to do: leave a rating and review, screenshot it and email it to hello@kailizcoaching.com. That's it!
 
I'd love to hear from you and connect! Email me and let's chat! hello@kailizcoaching.com
 
For more info re: 1:1 coaching options on a budget and other ways to receive support, click here: https://stan.store/KJZ112815.
 

Do you want to know what the "right" thing to say to your child is? Ditch the scripts and try this instead!

Don't forget to get my Chaos to Calm: Conquering Aggressive Behavior course (currently $197) for FREE!! Here's what to do: leave a rating and review, screenshot it and email it to hello@kailizcoaching.com. That's it!
 
Do you ever struggle with what you should say to your child? Maybe it's during a meltdown or a difficult situation and you want your child to feel heard and validated. 
 
Have you seen the posts all over IG and FB telling you what to say when...?
 
Today, I'm here to tell you while it can feel like a good starting point, you don't need any scripts because:
1. You likely won't remember them anyway
2. There won't be a post/script about every situation you encounter.
 
Tune in to hear how you can use this one simple strategy, conversation, to determine what the "right" thing to say is for whatever situation, scenario, or behavior you encounter!
 
I'd love to hear from you and connect! Email me and let's chat! hello@kailizcoaching.com
 
For more info re: 1:1 coaching options on a budget and other ways to receive support, click here: https://stan.store/KJZ112815.
 
 

I'M BACK!!!! Updates + exciting things ahead!

Hey there, I'm so excited to announce that the Chaos to Connected podcast is coming back!!! 
I took a break about 6 months ago and had no idea whether I'd be back or not, but I'm making some big pivots and wanted to share them with you today.
New episodes will begin airing in September when I re-launch, but in the meantime I would LOVE to hear from you! What questions do you have? What topics do you want to deep dive into? What's your biggest struggle right now?
I also wanted to do something fun before episodes resume; if you write a review over on apple podcasts, take a screen shot and send it to me (hello@kailizcoaching.com) I am going to send you my Chaos to Calm: Conquering Aggressive Behaviors course for FREE! (currently $197)
This course dives into why physical behaviors are actually occurring, gives you a step by step guide on what to actually do about them, and FAQs that families have consistently asked me to help you even more! 
And you can, of course, binge past episodes.
I'm going to be doing some extra fun things inside of my emails too because I really want to be able to create more community and a place where you feel safe and seen. So if you'd like to subscribe and get weekly insights, encouragement reminders, AND bonus sneak peaks/mini coaching insights and be the first to actually hear the podcasts each week, you can do so here: https://chaostoconnected.myflodesk.com/cvuin24b94
For more info re: 1:1 coaching options on a budget and other ways to receive support, click here: https://stan.store/KJZ112815.
I can't wait to be back each week walking this motherhood journey with you!
XO
Kaili

5 Ways You Are More Like Your Child Than Unlike Him/Her

It can be really easy, especially when you are parenting a child who is struggling with behavior or lots of strong emotions, to forget that your child is just a mini version of you. While life experience and higher level executive functioning skills aren't the same, the way the brain processes and responds to hurts is.
It can be easy to forget this when you are triggered from behavior so today, I want to share how parents/caregivers are more like their child than not.
 
Ep on Apologizing: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/chaos-to-connected-helping-parents-navigate-challenging/id1609008872?i=1000613660033
 
Tame Your Triggers Masterclass: https://chaostoconnected.myflodesk.com/mju18pgf63
 
Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/ or kjzeiher@gmail.com.
 
XO
Kaili
 

Is your child's aggressive behavior due to a sensory processing issue?

One of the most common questions I get asked is what types of deep input activities I would recommend for a child who acts or plays aggressively (hitting, kicking, throwing, etc). Previously, I would go into detail on how to incorporate into a sensory diet, but now, through additional training and experience I recognize that this alone isn't the answer.
 
Today, I share how sensory processing works and how to bridge the gap effectively AND efficiently between the behaviors you are seeing and improved regulation!
 
*If you have any questions as to if your child has a true sensory processing disorder, email me or seek out a local OT for assessment.
 
Tame Your Triggers Masterclass: https://chaostoconnected.myflodesk.com/mju18pgf63
 
Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/ or kjzeiher@gmail.com.
 
XO
Kaili
 

Birthday Envy: What to do when one child is jealous of a sibling's birthday + presents

If you're a mom to more than one child you've probably experienced one child's excitement over a birthday while another child was less than happy about it. Having to wait for all of the attention and presents can be a big challenge for kids and it does matter how you handle it.
If you are someone that gets the other child a present too or you wonder if that's the "right" thing to do, I wanted to shed some connection focused perspective light on the situation!
 
Tame Your Triggers Masterclass: https://chaostoconnected.myflodesk.com/mju18pgf63
 
Do you want help managing your triggers in the heat of the moment: https://chaostoconnected.myflodesk.com/r49k9ws9dp
 
Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/ or kjzeiher@gmail.com.
 
XO
Kaili
 

Do you want to shift the attitudes and behaviors in your home?? Here's how!

Do you ever feel like the attitudes, the whining, and the fighting sometimes just really over take your entire home?
That's how I felt 2 weeks ago. I decided something needed to change and I discovered ONE thing that makes all the difference.
We moved from constant sibling fighting, frequent whining, hitting/kicking/pinching to try and solve problems, and me feeling a lot of annoyance, anger, and frequently triggered to so much peace, more self control and regulation, and best of all more fun and enjoyment just being together!
Today I dive into what changed and how you can replicate it in your home too!
 
Do you want help managing your triggers in the heat of the moment: https://chaostoconnected.myflodesk.com/r49k9ws9dp
 
Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/ or kjzeiher@gmail.com.
 
XO
Kaili
 

Do you ever feel overwhelmed or exhausted and then struggle to approach behavior with connection?

Last week, I asked what was the hardest thing about connection focused parenting; one of the responses I received was that when feeling exhausted it was especially hard to try to respond to behaviors positively or with connection.
 
I. Hear. That.!!!
 
Today, I wanted to share what to do if you're finding yourself in this same situation...and you might be surprised by my recommendation!
 
If this episode, or any episode you've previously listened to you has blessed or helped you, would you be willing to go and leave a rating and review on Apple Podcasts? I know mommas all over the world are searching for tangible, simple strategies to help improve behavior without using punishments, rewards, and manipulation to achieve it. Your willingness to take a minute to share will help other mommas find this information easier!
 
Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/ or kjzeiher@gmail.com.
 
XO
Kaili