Chaos to Connected - Helping Parents Navigate Challenging Behavior with Connection; Christian moms, behavior management, positive parenting, discipline, tantrums, aggression, biblical parenting
Do you feel like your child’s whining and tantrums are out of control? Are you wondering if what you’re seeing is actually normal? Do you feel like you are at your wits end, walking on eggshells, and/or just don’t know what to do anymore? Or maybe you feel exhausted and frustrated trying to manage your own triggers because you keep repeating the same yelling and lecturing cycle over and over again. Are you desperately trying to get your child to use a calming strategy but he/she refuses or it’s just not working? If you nodded along with any of that, you’re in the right place! Hi, I’m Kaili, pediatric occupational therapist, connection focused parent coach, and momma to 3 sweet littles. Back in 2020, I started an in-home daycare so I could stay home with my kids while making an income and let’s just say it didn’t go as planned. My oldest became very aggressive, something he had never been before. I tried all of the calming strategies and creating different spaces for him and NONE of it worked. I was really struggling because that is all I had been teaching other families to do for the last decade and to find out it wasn’t helping left me feeling even more hopeless. When I finally found the solution that transformed our family’s lives, I knew I needed to share it with other families in hopes they wouldn’t feel alone, emotionally exhausted, and spend their days wishing for naptime/bedtime like I had been. I created this podcast to give you tangible strategies to decrease your child’s behavior and also help you to learn to manage and resolve your own triggers. This podcast will help you gain more awareness and insights into child development and the root cause of your child’s behavior as well as help you break generational patterning that isn’t serving you. Inside this podcast you will find episodes filled with tips, tools, perspective shifts, and biblical truth to help you throughout your motherhood journey. Most of what I share is going to go against your natural responses and what mainstream will tell you to do, but that is because it includes what most of society is missing when they look at children and their behavior…CONNECTION. It is a vital necessity for all of us to operate out of our thinking brains and use logic, problem solving, reasoning, judgment, and impulse control, specifically when it comes to our responses and behaviors. While these strategies can be implemented for all ages, I focus primarily on 1-10 year olds since that is what I have most personal and professional experience with. If you want to stop feeling overwhelmed, stuck, and on the verge of your breaking point and truly make shifts in your parenting, your actions, thoughts, and responses, to gain more clarity, peace, and joy in your home, then let’s get to it! I know it can feel hard to step into the unknown, especially because you feel like you’ve tried it all, and honestly sometimes it feels easier to stay in a harder place because it’s familiar. But it’s not what God has for you or your child(ren). So take a minute, breathe deeply, and then join me as we jump into managing behaviors with connection! XO Kaili Connect with me: hello@kailizcoaching.com Instagram: @kaili.zeiher Join my weekly newsletter: https://chaostoconnected.myflodesk.com/cvuin24b94 Website + Coaching Opportunities: https://stan.store/KJZ112815
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Episodes
Friday May 13, 2022
Friday May 13, 2022
In the busyness of life or the challenge of the season of motherhood you're in, it can be extremely difficult to feel connected to your child.
Do you ever go to bed at night feeling guilty about the time you had, whether not enough or not used in the way you wished it would have been?
Does your child have some challenging behaviors?
I have the solution for both! CONNECTION.
When our child feels disconnected, the brain is hard wired to signal us for help. When we can get reconnected, we see a major shift in behavior.
Join me as we chat 15 simple ways to maintain connection and fill your child's connection cup to improve behavior!
Special Time ebook & Tame Your Triggers Audio have both been upgraded to MELTDOWN MANAGEMENT Mini Training! Get it here → https://view.flodesk.com/pages/64406aa91df9ae473e5a55e3
If you are struggling to find strategies that help correct the challenging behaviors you are walking through and are ready to establish a Behavior Blueprint with a step by step plan of exactly what to do, then DM me over on IG or send me an email at kjzeiher@gmail.com and let's connect!
Special time podcast episode: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/are-you-struggling-with-your-childs-behaviors-ep-1/id1609008872?i=1000550595812
Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/
XO-
Kaili
Friday May 06, 2022
Friday May 06, 2022
If you are struggling or feeling overwhelmed by emotions or behaviors, then find 10 minutes in your schedule for some encouragement!
Reminder: our goal here isn't to remove behaviors completely, but to feel equipped to handle them; both in our response but also in our understanding.
We can do all the things connected and there may still be behaviors. Repeat after me....behaviors and emotions are NORMAL.
You got this!
Special Time ebook & Tame Your Triggers Audio have both been upgraded to MELTDOWN MANAGEMENT Mini Training! Get it here → https://view.flodesk.com/pages/64406aa91df9ae473e5a55e3
If you are struggling to find strategies that help correct the challenging behaviors you are walking through and are ready to establish a Behavior Blueprint with a step by step plan of exactly what to do, then DM me over on IG or send me an email at kjzeiher@gmail.com and let's connect!
Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/
XO-
Kaili
Tuesday May 03, 2022
Tuesday May 03, 2022
Join me as I chat with Kelsey; wife, mom of 3, and speech language pathologist with a passion for positive parenting through the highly sensitive lens.
We chat:
- what it means to be highly sensitive
-how to determine if you or your child is
-tips if you’re a highly sensitive mom, have a highly sensitive child, or both
-calming spaces, counseling and/or off-loading your own emotions, when to seek out help, and so much MORE!
Special Time ebook & Tame Your Triggers Audio have both been upgraded to MELTDOWN MANAGEMENT Mini Training! Get it here → https://view.flodesk.com/pages/64406aa91df9ae473e5a55e3
If you are struggling to find strategies that help correct the challenging behaviors you are walking through and are ready to establish a Behavior Blueprint with a step by step plan of exactly what to do, then DM me over on IG or send me an email at kjzeiher@gmail.com and let's connect!
Here are a few of the resources she mentioned:
-https://hsperson.com/
-Am I a highly sensitive person? https://hsperson.com/test/highly-sensitive-test/
-Is my child highly sensitive? https://hsperson.com/test/highly-sensitive-child-test/
Find Kelsey, and check out her reels, at: https://www.instagram.com/as_the_littles_grow/?hl=en
Episode on utilizing play: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/chaos-to-connected/id1609008872?i=1000552210188
Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/
XO-
Kaili
Friday Apr 29, 2022
Friday Apr 29, 2022
Have you ever had this experience:
Parent: “Do you want the red or blue cup with your lunch?”
Child: “I want the red cup.”
Parent: gives child the red cup
Child: melts down and wants the blue cup
If it has, then today’s episode is for you! Join me as we dive into a simple strategy that you can implement and why it is so important!
Special Time ebook & Tame Your Triggers Audio have both been upgraded to MELTDOWN MANAGEMENT Mini Training! Get it here → https://view.flodesk.com/pages/64406aa91df9ae473e5a55e3
If you are struggling to find strategies that help correct the challenging behaviors you are walking through and are ready to establish a Behavior Blueprint with a step by step plan of exactly what to do, then DM me over on IG or send me an email at kjzeiher@gmail.com and let's connect!
Special Time Podcast Episode: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/chaos-to-connected/id1609008872#episodeGuid=kjzeiher.podbean.com%2F54e66b44-06dd-3cc2-8415-ef33cf170549
The importance of taking deep breaths: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/5-fun-and-simple-activities-to-encourage-more-time-in/id1609008872?i=1000558372222
Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/
XO-
Kaili
Friday Apr 22, 2022
Friday Apr 22, 2022
It took me a while to understand why taking deep breaths, and teaching your child how to actually do it, can be one of the simplest, yet most impactful, strategies in your tool belt. Breathing is actually the only automatic function we can also control!
Join me as we dive into the vagus nerve and its impact on our ability to remain in the rest and digest/calm state.
Plus, we chat about 5 different FUN strategies that will encourage deep breathing = more time in the chill zone along with 2 BONUS strategies to get you everything you need to start implementing today!
Now go get connected!
XO - Kaili
Special Time ebook & Tame Your Triggers Audio have both been upgraded to MELTDOWN MANAGEMENT Mini Training! Get it here → https://view.flodesk.com/pages/64406aa91df9ae473e5a55e3
If you are struggling to find strategies that help correct the challenging behaviors you are walking through and are ready to establish a Behavior Blueprint with a step by step plan of exactly what to do, then DM me over on IG or send me an email at kjzeiher@gmail.com and let's connect!
Website with a great variety of deep breathing shapes and animals exercises: https://copingskillsforkids.com/deep-breathing-exercises-for-kids
Noisemaker ideas: https://www.amazon.com/US-Toy-Siren-Whistle-Pack/dp/B001R5N7HK/ref=sr_1_25?crid=38WX0FXTAO4O9&keywords=oral+motor+blow+toys&qid=1650599615&sprefix=oral+motor+blow+toys%2Caps%2C79&sr=8-25
https://www.amazon.com/Schylling-2050489-Multi-Bubble-Trumpet/dp/B000ARK2GK/ref=sr_1_9?crid=38WX0FXTAO4O9&keywords=oral+motor+blow+toys&qid=1650599661&sprefix=oral+motor+blow+toys%2Caps%2C79&sr=8-9
https://www.amazon.com/SHUYUE-Wooden-Floating-Bernoullis-Demonstrating/dp/B07D6TKMR9/ref=sr_1_6?crid=38WX0FXTAO4O9&keywords=oral+motor+blow+toys&qid=1650599661&sprefix=oral+motor+blow+toys%2Caps%2C79&sr=8-6
https://www.amazon.com/Click-Play-Musical-Wind-Instruments/dp/B016TS9O8A/ref=sr_1_94?crid=38WX0FXTAO4O9&keywords=oral+motor+blow+toys&qid=1650599715&sprefix=oral+motor+blow+toys%2Caps%2C79&sr=8-94
https://www.amazon.com/ArtCreativity-Instrument-Birthday-Noisemakers-Supplies/dp/B08XZRGKP5/ref=sr_1_121?crid=38WX0FXTAO4O9&keywords=oral+motor+blow+toys&qid=1650599751&sprefix=oral+motor+blow+toys%2Caps%2C79&sr=8-121
https://www.amazon.com/ArtCreativity-Mustache-Whistles-Assorted-Birthday/dp/B08H5V96RB/ref=sr_1_32?crid=2Y3J4UKGUM56Y&keywords=blowing+noisemakers+variety+pack&qid=1650599541&sprefix=blowing+noisemakers+variety+pack%2Caps%2C74&sr=8-32
Special Time Podcast Episode: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/chaos-to-connected/id1609008872#episodeGuid=kjzeiher.podbean.com%2F54e66b44-06dd-3cc2-8415-ef33cf170549
Stay Listening Podcast Episode: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/chaos-to-connected/id1609008872?i=1000554474011
Brain Development Deep Dive Podcast Episode: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/chaos-to-connected/id1609008872?i=1000557701560
Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/
XO-
Kaili
Friday Apr 15, 2022
Friday Apr 15, 2022
Today is the day we are talking all things punishment and discipline. PLUS we go deep into your child’s brain.
Do you want to know why your child is behaving in a less than preferred way?
Do you want to understand the ins and outs of the foundation of his/her emotions?
Do you want to understand the difference between punishment and discipline?
Then join us as we uncover the heart behind the behavior.
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Special Time ebook & Tame Your Triggers Audio have both been upgraded to MELTDOWN MANAGEMENT Mini Training! Get it here → https://view.flodesk.com/pages/64406aa91df9ae473e5a55e3
If you are struggling to find strategies that help correct the challenging behaviors you are walking through and are ready to establish a Behavior Blueprint with a step by step plan of exactly what to do, then DM me over on IG or send me an email at kjzeiher@gmail.com and let's connect!
Different parenting approaches: https://www.handinhandparenting.org/wp-content/uploads/2020/12/Parenting-Approaches-and-P-by-C.pdf
Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/
XO-
Kaili
Friday Apr 08, 2022
Friday Apr 08, 2022
I have been sharing a lot about how connection is vital and a daily, even hourly need (or more depending on your child) but I wanted to take some time to help you actually establish a connection plan.
For every other vital necessity, and even things that aren’t necessary to actually maintain life, we have a plan. We even have a plan for connecting with others, even though we aren’t necessarily thinking in those terms.
Unfortunately, when it comes to our kids we have been continually trained in many circumstances to actually disconnect from them on purpose. If they don’t have the emotions we like, send them to their room. If they aren’t doing exactly as we say, go to time out. If they won’t get in the car, hand out a consequence. While these strategies may seem like they are working in the moment, they are actually furthering the problem. They are creating more disconnection.
More disconnection = more frustration, anger, sadness = more behavior.
Tune in as I share tips on how to create your own simple connection plan and watch your days be transformed from the cycle of yelling, consequences, and punishments to more playfulness, joy, and laughter.
Special Time ebook & Tame Your Triggers Audio have both been upgraded to MELTDOWN MANAGEMENT Mini Training! Get it here → https://view.flodesk.com/pages/64406aa91df9ae473e5a55e3
If you are struggling to find strategies that help correct the challenging behaviors you are walking through and are ready to establish a Behavior Blueprint with a step by step plan of exactly what to do, then DM me over on IG or send me an email at kjzeiher@gmail.com and let's connect!
Connection Plan Template:
https://www.canva.com/design/DAE9QzzYqZY/cndv19ozvWzi1boPbUdJmw/view?utm_content=DAE9QzzYqZY&utm_campaign=designshare&utm_medium=link&utm_source=publishsharelink
Special time podcast episode: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/are-you-struggling-with-your-childs-behaviors-ep-1/id1609008872?i=1000550595812
Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/
XO-
Kaili
Tuesday Apr 05, 2022
Tuesday Apr 05, 2022
Is your child afraid of going to the doctor or the dentist? Is it a struggle to get them into the car or into the office to be seen? Do you find yourself hesitating or trying to decide when to tell him/her to get the least emotional response??
A mom messaged me with a question re: dentist/doctor visits with children and how to go about navigating the behaviors and feelings that come up. So today, I am diving all in! We are going to talk about 5 areas to focus on when preparing to bring your child to an unfamiliar place or a place that has past history creating even more fear or anxiety around the trip.
Special Time ebook & Tame Your Triggers Audio have both been upgraded to MELTDOWN MANAGEMENT Mini Training! Get it here → https://view.flodesk.com/pages/64406aa91df9ae473e5a55e3
If you are struggling to find strategies that help correct the challenging behaviors you are walking through and are ready to establish a Behavior Blueprint with a step by step plan of exactly what to do, then DM me over on IG or send me an email at kjzeiher@gmail.com and let's connect!
Play listening podcast episode: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/chaos-to-connected/id1609008872?i=1000552210188
Stay Listening podcast episode:https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/chaos-to-connected/id1609008872?i=1000554474011
Special time podcast episode: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/are-you-struggling-with-your-childs-behaviors-ep-1/id1609008872?i=1000550595812
Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/
XO-
Kaili
Friday Apr 01, 2022
Friday Apr 01, 2022
Do you ever feel like the whining, the back talk, the arguing is constant??
It can be easy to get trapped in meltdown mode, especially with full schedules and limited time left for connection.
Today, we are diving into 5 simple ways to pull your child out of meltdown mode and get things back on track!
Special Time ebook & Tame Your Triggers Audio have both been upgraded to MELTDOWN MANAGEMENT Mini Training! Get it here → https://view.flodesk.com/pages/64406aa91df9ae473e5a55e3
If you are struggling to find strategies that help correct the challenging behaviors you are walking through and are ready to establish a Behavior Blueprint with a step by step plan of exactly what to do, then DM me over on IG or send me an email at kjzeiher@gmail.com and let's connect!
Flip the switch play ideas: https://chaostoconnected.com/wp-content/uploads/2021/02/FLIPTHESWITCH.pdf
Play listening podcast episode: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/chaos-to-connected/id1609008872?i=1000552210188
Stay Listening podcast episode:https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/chaos-to-connected/id1609008872?i=1000554474011
Special time podcast episode: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/are-you-struggling-with-your-childs-behaviors-ep-1/id1609008872?i=1000550595812
Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/
XO-
Kaili
Friday Mar 25, 2022
Friday Mar 25, 2022
Do you find it challenging to keep your calm amongst the chaos? The constant meltdowns? The yelling? The whining? More than one child crying at a time? All the things??
I get it! I went through a major season of overwhelm and walked through some really challenging behaviors with my spirited child. During that time, I discovered 5 things that were game changers for me as I was sanctified over and over and grew in ways that allowed us to bust through the behaviors in a more effective way.
Figure out your triggers and where they come from
Pray
Train your brain to shift perspectives
Get a listening partner
Deep breathing
Tune in as we dive deeper into each of these areas and help you keep your cool!
Special Time ebook & Tame Your Triggers Audio have both been upgraded to MELTDOWN MANAGEMENT Mini Training! Get it here → https://view.flodesk.com/pages/64406aa91df9ae473e5a55e3
If you are struggling to find strategies that help correct the challenging behaviors you are walking through and are ready to establish a Behavior Blueprint with a step by step plan of exactly what to do, then DM me over on IG or send me an email at kjzeiher@gmail.com and let's connect!
The oil that I always keep handy! Perfect for all things overwhelm and stress: https://www.doterra.com/US/en/p/adaptiv-system
Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/
Don't forget to journal or spend time this week reflecting on the behaviors that cause you to be triggered - what are the behaviors, what is going on around you (a lot of noise, busy schedule, etc), and what do you do when you're triggered (and be honest!).
Go get connected!
XO Kaili
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