Chaos to Connected - Helping Parents Navigate Challenging Behavior with Connection; Christian moms, behavior management, positive parenting, discipline, tantrums, aggression, biblical parenting

If you are struggling or feeling overwhelmed by emotions or behaviors, then find 10 minutes in your schedule for some encouragement!
 
Reminder: our goal here isn't to remove behaviors completely, but to feel equipped to handle them; both in our response but also in our understanding.
 
We can do all the things connected and there may still be behaviors. Repeat after me....behaviors and emotions are NORMAL.
 
You got this!
 
Special Time ebook & Tame Your Triggers Audio have both been upgraded to MELTDOWN MANAGEMENT Mini Training! Get it here → https://view.flodesk.com/pages/64406aa91df9ae473e5a55e3
 
If you are struggling to find strategies that help correct the challenging behaviors you are walking through and are ready to establish a Behavior Blueprint with a step by step plan of exactly what to do, then DM me over on IG or send me an email at kjzeiher@gmail.com and let's connect!
 
Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/
 
XO-
Kaili
 

Join me as I chat with Kelsey; wife, mom of 3, and speech language pathologist with a passion for positive parenting through the highly sensitive lens. 
 
We chat:
- what it means to be highly sensitive
-how to determine if you or your child is
-tips if you’re a highly sensitive mom, have a highly sensitive child, or both
-calming spaces, counseling and/or off-loading your own emotions, when to seek out help, and so much MORE!
 
Special Time ebook & Tame Your Triggers Audio have both been upgraded to MELTDOWN MANAGEMENT Mini Training! Get it here → https://view.flodesk.com/pages/64406aa91df9ae473e5a55e3
 
If you are struggling to find strategies that help correct the challenging behaviors you are walking through and are ready to establish a Behavior Blueprint with a step by step plan of exactly what to do, then DM me over on IG or send me an email at kjzeiher@gmail.com and let's connect!
 
Here are a few of the resources she mentioned:
-https://hsperson.com/
-Am I a highly sensitive person? https://hsperson.com/test/highly-sensitive-test/
-Is my child highly sensitive? https://hsperson.com/test/highly-sensitive-child-test/
 
Find Kelsey, and check out her reels, at: https://www.instagram.com/as_the_littles_grow/?hl=en
 
Episode on utilizing play: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/chaos-to-connected/id1609008872?i=1000552210188
 
Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/
 
XO-
Kaili
 

Have you ever had this experience:  
Parent: “Do you want the red or blue cup with your lunch?”  
Child: “I want the red cup.”  
Parent: gives child the red cup  
Child: melts down and wants the blue cup  
If it has, then today’s episode is for you! Join me as we dive into a simple strategy that you can implement and why it is so important!
 
Special Time ebook & Tame Your Triggers Audio have both been upgraded to MELTDOWN MANAGEMENT Mini Training! Get it here → https://view.flodesk.com/pages/64406aa91df9ae473e5a55e3
 
If you are struggling to find strategies that help correct the challenging behaviors you are walking through and are ready to establish a Behavior Blueprint with a step by step plan of exactly what to do, then DM me over on IG or send me an email at kjzeiher@gmail.com and let's connect!
 
Special Time Podcast Episode: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/chaos-to-connected/id1609008872#episodeGuid=kjzeiher.podbean.com%2F54e66b44-06dd-3cc2-8415-ef33cf170549  
 
The importance of taking deep breaths: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/5-fun-and-simple-activities-to-encourage-more-time-in/id1609008872?i=1000558372222  
 
Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/
 
XO-
Kaili
 

It took me a while to understand why taking deep breaths, and teaching your child how to actually do it, can be one of the simplest, yet most impactful, strategies in your tool belt. Breathing is actually the only automatic function we can also control! 
Join me as we dive into the vagus nerve and its impact on our ability to remain in the rest and digest/calm state.
Plus, we chat about 5 different FUN strategies that will encourage deep breathing = more time in the chill zone along with 2 BONUS strategies to get you everything you need to start implementing today!
Now go get connected!
 
XO - Kaili
 
Special Time ebook & Tame Your Triggers Audio have both been upgraded to MELTDOWN MANAGEMENT Mini Training! Get it here → https://view.flodesk.com/pages/64406aa91df9ae473e5a55e3
 
If you are struggling to find strategies that help correct the challenging behaviors you are walking through and are ready to establish a Behavior Blueprint with a step by step plan of exactly what to do, then DM me over on IG or send me an email at kjzeiher@gmail.com and let's connect!
 
Website with a great variety of deep breathing shapes and animals exercises: https://copingskillsforkids.com/deep-breathing-exercises-for-kids
 
Noisemaker ideas: https://www.amazon.com/US-Toy-Siren-Whistle-Pack/dp/B001R5N7HK/ref=sr_1_25?crid=38WX0FXTAO4O9&keywords=oral+motor+blow+toys&qid=1650599615&sprefix=oral+motor+blow+toys%2Caps%2C79&sr=8-25
 
https://www.amazon.com/Schylling-2050489-Multi-Bubble-Trumpet/dp/B000ARK2GK/ref=sr_1_9?crid=38WX0FXTAO4O9&keywords=oral+motor+blow+toys&qid=1650599661&sprefix=oral+motor+blow+toys%2Caps%2C79&sr=8-9
 
https://www.amazon.com/SHUYUE-Wooden-Floating-Bernoullis-Demonstrating/dp/B07D6TKMR9/ref=sr_1_6?crid=38WX0FXTAO4O9&keywords=oral+motor+blow+toys&qid=1650599661&sprefix=oral+motor+blow+toys%2Caps%2C79&sr=8-6
 
https://www.amazon.com/Click-Play-Musical-Wind-Instruments/dp/B016TS9O8A/ref=sr_1_94?crid=38WX0FXTAO4O9&keywords=oral+motor+blow+toys&qid=1650599715&sprefix=oral+motor+blow+toys%2Caps%2C79&sr=8-94
 
https://www.amazon.com/ArtCreativity-Instrument-Birthday-Noisemakers-Supplies/dp/B08XZRGKP5/ref=sr_1_121?crid=38WX0FXTAO4O9&keywords=oral+motor+blow+toys&qid=1650599751&sprefix=oral+motor+blow+toys%2Caps%2C79&sr=8-121
 
https://www.amazon.com/ArtCreativity-Mustache-Whistles-Assorted-Birthday/dp/B08H5V96RB/ref=sr_1_32?crid=2Y3J4UKGUM56Y&keywords=blowing+noisemakers+variety+pack&qid=1650599541&sprefix=blowing+noisemakers+variety+pack%2Caps%2C74&sr=8-32
 
Special Time Podcast Episode: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/chaos-to-connected/id1609008872#episodeGuid=kjzeiher.podbean.com%2F54e66b44-06dd-3cc2-8415-ef33cf170549
 
Stay Listening Podcast Episode: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/chaos-to-connected/id1609008872?i=1000554474011
 
Brain Development Deep Dive Podcast Episode: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/chaos-to-connected/id1609008872?i=1000557701560
 
Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/
 
XO-
Kaili
 

Today is the day we are talking all things punishment and discipline. PLUS  we go deep into your child’s brain.
 
Do you want to know why your child is behaving in a less than preferred way?
 
Do you want to understand the ins and outs of the foundation of his/her emotions?
 
Do you want to understand the difference between punishment and discipline?
 
Then join us as we uncover the heart behind the behavior. 
 
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Special Time ebook & Tame Your Triggers Audio have both been upgraded to MELTDOWN MANAGEMENT Mini Training! Get it here → https://view.flodesk.com/pages/64406aa91df9ae473e5a55e3
 
If you are struggling to find strategies that help correct the challenging behaviors you are walking through and are ready to establish a Behavior Blueprint with a step by step plan of exactly what to do, then DM me over on IG or send me an email at kjzeiher@gmail.com and let's connect!
 
Different parenting approaches: https://www.handinhandparenting.org/wp-content/uploads/2020/12/Parenting-Approaches-and-P-by-C.pdf
 
Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/
 
XO-
Kaili
 

I have been sharing a lot about how connection is vital and a daily, even hourly need (or more depending on your child) but I wanted to take some time to help you actually establish a connection plan.
 
For every other vital necessity, and even things that aren’t necessary to actually maintain life, we have a plan. We even have a plan for connecting with others, even though we aren’t necessarily thinking in those terms.
 
Unfortunately, when it comes to our kids we have been continually trained in many circumstances to actually disconnect from them on purpose. If they don’t have the emotions we like, send them to their room. If they aren’t doing exactly as we say, go to time out. If they won’t get in the car, hand out a consequence. While these strategies may seem like they are working in the moment, they are actually furthering the problem. They are creating more disconnection. 
 
More disconnection = more frustration, anger, sadness = more behavior.
 
Tune in as I share tips on how to create your own simple connection plan and watch your days be transformed from the cycle of yelling, consequences, and punishments to more playfulness, joy, and laughter.
 
Special Time ebook & Tame Your Triggers Audio have both been upgraded to MELTDOWN MANAGEMENT Mini Training! Get it here → https://view.flodesk.com/pages/64406aa91df9ae473e5a55e3
 
If you are struggling to find strategies that help correct the challenging behaviors you are walking through and are ready to establish a Behavior Blueprint with a step by step plan of exactly what to do, then DM me over on IG or send me an email at kjzeiher@gmail.com and let's connect!
 
Connection Plan Template:
https://www.canva.com/design/DAE9QzzYqZY/cndv19ozvWzi1boPbUdJmw/view?utm_content=DAE9QzzYqZY&utm_campaign=designshare&utm_medium=link&utm_source=publishsharelink
 
Special time podcast episode: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/are-you-struggling-with-your-childs-behaviors-ep-1/id1609008872?i=1000550595812
 
Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/
 
XO-
Kaili
 

Is your child afraid of going to the doctor or the dentist? Is it a struggle to get them into the car or into the office to be seen? Do you find yourself hesitating or trying to decide when to tell him/her to get the least emotional response??
 
A mom messaged me with a question re: dentist/doctor visits with children and how to go about navigating the behaviors and feelings that come up. So today, I am diving all in! We are going to talk about 5 areas to focus on when preparing to bring your child to an unfamiliar place or a place that has past history creating even more fear or anxiety around the trip.
 
Special Time ebook & Tame Your Triggers Audio have both been upgraded to MELTDOWN MANAGEMENT Mini Training! Get it here → https://view.flodesk.com/pages/64406aa91df9ae473e5a55e3
 
If you are struggling to find strategies that help correct the challenging behaviors you are walking through and are ready to establish a Behavior Blueprint with a step by step plan of exactly what to do, then DM me over on IG or send me an email at kjzeiher@gmail.com and let's connect!
 
Play listening podcast episode: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/chaos-to-connected/id1609008872?i=1000552210188
 
Stay Listening podcast episode:https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/chaos-to-connected/id1609008872?i=1000554474011
 
Special time podcast episode: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/are-you-struggling-with-your-childs-behaviors-ep-1/id1609008872?i=1000550595812
 
Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/
 
XO-
Kaili
 

Do you ever feel like the whining, the back talk, the arguing is constant??
 
It can be easy to get trapped in meltdown mode, especially with full schedules and limited time left for connection.
 
Today, we are diving into 5 simple ways to pull your child out of meltdown mode and get things back on track!
 
Special Time ebook & Tame Your Triggers Audio have both been upgraded to MELTDOWN MANAGEMENT Mini Training! Get it here → https://view.flodesk.com/pages/64406aa91df9ae473e5a55e3
 
If you are struggling to find strategies that help correct the challenging behaviors you are walking through and are ready to establish a Behavior Blueprint with a step by step plan of exactly what to do, then DM me over on IG or send me an email at kjzeiher@gmail.com and let's connect!
 
Flip the switch play ideas: https://chaostoconnected.com/wp-content/uploads/2021/02/FLIPTHESWITCH.pdf
 
Play listening podcast episode: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/chaos-to-connected/id1609008872?i=1000552210188
 
Stay Listening podcast episode:https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/chaos-to-connected/id1609008872?i=1000554474011
 
Special time podcast episode: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/are-you-struggling-with-your-childs-behaviors-ep-1/id1609008872?i=1000550595812
 
Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/
 
XO-
Kaili
 

Do you find it challenging to keep your calm amongst the chaos? The constant meltdowns? The yelling? The whining? More than one child crying at a time? All the things??
 
I get it! I went through a major season of overwhelm and walked through some really challenging behaviors with my spirited child. During that time, I discovered 5 things that were game changers for me as I was sanctified over and over and grew in ways that allowed us to bust through the behaviors in a more effective way. 
 
Figure out your triggers and where they come from
Pray
Train your brain to shift perspectives
Get a listening partner
Deep breathing
 
Tune in as we dive deeper into each of these areas and help you keep your cool!
 
Special Time ebook & Tame Your Triggers Audio have both been upgraded to MELTDOWN MANAGEMENT Mini Training! Get it here → https://view.flodesk.com/pages/64406aa91df9ae473e5a55e3
 
If you are struggling to find strategies that help correct the challenging behaviors you are walking through and are ready to establish a Behavior Blueprint with a step by step plan of exactly what to do, then DM me over on IG or send me an email at kjzeiher@gmail.com and let's connect!
 
The oil that I always keep handy! Perfect for all things overwhelm and stress: https://www.doterra.com/US/en/p/adaptiv-system
 
Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/
 
Don't forget to journal or spend time this week reflecting on the behaviors that cause you to be triggered - what are the behaviors, what is going on around you (a lot of noise, busy schedule, etc), and what do you do when you're triggered (and be honest!).
Go get connected!
 
XO Kaili

Have you ever typed in a google search bar…”how do I get my child to stop crying?” or “why is my child crying so much?”
 
Today we are diving into the crying. What it means, why it’s beneficial, and how you can support your child through it to build your connection. And if you’re new, or you’ve forgotten, more connection = better behavior.
 
Here are a few key takeaways to help you understand more about your child as they work through a meltdown/tantrum/emotional expression…
Their prefrontal cortex detaches when they are upset and therefore they truly can’t rationalize with you during these times.
An emotional expression generally is a way to signal you as their caregiver that they are in need of someone to listen and support them.
An emotional expression signifies that your child feels safe to share his/her feelings with you. 
If we squash a child’s ability to express emotion we are hindering their learning process.
 
So how do you actually help through this process?? With a strategy called Stay Listening. 
 
It is very simple, but that doesn’t necessarily mean easy. Tune in as we talk more specifically about how to actually do it AND get results.
 
Special Time ebook & Tame Your Triggers Audio have both been upgraded to MELTDOWN MANAGEMENT Mini Training! Get it here → https://view.flodesk.com/pages/64406aa91df9ae473e5a55e3
 
If you are struggling to find strategies that help correct the challenging behaviors you are walking through and are ready to establish a Behavior Blueprint with a step by step plan of exactly what to do, then DM me over on IG or send me an email at kjzeiher@gmail.com and let's connect!
 
Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/
 
This week, I'm challenging you to hold back your words and simply listen during a meltdown. If you accept this challenge, I’d love to hear how it goes!
 
XO Kaili