Chaos to Connected - Helping Parents Navigate Challenging Behavior with Connection; Christian moms, behavior management, positive parenting, discipline, tantrums, aggression, biblical parenting
Do you feel like your child’s whining and tantrums are out of control? Are you wondering if what you’re seeing is actually normal? Do you feel like you are at your wits end, walking on eggshells, and/or just don’t know what to do anymore? Or maybe you feel exhausted and frustrated trying to manage your own triggers because you keep repeating the same yelling and lecturing cycle over and over again. Are you desperately trying to get your child to use a calming strategy but he/she refuses or it’s just not working? If you nodded along with any of that, you’re in the right place! Hi, I’m Kaili, pediatric occupational therapist, connection focused parent coach, and momma to 3 sweet littles. Back in 2020, I started an in-home daycare so I could stay home with my kids while making an income and let’s just say it didn’t go as planned. My oldest became very aggressive, something he had never been before. I tried all of the calming strategies and creating different spaces for him and NONE of it worked. I was really struggling because that is all I had been teaching other families to do for the last decade and to find out it wasn’t helping left me feeling even more hopeless. When I finally found the solution that transformed our family’s lives, I knew I needed to share it with other families in hopes they wouldn’t feel alone, emotionally exhausted, and spend their days wishing for naptime/bedtime like I had been. I created this podcast to give you tangible strategies to decrease your child’s behavior and also help you to learn to manage and resolve your own triggers. This podcast will help you gain more awareness and insights into child development and the root cause of your child’s behavior as well as help you break generational patterning that isn’t serving you. Inside this podcast you will find episodes filled with tips, tools, perspective shifts, and biblical truth to help you throughout your motherhood journey. Most of what I share is going to go against your natural responses and what mainstream will tell you to do, but that is because it includes what most of society is missing when they look at children and their behavior…CONNECTION. It is a vital necessity for all of us to operate out of our thinking brains and use logic, problem solving, reasoning, judgment, and impulse control, specifically when it comes to our responses and behaviors. While these strategies can be implemented for all ages, I focus primarily on 1-10 year olds since that is what I have most personal and professional experience with. If you want to stop feeling overwhelmed, stuck, and on the verge of your breaking point and truly make shifts in your parenting, your actions, thoughts, and responses, to gain more clarity, peace, and joy in your home, then let’s get to it! I know it can feel hard to step into the unknown, especially because you feel like you’ve tried it all, and honestly sometimes it feels easier to stay in a harder place because it’s familiar. But it’s not what God has for you or your child(ren). So take a minute, breathe deeply, and then join me as we jump into managing behaviors with connection! XO Kaili Connect with me: hello@kailizcoaching.com Instagram: @kaili.zeiher Join my weekly newsletter: https://chaostoconnected.myflodesk.com/cvuin24b94 Website + Coaching Opportunities: https://stan.store/KJZ112815
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6 days ago
6 days ago
Podcasts are such a wonderful, free tool to utilize for ourselves as we are trying to learn different skills or information, but it is also a great option for our kids too! Sometimes it can be hard to make sure that the information and words are kids are hearing are appropriate and fruitful so today, I wanted to share some podcasts that my kids LOVE. They enjoy listening to podcasts during quiet time, when they just need some space and/or when they are doing some quieter play like puzzles or playdoh.
Here are some of our favorites:
1. Tiny Theologians: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/tiny-theologians/id1703635148
2. VeggieTales: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/veggietales-very-veggie-silly-stories/id1624715532
3. Real Cool History for Kids: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/real-cool-history-for-kids/id1470873097
4. Car Ride Stories for Gigi Kids: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/car-ride-stories-for-gigi-kids-bible-and-christian/id1380554029
5. Nat Theo: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/nat-theo-nature-lessons-rooted-in-the-bible/id1679872468
6. Backseat Bible Nuggets: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/backseat-bible-nuggets/id1573752728
If you have any that you and your kids enjoy, I would love if you would share them with me!
email: hello@kailizcoaching.com
IG: @kaili.zeiher
7 days ago
7 days ago
I've shared my personal and professional recommendation not to use sticker/reward charts on a previous episode, but today I wanted to chat more about rewards. In this episode, we discuss:
*bribes vs rewards
*why I don't use bribes
*how I use rewards (with examples)
*how to utilize age/child appropriate expectations to decrease needing to rely on bribery or consequences to get the desired behavior
Ep 59: Have you ever wondered if a sticker chart would help "fix" your child's behavior? 4 reasons why I believe they are unnecessary and ineffective...https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/chaos-to-connected-helping-parents-navigate-challenging/id1609008872?i=1000583017029
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Connect with me through email hello@kailizcoaching.com
or by DM'ing me on IG @kaili.zeiher
Friday Nov 08, 2024
Friday Nov 08, 2024
Today, I wanted to ask you a simple question to get you thinking about where you are going to for advice and guidance first. Coaches, teachers, podcasts, books, are all great resources, but there's only One who knows exactly what you need and can guide you in the direction that's best for you and your family. I hope this message blesses you!
Connect with me via email: hello@kailizcoaching.com
or DM me over on IG @kaili.zeiher
Thursday Nov 07, 2024
Thursday Nov 07, 2024
I am a part of a few business broadcast channels on IG and I got a message a couple weeks ago talking about the bare minimum or baseline standard for what you would do each day to keep your business moving forward, for establishing a consistent foundation. I thought this was also really pertinent to managing triggers...
‘if you don’t set a baseline standard for what you’ll accept in life, you’ll find it’s easy to slip into behaviors and attitudes or a quality of life that’s far below what you deserve." Anthony Robbins
Today, I share what a baseline standard for trigger management might look like and give you some examples of how to create your own to help create a stronger foundation for maintaining your control during heated situations.
If you want to get more help with triggers, check out my Regulation Reboot class starting next week: https://stan.store/KJZ112815/p/mommy-management
Connect with me through email hello@kailizcoaching.com
or by DM'ing me on IG @kaili.zeiher
Thursday Oct 31, 2024
Thursday Oct 31, 2024
While this way of parenting has been completely transformative for me and my family in SO many ways, that doesn't mean it has always come easy. Sometimes the challenges we face can make us question if this way is really the best way. It can also be discouraging if we aren't seeing the results we are expecting at the rate at which we are expecting them.
Today, I wanted to share 5 pieces of advice I have, after practicing this style of parenting DAILY for 3 years in hopes it can be an encouragement to any mom (dad, caregiver, etc) who is either just starting or who has fallen off and wants to get back into it.
If you have any other things you'd add, I'd love if you'd share!
You can share by emailing me hello@kailizcoaching.com
or by DM'ing me on IG @kaili.zeiher
Check out the 4 part webinar coming in November to help you identify, manage, and resolve your triggers! Details here: https://stan.store/KJZ112815/p/mommy-management
Friday Oct 25, 2024
Friday Oct 25, 2024
I'm guessing you've heard people talk about and maybe even felt like you've lost yourself in motherhood. And while there can definitely be truth to that, today I want to share the perspective that we actually don't lose ourselves in motherhood. Instead, it can be the exact place where we find who we were created to be.
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Don't forget to get my Chaos to Calm: Conquering Aggressive Behavior course (currently $197) for FREE!! Here's what to do: leave a rating and review, screenshot it and email it to hello@kailizcoaching.com. That's it!
Connect with me here:
Email - hello@kailizcoaching.com
IG - @kaili.zeiher
Thursday Oct 24, 2024
Thursday Oct 24, 2024
Most of the time we address the behavior we see; it's much easier and honestly, just comes naturally.
However, if we really want to see behavior shifts we need to get to the deeper rooted issue and find out what is really going on at a heart level so we can make consistent change.
Today, I wanted to share with you a question framework that will help you do this with your child, no matter the age! Well, they do have to have fairly good communication skills.
https://www.instagram.com/the.holistic.psychologist/
(click on the post that says "notice your nervous system start to calm")
1:1 Coaching, Ask Your Question, Courses: https://stan.store/KJZ112815
Don't forget to get my Chaos to Calm: Conquering Aggressive Behavior course (currently $197) for FREE!! Here's what to do: leave a rating and review, screenshot it and email it to hello@kailizcoaching.com. That's it!
Connect with me here:
Email - hello@kailizcoaching.com
IG - @kaili.zeiher
Friday Oct 18, 2024
Friday Oct 18, 2024
Last weekend in church the pastor was talking about the 5th commandment: Honor your father and mother, that your days may be long in the land that the Lord your God is giving you.
He prompted us as parents to reflect on what we are commanding (or instructing) our kids....is it because the behavior truly needs to be corrected, a heart issue, or is it because we are getting frustrated or annoyed?
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Email - hello@kailizcoaching.com
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Thursday Oct 17, 2024
Thursday Oct 17, 2024
Do you have a child who cries frequently or who will go through days where he/she starts and stops all day long?? Then this is the episode for you!
Tune in as we chat through my favorite listening tool: Stay Listening
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Episode 20: Are you really ok with the crying? https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/chaos-to-connected-helping-parents-navigate-challenging/id1609008872?i=1000565110255
Episode 55: “I don’t want to mess up my kids.” https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/chaos-to-connected-helping-parents-navigate-challenging/id1609008872?i=1000581529227
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Connect with me here:
Email - hello@kailizcoaching.com
IG - @kaili.zeiher
Friday Oct 11, 2024
Friday Oct 11, 2024
Faith and my spiritual growth has a lot to do with how I am able to consistently incorporate this style of parenting. One of the things that has bothered me most is seeing christian influencers on IG share how this way of parenting is unbiblical. And while they, of course, are entitled to their own opinion, I think most often they don't truly understand what is behind. this way of parenting.
I have had a lot of feedback thanking me for sharing this unpopular opinion because others are feeling it too. I've also worked with several families struggling to know how faith and connected/gentle parenting all work together. So I thought it was time to create a new series on the podcast called Friday Fruit. I am going to share my personal experience with faith and parenting. **Reminder, I am not a theologian and I do not have any biblical degree. I'm just a mom who wants her kids to grow up knowing and loving the Lord all while trying my best to glorify Him in the process.
This week's episode is brought to you by Matthew 7:3
Why do you see the speck that is in your brother's eye, but do not notice the log that is in your own eye?
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Connect with me here:
Email - hello@kailizcoaching.com
IG - @kaili.zeiher
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