Chaos to Connected - Helping Parents Navigate Challenging Behavior with Connection; Christian moms, behavior management, positive parenting, discipline, tantrums, aggression, biblical parenting

4 Ways to Help You Keep Your Cool When You Get Triggered!

One of the biggest challenges I continue to hear over and over from moms is that the behavior can be a struggle, yes, but overall it's figuring out how to stay calm through that behavior that poses the biggest obstacle.
 
Today, I wanted to share some insights with you! If you are aware of what your triggers are but haven't yet processed them, or even know how to do that, I am walking you through the 4 things I have done (and still occasionally do) to help me come with more love, empathy, and understanding to those challenging and button pushing behaviors.
 
I was reading a book recently and the author talked about ruts and trenches. The ruts being our automatic responses; your reaction to your child (one you likely feel guilty or upset about later but can't seem to change). The trenches being your conscious choice to do something different. A rut is something you get stuck in but a trench is something you dig. Let's start digging those trenches!!
 
And if you want some help and encouragement along the way, join my monthly membership The Motherhood CONNECTION: https://view.flodesk.com/emails/65977fa029eaba0244c4dd66
 
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XO
Kaili

The Missing Piece When Teaching Your Child How To Use Calming Strategies To Regulate

I hosted a challenge last weekend called 3 Building Blocks to Better Behavior and it was so much fun! If you weren't able to join and you want to get the replays + resources, send me an email or DM me over on IG. Only available through January 21st!
 
Today, I wanted to share one of those trainings with you because I think it's a key factor in your child's ability to learn to self-regulate (well, they all are, but this one I think is very misunderstood). 
 
Tune in as I walk you through the progression of a child learning to regulate and how you can actually, successfully begin the process of teaching your child how to adjust his/her regulation based on state of arousal and taking into consideration his/her unique sensory preferences.
 
The Motherhood CONNECTION: a monthly membership for moms who want to break generational patterning, parent from connection, and have the support of other moms in the trenches. (first 10 receive a FREE behavior strategy call; $50 off through January 31st!) https://view.flodesk.com/emails/65977fa029eaba0244c4dd66
 
Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/ or kjzeiher@gmail.com.
 
XO
Kaili
 

Behavior Focused Goals, Habits, and Routines for a Year of More Connection, Joy, and Peace in your Home!

Happy New Year! 
 
Even though everyone is talking about goals and resolutions for the new year I do think it's a great natural time to evaluate a few things in motherhood...
 
*how do you feel like you're managing your triggers?
*are you feeling overwhelmed, emotionally exhausted, and/or struggling regularly with more frustration than enjoyment in motherhood?
*is your child struggling with behavior or attitude?
*do you feel like you are connecting regularly with your child? or is it lacking because your schedule is really busy?
*does your home feel chaotic?
*do you feel like you have good rhythms in place?
*are you regularly practicing soul care vs only selfcare?
 
Tune in today as I chat what we are going to be focusing on this year!
 
Free 3 Day Behavior Challenge: https://lively-acorn-593.myflodesk.com/v2dcr5625t
 
Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/ or kjzeiher@gmail.com.
 
XO
Kaili
 

Surviving the Holiday Hangover: 3 Strategies to Support Your Child’s Emotions Without Losing Your Mind

Do you ever feel like sometimes you'd just rather not go and do the things because you know the behavior that will happen afterwards? 
Or do you ever struggle to know what to do when your child has a tantrum in the middle of the holiday gathering?
Or do you find it really challenging to manage your child's behaviors and your responses to them when you are also overwhelmed or overtired?
Today, I talk through 3 strategies, tips, and perspective shifts you can rely on during these times of heightened excitement and stimulation to combat that holiday behavior hangover.
If you enjoyed this episode or found it helpful, I'd love if you would take a minute to leave a rating and review! 
 
3 Ways You Might Be Unintentionally Stopping Your Child From Releasing Big Feelings: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/chaos-to-connected-helping-parents-navigate-challenging/id1609008872?i=1000565110255
 
Free 3 Day Behavior Challenge: https://lively-acorn-593.myflodesk.com/v2dcr5625t
 
Chaos to Calm mini course: A Step by Step Guide to Aggressive/Physical Behaviors https://dawn-term-318.myflodesk.com
 
Schedule a behavior strategy call here: https://calendly.com/kjzeiher/behavior-call
 
Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/ or kjzeiher@gmail.com.
 
XO
Kaili
 

[SPECIAL GUEST -Part 2] Does meal planning and prep feel overwhelming?? + Navigating holiday food with kids!

Today, my chat with Maureen from Yes Peas Nutrition continues!
 
We cover:
-strategies to make meal planning and meal prep less overwhelming
-tips to encourage your child to eat a wider variety of food during your meal planning and prep
-holiday food
-navigating sugar with your child(ren) during the holidays
**and MORE!
 
Find her at: @yespeasnutrition over on IG or her website: https://www.yespeasnutrition.com/
Grab her free resource - 5 Tips for Busy Parents: Decrease Stress and Increase Family Connection When Making Meals From Home here: https://pages.maureenclilly.com/guide-1
Join her facebook group here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1088016261913914/
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Free 3 Day Behavior Challenge: https://lively-acorn-593.myflodesk.com/v2dcr5625t
 
Chaos to Calm mini course: A Step by Step Guide to Aggressive/Physical Behaviors https://dawn-term-318.myflodesk.com
 
Want to schedule an info call and see if 1:1 coaching is right for you?? https://calendly.com/kjzeiher/behavior-call
 
Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/ or kjzeiher@gmail.com.
 
XO
Kaili
 

[SPECIAL GUEST - part 1] Are you struggling with your child’s picky eating?? Here’s how to approach mealtimes with safety and connection!

Do you ever struggle with a child who refuses to eat what you've made for supper? 
Have you tried the..."eat x amount of bites before you can..." either have more of something already finished or something else entirely?
Today, I chat with Maureen, a mom and nutritionist who breaks down mealtimes for us in a way that perfectly parallels the way in which I encourage you to respond to behaviors...with safety and connection.
Tune in as she talks about the normal "picky eating" phase of development, tips and strategies to implement, and how to navigate it all while helping your child create a healthy relationship with food!
 
Find her at: @yespeasnutrition over on IG or her website: https://www.yespeasnutrition.com/
Grab her free resource - 5 Tips for Busy Parents: Decrease Stress and Increase Family Connection When Making Meals From Home here: https://pages.maureenclilly.com/guide-1
Join her facebook group here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1088016261913914/
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Chaos to Calm mini course: A Step by Step Guide to Aggressive/Physical Behaviors https://dawn-term-318.myflodesk.com
 
Want to schedule an info call and see if 1:1 coaching is right for you?? https://calendly.com/kjzeiher/behavior-call
 
Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/ or kjzeiher@gmail.com.
 
XO
Kaili
 

Elf on the Shelf: Should you do it??

Have you heard of Elf on the Shelf?? 
What am I saying? Of course you have! 
Are you currently doing it? Or Shepherd on the Search?
Last year, my thoughts were completely different so today I wanted to dive into the topic a little further.
Tune in as I share 2 things you should stay away from if you are going to participate! As well as modifications if you are needing something extra simple this year!
 
Are you using Santa to manipulate behavior? https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/chaos-to-connected-helping-parents-navigate-challenging/id1609008872?i=1000589024177
 
Google doc with ideas: https://docs.google.com/document/d/1aytCkf_KlB0i7L9RxuSfYpS_X-MiDPeI0QvOInfgAOg/edit?usp=sharing
 
Chaos to Calm mini course: https://dawn-term-318.myflodesk.com
 
Want to schedule an info call and see if 1:1 coaching is right for you?? https://calendly.com/kjzeiher/behavior-call
 
Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/ or kjzeiher@gmail.com.
 
XO
Kaili

Are you in a motherhood season that feels overwhelming? 5 tips to help!

If you're like me, you are in a current season of motherhood overwhelm; whether it's due to behaviors or life circumstances there are a few strategies I've been working on implementing that I hope will bless you too!
 
Do you have any other recommendations? Share them here: kjzeiher@gmail.com
 
Chaos to Calm mini course: https://dawn-term-318.myflodesk.com
 
Want to schedule an info call and see if 1:1 coaching is right for you?? https://calendly.com/kjzeiher/behavior-call
 
Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/ 
 
XO
Kaili

The truth about timeouts and what you can do instead!

Timeouts are such a common practice when parents are trying to get their kids to listen; I would even venture to guess it's a recommendation from professionals and something regularly talked about as a helpful behavior strategy on the internet.
 
But, did you know that sending your child off to a timeout is creating more disconnection. When there is disconnection, your child's "thinking" brain is inaccessible. This creates MORE of the unwanted behavior.
 
Instead, get CONNECTED! Connection = better behavior.
 
Tune in today as I share your child's perspective on timeouts and 2 strategies you can utilize instead that creates connection.
 
Chaos to Calm mini course: https://dawn-term-318.myflodesk.com
 
Stay Listening episode: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/chaos-to-connected-helping-parents-navigate-challenging/id1609008872?i=1000554474011
 
Are you really okay with crying episode: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/chaos-to-connected-helping-parents-navigate-challenging/id1609008872?i=1000565110255
 
Want to schedule an info call and see if 1:1 coaching is right for you?? https://calendly.com/kjzeiher/behavior-call
 
Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/ or if you'd prefer email at kjzeiher@gmail.com.
 
XO
Kaili
 

A FUN way to manage aggressive/physical behaviors!

If you need a step by step guide to (nearly) eliminating your child's aggressive/physical behaviors, check the show notes.
If you're not ready to jump all in or you don't feel like you can maintain your cool, try the strategy I share about in today's episode.
It may push you outside of your comfort zone or the societal norm for managing this kind of behavior, but I guarantee you'll get results AND it's fun! It builds connection, helps process emotions/big feelings and improves behavior!
 
Aggression Mini Course waitlist -- join waitlist and you will have the opportunity for a FREE week of voxer following purchase of the course! only available to those on the waitlist!
Add your email here:
https://lively-acorn-593.myflodesk.com/izgtp1vnyk
 
Flip the Switch Ideas: file:///Users/kailizeiher/Downloads/FLIPTHESWITCH%20(1).pdf
 
Want to schedule an info call and see if 1:1 coaching is right for you?? https://calendly.com/kjzeiher/behavior-call
 
Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/ or if you'd prefer email at kjzeiher@gmail.com.
 
XO
Kaili