Chaos to Connected - Helping Parents Navigate Challenging Behavior with Connection; Christian moms, behavior management, positive parenting, discipline, tantrums, aggression, biblical parenting
Do you feel like your child’s whining and tantrums are out of control? Are you wondering if what you’re seeing is actually normal? Do you feel like you are at your wits end, walking on eggshells, and/or just don’t know what to do anymore? Or maybe you feel exhausted and frustrated trying to manage your own triggers because you keep repeating the same yelling and lecturing cycle over and over again. Are you desperately trying to get your child to use a calming strategy but he/she refuses or it’s just not working? If you nodded along with any of that, you’re in the right place! Hi, I’m Kaili, pediatric occupational therapist, connection focused parent coach, and momma to 3 sweet littles. Back in 2020, I started an in-home daycare so I could stay home with my kids while making an income and let’s just say it didn’t go as planned. My oldest became very aggressive, something he had never been before. I tried all of the calming strategies and creating different spaces for him and NONE of it worked. I was really struggling because that is all I had been teaching other families to do for the last decade and to find out it wasn’t helping left me feeling even more hopeless. When I finally found the solution that transformed our family’s lives, I knew I needed to share it with other families in hopes they wouldn’t feel alone, emotionally exhausted, and spend their days wishing for naptime/bedtime like I had been. I created this podcast to give you tangible strategies to decrease your child’s behavior and also help you to learn to manage and resolve your own triggers. This podcast will help you gain more awareness and insights into child development and the root cause of your child’s behavior as well as help you break generational patterning that isn’t serving you. Inside this podcast you will find episodes filled with tips, tools, perspective shifts, and biblical truth to help you throughout your motherhood journey. Most of what I share is going to go against your natural responses and what mainstream will tell you to do, but that is because it includes what most of society is missing when they look at children and their behavior…CONNECTION. It is a vital necessity for all of us to operate out of our thinking brains and use logic, problem solving, reasoning, judgment, and impulse control, specifically when it comes to our responses and behaviors. While these strategies can be implemented for all ages, I focus primarily on 1-10 year olds since that is what I have most personal and professional experience with. If you want to stop feeling overwhelmed, stuck, and on the verge of your breaking point and truly make shifts in your parenting, your actions, thoughts, and responses, to gain more clarity, peace, and joy in your home, then let’s get to it! I know it can feel hard to step into the unknown, especially because you feel like you’ve tried it all, and honestly sometimes it feels easier to stay in a harder place because it’s familiar. But it’s not what God has for you or your child(ren). So take a minute, breathe deeply, and then join me as we jump into managing behaviors with connection! XO Kaili Connect with me: hello@kailizcoaching.com Instagram: @kaili.zeiher Join my weekly newsletter: https://chaostoconnected.myflodesk.com/cvuin24b94 Website + Coaching Opportunities: https://stan.store/KJZ112815
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Episodes
Friday Sep 02, 2022
Friday Sep 02, 2022
Have you ever heard the saying, "play is the work of the child"?
Play is such an important part of our jobs as parents - and one I definitely have to work at.
Join me today as I share with you one simple way to uplevel play with your child that brings more connection and laughter!
Special Time ebook & Tame Your Triggers Audio have both been upgraded to MELTDOWN MANAGEMENT Mini Training! Get it here → https://view.flodesk.com/pages/64406aa91df9ae473e5a55e3
If you are struggling to find strategies that help correct the challenging behaviors you are walking through and are ready to establish a Behavior Blueprint with a step by step plan of exactly what to do, then DM me over on IG or send me an email at kjzeiher@gmail.com and let's connect!
Special time podcast episode: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/are-you-struggling-with-your-childs-behaviors-ep-1/id1609008872?i=1000550595812
Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/
XO-
Kaili
Tuesday Aug 30, 2022
Tuesday Aug 30, 2022
Have you ever been in the middle of a conversation with your child or disciplining/training a child and suddenly they start shouting "leave me alone"...
Today, I want to offer a new perspective on what your child is actually communicating and how you can respond in a different way that builds connection, helps your child with emotional recovery, and decreases the unwanted behavior.
Special Time ebook & Tame Your Triggers Audio have both been upgraded to MELTDOWN MANAGEMENT Mini Training! Get it here → https://view.flodesk.com/pages/64406aa91df9ae473e5a55e3
If you are struggling to find strategies that help correct the challenging behaviors you are walking through and are ready to establish a Behavior Blueprint with a step by step plan of exactly what to do, then DM me over on IG or send me an email at kjzeiher@gmail.com and let's connect!
Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/
XO-
Kaili
Friday Aug 26, 2022
Friday Aug 26, 2022
Does your child have trouble separating from you? Does it take a toll on your emotions too? Are you wondering if there's actually anything you can do that will help support your child through it besides going through the same feelings of hoping it'll be different each day and then the peel off when it isn't, walking out the door leaving your child in tears? Maybe it even feels like it's getting worse...
Then join me today as I talk through 4 tips to help your child navigate separation anxiety. Just a reminder, this is part of normal child development but there are strategies you can implement that actually help your child work through these feelings of fear rather than just trying to overcome the situation with distraction.
Special Time ebook & Tame Your Triggers Audio have both been upgraded to MELTDOWN MANAGEMENT Mini Training! Get it here → https://view.flodesk.com/pages/64406aa91df9ae473e5a55e3
If you are struggling to find strategies that help correct the challenging behaviors you are walking through and are ready to establish a Behavior Blueprint with a step by step plan of exactly what to do, then DM me over on IG or send me an email at kjzeiher@gmail.com and let's connect!
Episode on Stay Listening: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/chaos-to-connected-behavior-management-parent-coach/id1609008872?i=1000554474011
Playful ways to heal separation anxiety: https://www.handinhandparenting.org/2016/01/20-playful-ways-heal-separation-anxiety/
Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/
XO-
Kaili
Tuesday Aug 23, 2022
Tuesday Aug 23, 2022
I realized last week that I've shared bits and pieces of our journey sprinkled throughout different episodes but I never really laid it all out there. So today, you're getting the full story of how Chaos to Connected came to be!
Where we started, what we walked through, and how we came out on the other side transformed, forever changed, and eternally grateful.
If you're in a tough season of motherhood, navigating challenging behaviors, and feeling like there is no hope, I want you to know that there is! I have been in exactly that place and felt like I would just have to deal with it forever. But I decided that wasn't good enough. That I didn't want the chaos and the overwhelm and the weariness to continue and I found a way out. These strategies can work for you too!
Special Time ebook & Tame Your Triggers Audio have both been upgraded to MELTDOWN MANAGEMENT Mini Training! Get it here → https://view.flodesk.com/pages/64406aa91df9ae473e5a55e3
If you are struggling to find strategies that help correct the challenging behaviors you are walking through and are ready to establish a Behavior Blueprint with a step by step plan of exactly what to do, then DM me over on IG or send me an email at kjzeiher@gmail.com and let's connect!
What your child needs instead of a calming space: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/chaos-to-connected-behavior-management-parent-coach/id1609008872?i=1000569255920
Important factors to consider when creating a calming space: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/chaos-to-connected-behavior-management-parent-coach/id1609008872?i=1000569655067
Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/
XO-
Kaili
Friday Aug 19, 2022
Friday Aug 19, 2022
For the majority of my life, I thought crying was "bad" and something to be stopped; that it was my job as a mom to make the crying go away.
But what I actually learned while on this motherhood journey...crying is a natural recovery process and it is NEEDED.
If you feel uncertain or bothered or like it is your responsibility to help stop the crying, then this episode is for you.
Does your child have difficulty crying outside of getting hurt? Does your child have a lot of behaviors or tend to want to control all of the situations? Then the topic of crying is an important one to explore further.
I also talk through some common situations that end in crying that we misunderstand as parents and perspective shifts to help you understand what's happening, prepare for it to happen in the future, and support your child on a deeper level when you encounter the same situations again.
Special Time ebook & Tame Your Triggers Audio have both been upgraded to MELTDOWN MANAGEMENT Mini Training! Get it here → https://view.flodesk.com/pages/64406aa91df9ae473e5a55e3
If you are struggling to find strategies that help correct the challenging behaviors you are walking through and are ready to establish a Behavior Blueprint with a step by step plan of exactly what to do, then DM me over on IG or send me an email at kjzeiher@gmail.com and let's connect!
Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/
XO-
Kaili
Tuesday Aug 16, 2022
Tuesday Aug 16, 2022
No matter what behavioral method, strategy, or parenting style you lean toward, so many of us choose it because it "promises" to help get rid of the behaviors.
The truth is, that's not true.
Behaviors will always be around because our children will always have feelings. They are continually developing impulse control and self-regulation skills as they grow, but these areas of the brain aren't matured until well into their twenties. It is unrealistic for us to expect our child to obey and control their impulses a majority of the time.
This connected parenting style focuses on understanding childhood development, changing our perspective, and increasing our understanding and empathy for our child and ourselves.
Join me today as I dive into the truth about connected parenting!
Special Time ebook & Tame Your Triggers Audio have both been upgraded to MELTDOWN MANAGEMENT Mini Training! Get it here → https://view.flodesk.com/pages/64406aa91df9ae473e5a55e3
If you are struggling to find strategies that help correct the challenging behaviors you are walking through and are ready to establish a Behavior Blueprint with a step by step plan of exactly what to do, then DM me over on IG or send me an email at kjzeiher@gmail.com and let's connect!
Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/
XO-
Kaili
Friday Aug 12, 2022
Friday Aug 12, 2022
Today, I wanted to take a deeper dive into what is actually happening in your child's brain when he/she is triggered/disconnected.
I also walk you through a real time experience that will allow you to gain more empathy and understanding when you are supporting your child through his/her big feelings, that sometimes also includes more challenging behavior, and will also increase your awareness of the similarities of what it's like when you are triggered.
Special Time ebook & Tame Your Triggers Audio have both been upgraded to MELTDOWN MANAGEMENT Mini Training! Get it here → https://view.flodesk.com/pages/64406aa91df9ae473e5a55e3
If you are struggling to find strategies that help correct the challenging behaviors you are walking through and are ready to establish a Behavior Blueprint with a step by step plan of exactly what to do, then DM me over on IG or send me an email at kjzeiher@gmail.com and let's connect!
Ep. 33: 3 keys to help you stay calm during difficult behavior
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/chaos-to-connected-behavior-management-parent-coach/id1609008872?i=1000570457171
Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/
XO-
Kaili
Tuesday Aug 09, 2022
Tuesday Aug 09, 2022
Join me for a Behind the Scenes look into what a Behavior Blueprint coaching session looks like. This episode is focused on fear, separation anxiety, and aggressive behavior. You will be able to see the progression of behavior and connecting the dots back to experiences that were a catalyst to some of these big feelings and expressions of hurts. You will also get to hear how simple shifts in what you say and do can make a profound impact on your child's ability to heal those hurts vs keep them contained and continue to carry them.
There is so much more to behavior than giving out punishment and utilizing manipulation strategies (that we might not even recognize we are doing) to get it to go away. This actually does the opposite of what we are trying to do and can create more of the unwanted behaviors.
Special Time ebook & Tame Your Triggers Audio have both been upgraded to MELTDOWN MANAGEMENT Mini Training! Get it here → https://view.flodesk.com/pages/64406aa91df9ae473e5a55e3
If you are struggling to find strategies that help correct the challenging behaviors you are walking through and are ready to establish a Behavior Blueprint with a step by step plan of exactly what to do, then DM me over on IG or send me an email at kjzeiher@gmail.com and let's connect!
Behavior Blueprint Live Coaching session 2 (separation anxiety): https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/chaos-to-connected-behavior-management-parent-coach/id1609008872?i=1000574771349
Behavior Blueprint Live Coaching session 1 (aggression and stay listening): https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/chaos-to-connected-behavior-management-parent-coach/id1609008872?i=1000571211679
Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/
XO-
Kaili
Friday Aug 05, 2022
Friday Aug 05, 2022
Behaviors can be challenging for a number of reasons, but I think one of the biggest reasons is that it can lead us to feel overwhelmed or exhausted which further plays into the challenge of wanting and desiring connection.
Connection is a basic necessity and is the #1 way to decrease unwanted behaviors.
Join me as I chat about how you can start connecting when it feels most challenging.
Special Time ebook & Tame Your Triggers Audio have both been upgraded to MELTDOWN MANAGEMENT Mini Training! Get it here → https://view.flodesk.com/pages/64406aa91df9ae473e5a55e3
If you are struggling to find strategies that help correct the challenging behaviors you are walking through and are ready to establish a Behavior Blueprint with a step by step plan of exactly what to do, then DM me over on IG or send me an email at kjzeiher@gmail.com and let's connect!
Behavior Blueprint Live Coaching session 2 (separation anxiety and listening partnership): https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/chaos-to-connected-behavior-management-parent-coach/id1609008872?i=1000574771349
Behavior Blueprint Live Coaching session 1 (aggression and stay listening): https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/chaos-to-connected-behavior-management-parent-coach/id1609008872?i=1000571211679
Listening partnership info video: https://www.instagram.com/tv/CNVbofOnLS2/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link
Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/
XO-
Kaili
Tuesday Aug 02, 2022
Tuesday Aug 02, 2022
Join me for a Behind the Scenes, sneak peek into what a Behavior Blueprint coaching session looks like. This episode is focused on strategies to work through separation anxiety that has resulted in intense, almost constant aggressive and impulsive behaviors.
We cover listening partnerships and more in depth about special time and how to incorporate it into a routine that doesn't feel overwhelming, while also providing the child with the connection that is needed to improve behaviors.
We also discuss what happens when you've gone through occupational therapy and participated in reflex integration as well as creating a sensory diet and the regulation still isn't where it should be.
If you've experienced any of this, you won't want to miss this episode!
Special Time ebook & Tame Your Triggers Audio have both been upgraded to MELTDOWN MANAGEMENT Mini Training! Get it here → https://view.flodesk.com/pages/64406aa91df9ae473e5a55e3
If you are struggling to find strategies that help correct the challenging behaviors you are walking through and are ready to establish a Behavior Blueprint with a step by step plan of exactly what to do, then DM me over on IG or send me an email at kjzeiher@gmail.com and let's connect!
Behavior Blueprint Live Coaching session 1 (aggression and stay listening): https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/chaos-to-connected-behavior-management-parent-coach/id1609008872?i=1000571211679
Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/
XO-
Kaili
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